No Stupid Questions

I once read a personal ad - "single white female, 8 inch clit"

We have too many labels. You're a human who knows what you like today. It's ok if something totally different floats your boat tomorrow.

Strictly speaking, that's simply bisexual. Femboys are boys. That being said, there is no "correct" answer here that anyone else can give you.

The correct label is the one that helps you navigate the world and your own needs the best. If bisexual fits, congrats, that's it. If it doesn't, it's not, and your search continues :)

Idk, sexual orientations are just labels we make up to make sense of the world.

"Femmesexual" sounds kind of cool though.

I guess you're some flavor of bisexual as you are attracted to some men (based on the femboy remark) though you've got a distinct preference for femininity even in men. If you go scrolling through old Tumblr posts long enough you'll probably find a term someone coined back in 2013 for your exact orientation... But, like, IDK man don't overthink it. If anyone asks just say whatever feels right in that moment, straight/bi/pan/whatever.

And remember saying you identify with a particular orientation isn't some huge commitment. Saying you're bi (for instance) doesn't mean you're attracted to all men, and no reasonable person would expect that. We all have preferences within our orientation.

AITA?

No. You're figuring it out. It's okay to not have all the answers

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Who cares what label people might put on it?

Just like what you like. It doesn't need a label.

What you are today is not what you'll be tomorrow. Let yourself be. You don't owe explanations to anyone about what you like.

Sexuality is a spectrum that doesn't have clean boundaries. Some people exist in an area that could be considered "straight," for example, but there aren't hard walls blocking straight people from leaving or queer people from entering.

The less you try to define your sexuality and the more you try to be comfortable with liking what you like, the happier you'll be.

Hey I've got the same preferences as you. I just go with bisexual and call it a day.

why would you be an asshole for being attracted to cock?

Too much futa hentai is my diagnosis.

Congrats! You're human.

What incredibly enough hasn't been brought up yet, is the distinction between gender preference and genital preference. In heteronormativity they're assumed to be the same, but in reality they're not. This way of thinking also lends itself to the flexibility you're describing; note the word "preference".

You get out there and suck a few girl cocks. Only then will you know the truth of your desires. I mean how bad could it be? Personally wouldn't worry about it. If the dude who's cock you're sucking thinks you're not gay then I would trust him.

The only thing I'm commenting on is the "AITA":

If anything then only for asking that question - don't be mean to yourself like that.

I personally struggled for a long time trying to find the right label for my gender and sexuality. In the end, the right label for both is "just me". Whatever I'm attracted to is what I'm attracted to. Whatever I feel like on a certain day is what gender I am. Just me doing me things

You're bi, my dude. You just said you love vaginas and cock. Case closed.

I understand your position. I feel the exact same way. I identify much like you, I am attracted to the feminine features not whatever label you have or what have been biologically created between your legs.

When I was younger I just told myself "nah I'm straight", and somewhere realized that i might be what people called "bi-curious". But after a while I realized I had no interest in masculinity or "regular" males.

Being able to detach social gender labels from biological genitalia and therefore further deepen my understanding and acceptance of trans and LGBTQ people helped me a lot with accepting myself and my preferences.

As for your question, it really doesn't matter. What matters is that you know what you like. Who you decide to spend time with or engage in sexual relations with is up to the people involved and no one else. I ultimately decided to still just call myself straight. Is it entirely correct? Maybe not, but it sure is the easiest.

Enjoy life, hook up with a femboy, get pegged or have a one night stand with a 6,8 mega masculine dude. It's up to you, the thing that matters is that you know what you enjoy.

Life is to short to put labels on dicks and vaginas. Just fuck it instead.

Who needs labels? Probably just warehouse people.

I have a friend like you. He describes himself as gynesexual. He's attracted to femininity no matter what the attached bits are.

But, as others have said, the label is really only important to you. Pick something close or make up your own.

Don’t worry about matching a label, just be what’s right for you

Your a Wizard, an Ishtar sent by the Valar.

Straight+

Straight Extra

Bi minus

Bi lite

Or just dont label it. Labels keep us in boxes and boxes cause stress when we inevitably find out we dont fit in the box.

I came up with this idea err metaphor? Thought experiment? Anyway

Think of the shape of a 6 point star. If you are star shaped you will fit perfectly, if you are triangle shaped you will also fit, or if you are diamond shaped or a circle or a hexagon or many many other shapes.

But only a star fits perfectly.

(Heres a crude drawing of it)

You can spend years in the star box thinking its a perfect fit before you realise theres something different, something not quite right and you suddenly see that you were a triangle the whole time.

Just let go of the labels and be you, its alot more spacious outside of the box, and you dont have to be a certain way to fit in.

I long ago decided that is humans aren't attracted to "male" or "female", we're attracted to "masculinity" or "femininity". Gender has nothing to do with it.

It's why, like you, I can be attracted to a feminine looking trans woman, but not a masculine looking one, or a dude.

it's why homosexuals can be masculine or feminine (bear or boujee), and be attracted to one or three other, or both.

Masculinity and feminity has nothing to do with whether one has a cock or a vagina.

Sounds like you are very similar to me and a billion or so other people. I don't see much point in creating a label for yourself in order to restrict yourself to that label. You are what you are and don't worry about it. I had a thing with a trans woman for a while and now I'm happily married with kids. Whatever I am has never had a negative affect on my life because I don't worry about what I am.

Humans aren't attracted only to genitalia since that shit is hard to see from afar, evolutionarily it makes sense we'd find secondary sexual characteristics attractive also, overall body shapes, hair, skin etc.

So you don't like penises per se, you like penises when attached to otherwise people who tick those feminine boxes you care about whether they be trans or just crossdressers.

That's actually really common I find because almost every single man I dated gave that same take, they all considered themselves straight and were never with a trans woman before me.

I'd say you're pretty much just straight with a specific penis fetish, even bi people IRL generally date people who are all the way masc and all the way fem.

Not to gatekeep being bi though if that's what you feel more comfortable with - go for it.

Otherwise just love who you love and move on with it.

I'm very tired and I misread the title to say you like to cook, so I was going to suggest you're a foodsexual

You may be finsexual:

https://queerdom.fandom.com/wiki/Finsexual

Basically, finsexuals are attracted to feminine presenting people independent of sex or gender. If I understood you correctly, its the feminine presentation that appeals to you?

Seems to me you are attracted to feminine genders. Assuming you are male I’d say your sexual orientation is pretty straight.

You dont habe to be attracted to all genders the same way to be BI. You can have a preference or stronger attraction to certain genders and presentations. If you think that some non-binary people and fem-boys are attractive then ur probably Bi

My personal preference of naughty bits is Boobs, Cock, Woman-Ass, Man-ass, and Pussy. (Most attractive to least). I'm also theoretically attracted to pretty much anyone but emotional bonds really get my motor running.

I just say I'm Pan and leave it at that - labels rarely fit precisely.

That's called bisexual, it's not all black and white, it's more of a rainbow gradient of sexuality.