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mine, iโ€™ve been dating for a year but met him 3 years ago.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I've been with my current computer for over a year now.

[โ€“] sbv 11 points 2 weeks ago

Over 20 years. We probably met through mutual acquaintances 30ish years ago, but that is lost to the mists of time.

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Dated for 4 years. Been married for 45 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago

Married my high school sweetheart after 7 years and this year we are having 21 anniversary, so 28 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago

Met in 1986. Began dating in 1989. Married in 1994.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I think maybe around 1990-91. She was a good friend's little sister's best friend. Go married in 97.

ps. I think @[email protected] are showing our age just a little

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

We're not old, we're experienced. I love that I lived a 'be home by dark' childhood without a microchip.

[โ€“] timmytbt 6 points 2 weeks ago

30 years. Been married for 22.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Known 35 years next month. Married 35 years in November.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

35 years too! Dated for 25.0 years, married for 9.6 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Not like in my case. I joke that Stockholm Syndrome takes time ;-)

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

I met him when I was 16, dated him for 6 years, and have been married to him for just about 50 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

I met her end of 2020 and we stated dating on the spot while I was on a business trip to South Korea during the pandemic.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

I met her just before May Day in 2009. Two days later we were going steady. Three months after that, engaged. A year after we met I moved in with her and a year after she proposed we were married. Well, church married.

We were protesting for marriage equality and refused to file a marriage certificate until it was the law of the land; but we had kids before that happened and then we got busy and we didn't actually get around to that part until the pandemic lockdowns. So ten years after we got married we turned in our marriage license.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

21 years ago, married for 13 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

11 years together, married for 5, poly for 8. Met when we were 18, first day of university.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

About 40 years. We met for real when she was in 9th grade and I was in 10th grade. We started dating when she was 15 and I was 16. We got married 32 years ago.

Edit: Since it looks like we're the oldest couple in the thread so far: first date was October 5, 1986.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

I think @[email protected] has you beat with ~49 years

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

First date: Nov 2007 Married: August 2012

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

Together for 10 years, known for 25 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

Since 2020, we started dating two years later. We're married now :)

[โ€“] Bronzie 3 points 2 weeks ago

7 years have flown by. Not married but with kids.

[โ€“] southsamurai 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Ahhhh, I'm old, so don't hold me to the exact year or anything, but fifteen years? Ish?

We knew each other before we were friends, so the exact year is kinda nebulous in my head

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

That's similar to what I was considering saying - my wife and I disagree whether we met when I was 22 or 23 and all the services we used to talk back then (IRC server, Skype, AIM) are gone, so there are no easily accessible records.

That said, I'm about to turn 38, so also fifteenish years is how long I've known her. We got married about seven years after that.

[โ€“] southsamurai 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I really wish there had been a way to export all the teamspeak records, because we were cracking each other up left and right.

I did go through and copy/paste some of the Skype conversations, but that was just for some of the silly poetry and such that I wrote to her, and after I put it into a .doc file, I cleaned it up, and I can't remember if any of it had dates listed if I hadn't.

This is why people keep diaries lol.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I agree with you ... But the contention mentioned above is mostly just a joke between us now. The good news is that I plan to be with her the rest of my life and die before she does, so how long we've been together is less of a concern to me than how long we will be!

[โ€“] southsamurai 1 points 2 weeks ago

Amen to that :)

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

15 years.

Dated. Broke up. Dated again a few years later. Moved in together. Bought a house and had kids.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

Together for 14 years. Known each other for 24 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

9 years and a bit today, and we got married in January. And it's not like I wanted us to wait for it, it's just that I spent the first half of the relationship engaged in military service (they don't let you get married in the first 5 years where I was). God's great! ๐Ÿ˜

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

8.5 years. Coworkers for years, then decided to give it a try 3 years ago.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

Well over a decade now, married for about 10 years.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

15 years or so, we only got together about four years ago. In the mean time we hated each other for a while due to misunderstandings, but now we're beyond awesome together

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

Known him? About 20 ish years maybe closer to 25. I met him playing tabletop rpgs. Boyfriend at the time dumped me, he asked me out a bit after that. It's been almost 20 years now.