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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

I feel like this is a good read of the situation. Chalk it up to a missed social cue and file it away as a learning. For what it's worth, lots of people (autistic and not) have difficulty navigating this type of situation, particularly when in their teen years.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This sounds kinda lame, but I create a list of things that absolutely must be done that day to stay on track with my projects. I leave when I'm done (early if I'm fast, late if I'm slow). It creates motivation to do my work efficiently and effectively (don't want to have to redo anything tomorrow!).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Oh, that's interesting. Could be a family thing. Could also be just a good host thing.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Is that even an option? I do not currently, but it seems like a good n thing to enable on your spouse's phone...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Kudos for weaving in the toxic trait of infantilizing women.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

I think the first trait is worse than the second. Waiting to do a chore knowing (1) it needs to be done, and (2) the other person will do it if you hold out long enough is such a jerk move. Although the second isn't awesome either. I think it is safe to say, don't do either of these things.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Agree about it not always being explicitly thought about. Weaponed also seemed to imply some sort of thought to me, but I couldn't land on a good word.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 4 days ago (8 children)

"Guys don't give a fuck."

That's it. That's the toxic trait right there.

[–] [email protected] 53 points 4 days ago (16 children)

Not a guy, but the one that really gets me is willfully incompetence - particularly around household or family chores (and the mental load associated with them).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Nevermind the ordering and triangle shaped bread. What the f*** is the white stuff?!? Absolutely nothing on a PB&J should be white.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

So I know it is just semantics, but for some reason I don't label your description as a "woke mob" but rather just decent humans.

Yet, I do have an image of "woke mob" that is full of college-aged people who haven't experienced any adversity, but have a desire to make a mark on the world and have chosen a really irritating way to do it. And unfortunately that very small segment of the population gives the right something to latch onto that demonstrates how unhinged the left is (even though the left is how you describe it).

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

I have an under desk treadmill and it is easily the best investment I've made for my fitness.

 

My son (10 yo) has a few very strong interests that he talks about pretty much nonstop. We haven't discouraged any kind of talking because he was quite delayed. However it has come to my attention that his narrow focus on these topics can annoy his peers at school. I don't want him to feel ashamed about his interests, but I also don't want him to be ostracized at school. I'd really appreciate any thoughts this group may have on how to handle (or not) this situation. TIA!

 
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