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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Just about every single attempt to self-terminate stems from a systemic flaw or imbalance in the fragile human form. Pretty much always treatable. What seems logical now might seem silly later. Don't let irrational mentality run your life or your death.

Also, there are people who oppose you. Fuck those people. Your life ending would benefit them, therefor you can never die.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

Spite, that's what your enemy's want. Don't give them the fucking satisfaction!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

A good cup of coffee.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

Because we need you to help make world a better place to live.

Plus you'll miss cat videos.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

all the meals you'll miss.

all the movies you won't see.

all the porn you'll miss.

all the awkward conversations you won't start on purpose with people stuck in really long elevator rides.

all the banks you won't rob.

all the people you'll never flip off for cutting you off.

all the drugs you won't take.

all the reasons. life is wide and varied, tired of how your life is? be brave, get creative. but most of all

have fun.

edit: best elevator story I have. I was riding up a slow asf elevator at a friends apartment and this middle aged woman and her little poodle got on with me. she was making small talk with me and I asked her what breed her dog was. Some kind of poodle mini mix idk. I seriously looked up at her and told her when I lived in Vietnam my neighbors served me poodle. the taste was amazing, it practically melted in my mouth and went really well with the broth they had.

the look on her face was....disturbed. once I was done explaining the succulent meal she called me disgusting. I asked her why, everyone has had noodles at some point. she stood there, dumbfounded and said nothing to me before I got off.

awkward situations are like...the best to get you out of a negative space.

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm not going to pretend it's a good answer because it cuts in many directions, but the following has been my thinking on this:

Because if you have nothing to live for, you have nothing holding you back from taking massive risks. Take the massive risk over your own life. Suicide can come later, once you've done something risky and cool first that requires a meatsuit. As far as we know you only get one of those, and there's far more than you might think that only requires one of 'em and infinite risk tolerance.

Not comfortable with the risk? Why, if you have nothing to live for? Tease that out and you can work in the other direction.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Oh so I should rob a bank first?

🙃

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls 12 points 2 days ago

Rob a bank, stowaway on a container ship, free climb a mountain or skyscraper, take out a bunch of loans and spend it on whatever, scam a bunch of dangerous people, the sky's the limit. I'd actually say think bigger.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

I actually do support the idea that we have a right to end our lives on our own terms.

But, I would say to anyone asking this question that there is so much good left undone in the world that they could make happen.

If you can, don’t end your life. Donate it.

[–] Boozilla 7 points 1 day ago

My pets depend on me and I love them.

[–] [email protected] 90 points 3 days ago (6 children)

You can always end it later, so stick around a little longer and see how things play out.

[–] [email protected] 45 points 2 days ago

Weaponized procrastination, I like it

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

This is my excuse. I can die any day I want, but I can't play the new warframe update after I die so I'll just put that off.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago

Everything ends and everything changes.

Might as well see what will come your way.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

If you take your own life, things will never get better. It's not going to be all sunshine and rainbows if you don't, but it can get better. Ending your life removes all possibility of any good thing ever happening. But you'll never find out if you're not here to see it.

It's a dark take to have, but it's just not worth it to cut the wire here. It can be hard, and things may seem bleak, but as long as you're still here, there's still a chance for life to get better, it often does, and it's a chance worth fighting for.

It's easy to be caught in the here and now, but you can't predict the future even if it feels like it. Take the time you've been given and use it. All ending your life will do is end the chance for better things.

The other thing is it's not a release. Religion or not, whatever your beliefs, there's no sudden wave of freedom, or drop of stress. Overwhelmingly reports of someone who attempted or was brought back end with them regretting it or not wanting to give up at the last second.

Life is precious, not because it's good or because there's some holy significance to it, but because you only get to do it once. You can fall in love again, find friends again, join communities, see the sun, help the world, help your neighbors, play video games, whatever. You can always do those again.

But you only get to live this life one time. Fill out that story until you run out of pages. Don't leave the book half finished. If you're alive, there's hope.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Baked goods

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

There are so many ways to be a hero for those around you. Why end your life when you could dedicate your life to help those in need? When you feel at your lowest, remember that there is someone, right now, who wants to know and believe in you and who hopes that you could do your very best to help them and others.

This is intended to be motivating. Instead of leaving a hole in the world, you could become a role model for others.

[–] neidu3 41 points 3 days ago
[–] [email protected] 38 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Food tastes good

Sunsets are awesome

Some people are worth being around

You might mess up the attempt and end up worse off than you are now

Religion might be right and you end up in the bad place

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 2 days ago (2 children)

this is what your enemies would like to see. don't have enemies? make some

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago

And make sure you're alive long enough to spit on their graves.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Simple: death will come, it is a guarantee you get by being born. So, unless your life is hell (diseases can do that easily, including mental ones) and it clearly won't end (or anyway not before you become broken beyond repair), why not see some life before it ends

[–] jubilationtcornpone 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I can think of two reasons.

First reason: because things can and probably will get much better. Joy in life comes from the little things. That sounds cliche but it's true. If I could talk to my 14 year old self, who was severely depressed to the point of trying (and thankfully failing) to take his own life, I would tell him about the next 20-ish years. Even though much of it will be hard, it will still be good. And he will grow in ways and get to experience things that he can't even begin to imagine. That's one thing I'm glad he failed at.

Second reason: because believe it or not, you will leave a giant crater in the life of someone (or multiple someones) where you once existed. My great grandpa hung himself in 1929. That's all I know about him aside from his name. I never met my grandpa (died of cancer) but I remember my dad telling me a little about the impact it had on his dad, who was about 15 at the time of his father suicide. Long story short, my grandpa basically stopped growing emotionally at 15. He was a teenager who was very suddenly thrust into the role of an adult.

I don't know what was going on with my great grandpa that led him to take his own life. I do know that what he left behind was a disaster. Including three generations of trauma, manifesting itself as a cycle of physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. He effectively destroyed his children who proceeded to pass that destruction all the way down to me.

If you've never watched Ted Lasso which I highly recommend, one of overarching themes is Ted's difficulty dealing with his father's suicide, which occured when Ted was 15. It's a light hearted show overall but there are a few scenes that really hit right in the feels.

Even if you don't have kids, there are people who's lives will be permanently altered for the worse by your untimely death. Some will blame themselves, wondering what they could have done to prevent it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Science, pancakes, art, philosophy, cats.

[–] Noel_Skum 13 points 2 days ago

Life is the only thing a human is guaranteed to have - and, as far as I’m concerned, we only get it once. To finish it early seems a terrible waste. It’s the only thing we’ll ever get to do. Might as well give it a bit of a go… it’s not like it goes on for ever, anyway.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My partner and dog would be sad.

I don't have nearly enough credit card debt to annoy the cc companies when I die

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Yeah, the biggest 3 links to meaning are our social connections. Children, partner, and pets. Close family/cherished friend can replace one of the three.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

My mother would be truly devestated, and I don't trust people to take care of my cat the way I want.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

I don't know any

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

For me it's new Silent Hill games. Also the hope that one day i'll have friends and a partner. It might help if I left the house. Anyway, at the very least don't give up before you've really tried. Maybe I'm projecting but I hope this helps. Please don't kill yourself if you're thinking about it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

I think my baseline for existence would be continuous pain and immobility so as long as I'm doing better than that I'm in the + column for remaining alive and embodied. I can walk, read, eat and drink, fuck, work, hear, see (kind of), touch things, listen to music, dance... Not gonna be able to do any of that without a body. So in the selfish way, I want to be alive to enjoy all that, it's well worth the pain of existence to me.

In the unselfish way, I know the difference between losing an old relative to old age, and a younger relative to suicide. The former doesn't hurt, you know they got a good run, can celebrate their life. The latter can really shatter the lives of everyone close to you, in a way that causes grief so lasting and physically and emotionally damaging. I wouldn't do that to anyone.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

Because I want to outlive my enemies.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

there might be some media that'll come out that you're super into. Or like, you might see a friendly dog outside

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

Good things can't happen anymore. You might also say that bad things can't happen either, but if it's over then there's no opportunity at all. Life can change as long as it's there.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Life is experienced only by those who live it. The thing that keeps me not going through with it, is literally FOMO. As much as life is filled with things that suck, and things that I hate, I know there is the very real possibility that something new will come along that I will have regretted not getting to experience.

When I remember the things that I have experienced since the time I tried to kill myself I'm high school, I am glad I didn't. I would've regretted not making the new friends I did, and meeting the love of my life, and all of the the great times I've had, even though the shitty times that drove me to the edge, still persisted.

When I remember the things that I have experienced since the time I tried to kill myself in college, I am glad I didn't. I would've seriously regretted missing out on the freedom of independent living, and the parties with friends, and precious memories I've made in that time.

When I remembered the time I tried to kill myself after loosing my 3rd job in a row, and hanging on the edge of poverty for just one too many times, I'm glad I didn't. I would of seriously regretted missing out on buying my first house, and never getting to meet my baby girls.

When I think now, that life is shit, and not worth continuing, I remember those past times and know that it was impossible to know what could've been ahead of me, and how glad I am I stuck around to find out. So I keep on struggling through, because I know that there's bound to be some unkown thing, at some unknown time, that I will definitely want to be around to see.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Losing someone to suicide sucks. I'm willing to bet there is at least one person in your life who would be sad (or perhaps devastated) if you suddenly died. Even if it means continuing on while unhappy, don't put that person through such an ordeal.

Depression is a temporary condition. It feels like it'll last forever and that life can never go back to the way it was, but that's not true. It might change you, and that change might be for the worse, but you can escape it. You can. It's hard, but it'll be worth once you're on the other side.

Start by seeking professional help. There are affordable (and, depending on your area, perhaps free) options out there. Then, change how your mind thinks. Don't let those thoughts rule you. Fight them! You can do it!

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My apartment will fine me if I don't bring the trash cans back inside before 9PM, so I gotta be alive for that.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

I just want to lose my virginity... lmao. And then next best thing would be to have an actual relationship with someone instead of the abusive one I have with my alone time hand.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

¡Think of the society that would crumble if everyone that was an impoverished wage slave ended their life! If even so much as a third to a fifth of the world's population did it, everything would be ripping apart at the seams pretty quick.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

My best friend ended his life nearly tw o years ago. I am still mournig and feel like I will never get over it. I cry at least once a week.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Life ist the only dramedy about you you'll ever have, so might as well experience that and with a little bit of Yolo attitude!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

A lot of life is about perspective. I have a checklist, of things that make life worth it for me. They're gonna vary from person to person, obviously, but when I get super depressed, I go through my checklist in my head. I have cats that depend on me and I value their wellbeing. I have relationships with people I care about and want to see. (and kids I want to see grow up) There's still things I want to learn, places I want to see, and things I want to do. Small things, too, like wanting to see the end of a show or enjoy a favorite food. Life has it's hardships, but it also has a lot of things we get to enjoy - and I want to be strong enough to live through the hardships to enjoy the good things. Idk man it all probably sounds kind of cheesy, but watching the sunset brings me a lot of joy. Life doesn't have to be perfect to be worth living.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

I get to pet dog

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

You can't piss off the haters if you're dead.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Furry blankets. Great advances have been made in blanket technology in the past few years. Buy a couple synthetic microplush blankets that feel like rabbit fur and cocoon yourself in them. Always helps me. Even if that doesn't work for you, have hope! There is the hope that blankets may be even softer in the future.

Also, have you tried mushrooms?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago

If you die there is no chance at things getting better in your life here.

If you are alive even if that chance is small there is a chance at things getting better.

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