Ask Lemmy

Break up!

Grab a brush and put a little make up!

"Guys I just hooked up my new set of 5.1 speakers and I'm getting a little buzzing in the subwoofer I can't track down, what do I do?"

"You should break up, he's totally cheating on you."

I mean it's always worked for me. Debt can be easily ignored in the United States, and I've gotten by just fine without ever opening a line of credit. I always pay cash for everything, including vehicles, and we used the girlfriend's credit to get a house so it's all turkey and gravy. Even then I could always just rent through private landlords like I always have.

Karma in the west is grossly misunderstood anyway. pisses me off

Thank gawwd the pedos and psychos will be punished in the afterlife.

Being stuck because of worrying and overthinking is not a good place. Calls to action are the only way to improve the situation.

Some of them are good advise, but like any advise take it with a grain of salt and get to the core of the advise and that is what often goes missing.

Yolo is a good thing/example if we are talking about life experiences and just experiencing them. But that doesnt mean you should jump of a bridge without any safety cords or doing coke everything for the kicks haha.
It essientially means that if you can, do something new (safely) so you enjoy life instead of only living it.

Same holds for the other examples you gave.

For anyone here who doesn't understand why this is bad advice, it's because income tax increases only apply to income made above that threshold.

Let's do a simple example and pretend there's only 2 tax brackets. From 0-50k tax is 10% and over 50k it's 20%.

If you make exactly 50k your tax burden will be 5k and you'll take home 45k a year.

If you get a 1k raise, only the final thousand is taxed at the higher rate, so your tax burden will be 5200 (10% of the first 50k and 20% of the remainder), and you'll take home 45,800 a year.

So even though you change tax brackets, you still make more money.

In the UK there is a point between 100 and 125k where the tax levels of being in that region make it more financially prudent to do pension salary sacrifice or a similar scheme. You should still take the pay rise obviously.

Edit: To illustrate it I think the marginal tax rate jumos to ~60% or something like that between 100-124k. but then moves back down to 47% after you earn over 125k for some reason.

The same people who think they pay federal tax dollars cause they never realize they get it all back and then some.

I'd say about 20% of people I encounter, including people in my immediate family, still believe this.

My uncle believes this and has made life decisions based on it ... but has a financial advisor. So either that advisor sucks or he hasn't actually discussed finances with them.

You still need to follow your society's expected behaviors. Like showering or wearing shoes in public venues.

A big problem is people not picking up certain queues and being ostracized then continuing to follow "be yourself." It's a downward spiral.

1. Learn to fit in
2. Learn when and where "rules" can be bent/broken
3. Then be yourself

"Fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are." -Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

This also depends on the society you are living in. Good luck with "being yourself" in north korea, or even any east asian countries.

The retort to that is, “be yourself, unless you’re and arsehole, then be someone else”

All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn't require losing their individuality.

Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don't understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.

I can't imagine any relationship working without some degree of compromise. But as to the other part of your comment, I've found The One several times in my life. They were right at the time, there was a deep connection, and later, things changed. But it was real and I don't regret a minute of any of those times.

"God will bring the right person into your life"

I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don't even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don't understand.

I guess maybe if it's the pizza delivery guy or something...