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What are some poor pieces of advice for life? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 4 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Quitting jobs

Everyone has a job they don't like and whenever someone complains about the job that they do, there's always are going to be handfuls of people saying "QUIT UR JOB!" not really caring about whether it'll benefit the complainer or not.

Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets. No savings. No jobs lined up. Nothing planned. You are putting yourself back to a place of uncertainty and it's not pleasant when that countdown starts. That countdown is tied to how much you have left to cover your expenses fully until you get another job and how long those expenses will pile up.

Because all it takes is one or two missed paychecks to upset your financial stability and the system you've made in how you pay for things.

For some people, unfortunately, quitting jobs is not as simple of an option. People are just jammed into where they are because their job market is poor or it's highly competitive even when they went to college for that job.

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[–] [email protected] 53 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You have one soul mate out there. One true love. One person, so you better compromise to make sure it works. Especially when the alleged "one" is telling you to comply. That way lies abuse.

[–] AlecSadler 22 points 3 days ago (2 children)

"God will bring the right person into your life"

I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don't even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don't understand.

I guess maybe if it's the pizza delivery guy or something...

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

I guess maybe if it’s the pizza delivery guy or something…

I recall having seen documentary films about that phenomenon.

[–] jubilationtcornpone 10 points 3 days ago

"I've sent Bill, who's a really great guy btw, back to Home Depot three times to buy a part that he already has two of at home but your dumb ass just sits on the couch every night instead of thinking 'gee, I should probably repaint my hideous living room.' But you know what? It's fine. Bill deserves someone who will actually take some initiative instead of sitting there binging Grey's Anatomy every night like 'GoD wIlL bRiNg ThE rIgHt PeRsOn InTo My LiFe'. --God (Probably)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

I can't imagine any relationship working without some degree of compromise. But as to the other part of your comment, I've found The One several times in my life. They were right at the time, there was a deep connection, and later, things changed. But it was real and I don't regret a minute of any of those times.