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My sister is 23 and still dresses up and goes out knocking doors for candy... and I find it weird but I let her do her. It got me thinking, at what age do you think someone should stop Trick r Treating at? Just curious.

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[–] [email protected] 118 points 9 months ago (1 children)

When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.

  • C.S. Lewis

Good on your sister for not losing track of what makes her happy. Not doing things just because they are "childish" is the most childish trait an adult can display.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 9 months ago (3 children)

THATS the rest of the quote!!?! Ha. Man I’ve always just heard it stop at “ childish things”. Makes more sense now

[–] savedbythezsh 22 points 9 months ago

Actually no, Lewis is parodying the Bible: https://www.biblehub.com/1_corinthians/13-11.htm

The Bible quote does say that, but he's poking fun at it by saying "why so serious?"

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[–] [email protected] 88 points 9 months ago (3 children)

The rule is, if you dress up you get candy. I don't care how old you are, but you have to be dressed up.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I always end up over buying and want that candy GONE! No age restrictions for me either.

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[–] [email protected] 68 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I hate the idea that older kids shouldn't do it. Like I remember getting shit when I decided to be kid-like again at 15 after not having done it when I was 13 and 14.

Houses told me I was too old. And looking back now, as a parent of teens, and I wish they and their friends were just going out trick r treating. I will definitely encourage any kid I see. And at my age anyone under 26 is a kid, easily. I'd much rather kids do something communal and fun than just go out drinking. I'm sure that by the next Halloween when I was 16 I was probably doing something less good than asking for free candy.

If we want people to be communal, have fun, and be safe then we shouldn't give them shit when they do that. So I don't care if the old dude down the streets dons a skeleton costume and grabs a pillow case. If he has a costume, he gets candy. And anyone who tells me different will get called out for being a killjoy.

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[–] [email protected] 61 points 9 months ago

As long as you're wearing a costume, I don't care how old you are. You'll get a treat.

[–] [email protected] 57 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I’d be super happy with no upper limit on age.

What I definitely have is an attitude limit; I loathe it when sullen teenagers knock the door, mutter “trckotrt”, no dress up except someone has drawn a tear on their face and then grabs five portions of candy and just dashes out.

Like, you can be fucking 40 for all I care, but you squeal “triiick of treaaaat”, then I say “wow, aren’t your costumes great” and offer the bowl up. You then grab one large or a couple of small things, say thank you and walk off excitedly.

The requirement for me is that you look like you’re enjoying it. Otherwise, why am I opening the door to strangers and offering them sweets?

[–] [email protected] 22 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This.

As you age, trick or treat should be more like wasseling, where we wander the local hood, check in the people we should see more often, share candy back and forth and agree that Mr Stewart in #10 is a bit of a dick.

It should keep a more social aspect with less candy as we mature as social adults. Parents should take older kids to mature them a bit.

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[–] [email protected] 53 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I give candy to parents with costumes. Knock on my door, say trick or treat, and you get candy. Them's the rules.

I also give adults I know beer or seltzer.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 9 months ago

If you don't give a treat, you risk getting tricked.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If it makes her happy, why do you care? I assume that most people do "childish" things despite their age because it makes them happy.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

She can do her, and I am happy for her. I'm just curious what other people's opinions are is all?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Honestly? I wouldn't care about age. Just tell her not to destroy other people's property by doing the "trick".

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago (2 children)

All the thirty five year olds giving her candy probably think it's funny

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 9 months ago (1 children)

There's no age limit. Adulthood isn't about not being whimsical it's about being whimsical and not caring that losers are judging you for being happy

[–] [email protected] 15 points 9 months ago (1 children)

It's better that teenagers are out collecting candy and not committing mischief.

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[–] southsamurai 36 points 9 months ago (5 children)

Okay, rant time. If you don't like rants, skip this comment.

Listen motherfuckers, Halloween isn't about candy. The fact that the candy has become the point is a fucking problem.

We've lost the social cohesion, the sense of community, and even the superstitions that made Halloween such a popular holiday.

And that fucking sucks.

Nobody really believes we're scaring off bad spirits any more, but we could at least celebrate the weird, the scary, and just spend one night a year dressing up for fun.

Fuck the candy. The only reason we have to give out candy is because assholes fucked up being able to give out home made treats. Man, did any of y'all have the fucking awesomeness of getting candy coated apples, or home made fudge, or wax paper wrapped cookies? Or anything but the sugar bombs in a bag you buy? But no, some assholes had to fuck around and break the ability to trust the social contract of Halloween.

Shit, I'm the only asshole in my entire town baking and making things today. Why? Because I'm the only idiot willing to put up a sign on my door "home made treats available on request by adults". Which means I'm the only house on the fucking street that has cars pulling up with kids in them, accompanied by adults. Parents don't let kids walk the streets on Halloween any more because humans are fucking horrible and can't be trusted not to mess with kids. So that means nobody even fucking bothers to hand out anything, they all go to fucking trunk and treat shit, which ends up being about the fucking candy instead of having fun because a bunch of people in parking lots isn't a community.

Fuck. Fuck the assholes that ruined Halloween and turned it into a day for fucking candy.

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 9 months ago

If someone has the confidence to dress up and ring my doorbell, they’re getting candy and positive vibes from me.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 9 months ago (2 children)

No age limit in this household. I'd say "just show up with a bag," but I just gave treats so some 4yo with no bag. If an adult asked? They'd get them.

I just want to be kind. I wasn't allowed to trick or treat as a kid. I did as a teen, and you know what? Nobody cared how old our group was. We got candy like the rest of them. God bless those neighbors.

And God bless Halloween.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Age limitation on trick-or-treaters is an inherently fascist concept and will be trashed when the revolution happens.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 9 months ago

I stopped at 14. At 23 it’s definitely weird, but whatever. I think it’s unfortunate that our culture shames adults for partaking in controlled mischief aspects of holidays and other such fun holiday traditions.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I think your Senior year of high school oughta be the cutoff, but I don't have any issues with college students trick or treating, so I think 23 or so would be my candy refusal threshold. This actually reminds me of a story I read a long time ago:

It's Halloween and there's a knock on the door, nothing out of the ordinary, and the person got up and went to the door. When they opened it, they found another door and doorframe up against their door, which read "Please knock for candy", they knocked and were offered candy by some college students who were carrying an entire door and frame around for this bit. I believe it ended with the homeowner refusing candy and giving the college students candy.

So yeah, I need to add an exception to my Halloween code of ethics: An awesome costume / gag can make up for any age.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 9 months ago

No age limit but costume required. At least put on your sister's makeup or brothers overalls or saggy jeans, something. I have turned away kids without costumes but will candy anyone of any age who makes even the weakest attempt at a costume.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 9 months ago (4 children)

It's an arbitrary cultural custom, with even more arbitrary expectations for who's included. I find it weird when a grown-up comes to your door and it straight up makes certain people angry, but there's no logical reason why it's bad.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 9 months ago (2 children)

How generous of you.

but I let her do it.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Pretty sure they mean they leave their sister to do as she pleases, and not shaming her for it.

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[–] Immersive_Matthew 26 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Any age that makes the effort to dress up and have fun. If you are not ok with that you need to ask yourself what killed your inner child?

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

There's no age limit.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 15 points 9 months ago

I just assumed that was them leaving off, "without giving her a bunch of shit."

Bullying your siblings isn't just a right but your social obligation sometimes!

[–] tyrefyre 23 points 9 months ago

Like I don’t give a shit how old someone is. If you show up in a costume I’m giving you candy. No matter the age. I don’t know why you’d care what she’s doing, how is it hurting you or anyone else?

[–] [email protected] 22 points 9 months ago

None.

Halloween isn't really a thing here, but last year the elderly home organized a Trick or Treating event where everyone was invited, but it was mainly setup to give the elderly a fun activity.

I don't think I've ever seen people enjoy dressing up for Halloween as much as they did.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If it's the end of the evening and you're 47 with no costume and driving a beatup Civic, I'll happily dump candy in your backpack so that I don't have it sitting at home tempting me to eat it.

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[–] Gallardo994 21 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Probably around 90. Might have a hard time after that

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 9 months ago (3 children)

If you show up to my house in a costume, you're getting candy at any age.

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[–] QTpi 18 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I love the tradition of trick or treating in the neighborhood. I hate that it is dying in some communities (instead going to malls, trunk or treat etc). I happily give candy to anyone who knocks on the door and I don't care how old they are or if it's "late". It's a fun time for everyone.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I feel like there's no age where dressing up and knocking on doors becomes inappropriate. It's fun, it can increase social cohesion in a community, there's no reason for adults not to be a little silly, yadda yadda. Already now it's perfectly acceptable for an adult attending trick-or-treating children to dress up as well, but I think adults alone or in adult groups should be allowed to dress up as well.

But then there's the "asking for candy" part... Now I don't think there's any age where people should stop eating candy, either — but when you have the ability to easily buy (or even make) your own candy, then maybe it'd be a better idea to start giving out your candy to the houses you knock on, if you still want to go out in costume.

I dunno, just a thought. I wouldn't tell your sister to stop, though. We're all a little weird at the end of the day.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 9 months ago (1 children)

No age limit, you could literally be 80 at my door in a walker and you'd still get candy.

It's not like Candy is a valuable resource, if they want to dress up to get some M&M's then more power to them.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 9 months ago

I used to think there should be an age limit, I think i officially stopped trick or treating at like 13 or 14. I live Halloween though and always did so I dressed up and trotted around with my little siblings to help keep an eye and make sure they were safe and didn't get too scared because we did have a few houses that often provided "tricks" with their treats.

Most of the adults tied to give me candy too even though I wasn't carrying a bag, some flat out refused my attempt at just saying I was chaperoning and not trick or treating. Got told by a few that I dressed up and that's the rules, I got candy without trying just because I wanted to have fun and spend time with my siblings.

I remember a few people giving my dad candy when he took me as a kid because he always dressed up with us. He even stayed back on the walk way as we walked up to the house and the old guy giving out candy yelled out "Hey Wolfman!" my dad looked up as he was dressed as a werewolf and got a reeses thrown to him with additional compliments on his costume.

All this to say is I don't think I'd give any side eye to anyone coming to get some candy, sometimes adults need a little pick me up as well and it just used to be fun seeing all the different costumes and creative stuff people would come up with or randomly scaring a couple older kids just by opening the door with whatever creepy costume I had that year.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Honestly, I don't really set an age limit. I won't judge people who are out for fun. I've been there, there's not much to do around where I live.

That being said though... Regardless of your age, if you costume up, you're likely to get more candy from me. (I'll also offer candy to parents and older siblings who aren't taking part because I'm cool like that. Just don't stick chocolate bars in your pockets LMAO)

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 9 months ago

I’d just be happy she has a costume on. Around here we get grown adults with no costumes asking for candy with their kids. I guess I enable them because I don’t want to call them out in front of their own kids, but come on.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago

There is no age limit. I will give candy to anyone in a costume that is trick or treating.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago

No age. Anyone against fun social traditions is a jerk and a loser. I stand by my word.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago (4 children)

18/20 because after that you ought to be able to be a candy-giver. This whole thing only works if we have enough candy-givers, and too late of a cutoff age skews the balance.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)
  1. I'll give a decrepit old dude candy, but i draw the line at actual vampires
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[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago (2 children)

In my area, it is less age and more size. Someone that is large scares more people than a small person. I was large so stopped early, but a small woman with a mask could go quite a long time.

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