This makes me feel SO much better about forgetting people's name and pronouns.
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Wait is guy not gender neutral? What about my dude?
Historically they've always been male. But hey, language changes.
I am sooo gay today :D
guy in singular is generally considered gendered.
"Who has two thumbs and doesn't give a crap? Bob Kelso. How you doin'?"
If i find a penny in there, you are done
Maybe I'm talking weird, but how often do you refer to yourself by any non-reflexive pronoun?
Fairly often, I have terrible reflexes.
not often which is why it catches you off guard
In some languages like romanian, all adjectives have gender
In polish, the past tense of the first person for a verb is gendered
Pronouns are not adjectives, they're pronouns.
I meant that its much easier to misgender yourself in a language where using any adjective to refer to yourself has to be gendered correctly
This is going to be confusing because of false cognates, but German words are italicized and English ones are not, which hopefully helps.
I’m a native English speaker in Germany, and a few months ago, I heard the captain of the German national women’s soccer team talking about their success using the general you and male pronouns. For context, the way to say the general you in German is “man”(the word for “man” is “Mann”), and the pronouns used for it are masculine ones. That’s fine theoretically and grammatically, but when the speaker is talking about members of a women’s soccer team, it feels jarring as hell to hear masculine pronouns (to my non-native speaker hypervigilant about grammar ears, at least).
I think it’s probably still even the same in English, if you’re especially prescriptive, but it would feel bizarre to hear Megan Rapinoe say “when one of us is tired, he gets back up anyway.”