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[–] [email protected] 80 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Pretty much everything I was told about employment when I entered the work force (2005ish). New workers seem to have wised up a bit, seeing us go through the hoops with nothing to show for it, but all the absolute bullshit about hard work paying off, take care of your employer and your employer will take care of you, etc.

...and it's hard to shake off that programming when you hear it your entire childhood from older folks who apparently actually did benefit from that advice.

Hearing Gen Z'ers and such say things like "act your wage" or complain about the rug being pulled out from under them without needing to stand on it for 20 years first is fucking awesome! The younger workers aren't just bending over and taking it in the hopes things will get better someday like we did. Gen Z is going to go down as a major contributor to workers' rights.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago (2 children)

The flip side is that workers are getting treated worse.

I hear about people having to go through three or four rounds of job interviews, and having their social media scoured. There are fewer and fewer non-corporate jobs, and forget about a boss who pays you off the books.

Not even going to start on the fact that money is pretty worthless

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

They're trying to preemptively hire people who don't give them a hard time when they treat them like peasants. When the boss says it's getting harder to hire means the rest of us are harder to fire. Keep up the pressure!

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago

Anecdote

Boss says he called twenty people in for an interview at 7 am. Hired the one person who stayed until 9 pm because they showed persistence.

People in comments said he hire the person who was most desperate.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

and having their social media scoured

Any advice on how to google myself?
I use separate emails but sometimes I mix my username and real name so theres no 100% separation.
I couldnt find anything besides the obvious but I am interested but a bit of sleuthing can do if you are determinded enough.
The things I have tried in various combinations: Paranthesis around words/names, combinations of search terms which shouldnt be known (e.g. nickname + city or general living area) and some platforms I have used or activities/events I would probably be mentioned in by name.

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[–] [email protected] 58 points 1 week ago (2 children)

No pain, no gain.

Got rhabdomyolysis from working out too hard, that saying is crap.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago

Looked it up and it sounds horrendous. Thank you for new knowledge and good luck with that thing

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you! Yes, I think workouts need not be painful. It's best to ease into it and ramp up according to what's comfortable until you hit your goal, rather than trying to make drastic changes real fast. It would be good if more people were aware of this. I'm sorry you had to learn the hard way!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago
[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 week ago

I was advised by a group therapist, when having "cold feet" about commitment in a relationship, to just think about how bad the alternative might be. She had a friend who had reservations about getting married, and then thought not getting married would be stressful too, so she went ahead with the marriage. It was terrible advice, especially from a therapist providing guidance for some very troubled people. The only good reason to commit to a relationship is because you really want it, not because you're afraid of what will happen otherwise!

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Being told to tip your head back if your nose is bleeding.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago

How to drown with your own blood. Whomever came up with that one definitely knew and was just pulling a prank or something

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

Just ignore the bullies and they'll stop.

Nope, they just hit you harder

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I once got this advice and got so offended by it that I tried rerouting the bullies to target him instead.

It worked and never did I have so much fun proving someone wrong.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Ah what a nice advice.
Worked unsurprisingly bad from grade 1½ to 4 and could only get rid of them by advancing to the secondary school.
We are offered to choose with whom we'd would like to be in class and my request was who I'd like to net get together with.
Apparently this was a very exotic request but thwy made it possible.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] whyNotSquirrel 27 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Lemmings do not engage in mass suicidal dives off cliffs when migrating. The scenes of lemming suicides in the 1958 Disney documentary film White Wilderness, which popularized this idea, were completely fabricated. The lemmings in the film were actually purchased from Inuit children, transported to the filming location in Canada and repeatedly shoved off a nearby cliff by the filmmakers to create the illusion of a mass suicide.[448][449] The misconception itself is much older, dating back to at least the late 19th century, though its exact origins are uncertain.[450][448]

Hmm, humanity sure has great ideas!

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago

That was def a consideration in deciding the name of this platform. I was playing a lot of lemmings at the time, and learned that them being mindless suicidal drones is just ridiculously false. SO why not just own it and let the redditors think that they're the unique brain-geniuses, and have them call us something that is easily disproven.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

But... Why? Why would some Disney muckety muck buy a ton of live lemmings and shove them off a cliff, and put it in a movie?

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago

"Just push through the pain." Yeah, great way to turn your minor injury into a major one.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

I used to drive a 1999 Nissan Sentra, it looked like a wreck but it got me everywhere I needed to go and was quick and cheap to repair. Everyone told me “you need to get rid of that car.” At the time I wasn’t making tons of money, but I did gain $5K in stocks suddenly during COVID-19.

I searched for “best cars for $5,000” and one of the recommendations was an Audi A3. I didn’t really know shit about cars so I went for it, and boy did I end up spending a lot more than $5K in repairs in the first few years (though luckily I started earning a lot more).

I still love the car to death, but it’s a 10 year old luxury vehicle. I still don’t trust it to get me to the next state but I don’t commute to work so it’s cheaper at this point to keep it and maintain it well rather than buy another used car (with an entirely new set of problems) or take out a huge, huge loan for an updated equivalent (the car is completely optioned out).

I also learned that with German vehicles you must, must find a highly knowledgeable mechanic that you can trust. A few times I took it to a cheaper mechanic closer to home but found out 1-2 years later he didn’t actually fix the problems.

Had I simply waited another few years I probably wouldn’t have had to spend a fortune fixing the damn thing, and I’d probably be financially stable enough to actually get a better car. But I live in Los Angeles where the people I know will feel shame on my behalf due to the car I drive. 🙄

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

But I live in Los Angeles where the people I know will feel shame on my behalf due to the car I drive.

Maybe your people should pitch in for a new ride on your behalf then, instead of yourself.

German cars are deliberately over-engineered to increase repairing costs. They fail less often than cheaper cars, but when they do, it's time to check your covering on your bank account, because that's gonna cost you.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

A3 TDI? I have one of those and so many breakdowns in the first year. Luckily the warranty they were forced to add from having cheated on emissions covered all repairs. Haven't had any major issues for two years now on it thankfully, I'm not sure I'd recommend it generally but realistically with what you save on fuel cost the extra long term repair cost balances it out a bit.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I had a VW Passat which is the same thing as your Audi, just non luxury version. That thing broke down all the time. I got rid of it after 5 years because I had to. I just couldn't afford to always be fixing it.

I've historically stuck with Honda's which are very reliable. My last civic was 20 years old when I moved on from it. It still works, just not reliably for long distances. My son drives it now.

People would always ask me when I was going to get a new car. I would say I'm always looking but I won't buy a new car until I need to buy a new car. I'm thankful for not having the monthly payment.

People would just nod their head and understand where I was coming from even though they wouldn't make that same decision themselves.

During that time I made a monthly "car payment" into savings so I built up enough money to buy the car I wanted. Since it wasn't a real car payment the money was a good emergency fund, which I ended up needing.

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[–] GhiLA 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Those old Datsun Sentras were goat.

A tiny notch under the ek Civic, but just as rugged.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Anything that is founded on karma or divine retribution. That shit is just diffusing accountability.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 week ago

When I was about to graduate high school a uncle in law told me to make sure I pick a college with a football team I'm comfortable rooting for for the rest of my life.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Got one that happened just now. Bought some frozen pickle chips from Costco. Cooking instructions for air fryer said 96°C for 7-10 minutes from frozen. Completely wrong. Had to do them at 195°C for 15 minutes for them to be even remotely edible.

[–] PennyRoyal 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I just don't get how it could have been so wrong. The oven instructions were 190°C for 18-25mins.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

seems like a typo. dropped the 1.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Could be, and that's what I thought. But I tried that for the 2nd batch, and it still needed an extra 10 mins.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago

Maybe not advice but people who condescendingly say “you don’t have to explain yourself” are exactly the people who want you to explain yourself.

Same goes with “I hate drama” folks.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago

Basically everything i ever heard from job advisor.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Some old redneck man who was a friend of a family member, who was in a failing marriage with a woman 10-15 years older than him told me "Don't treat a woman like gold, treat her like shit and she'll never leave you" or something to that effect. That sounded horrible even to 13 year old me.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Unfortunately it isn't wrong it is just horrible and abusive advice. Destroying the self worth and confidence of a person can trap them in a relationship because they feel they can do no better so they stay. I feel bad for that person's wife, I hope she ended up dumping his ass

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

It was my understanding they separated. In any case, dude died of cancer a few years later. Not sure about much beyond that.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (5 children)

When you start investing, just put your money in and just don’t worry about it. It’ll grow. Just keep adding to it. You’ll get there.

Probably some of the dumber advice i’ve received.

You have to look at your Stocks. You have to look at your 401(k). You have to look at your investments.

Unless you like to wake up one day and discover you don’t have enough money. Then go ahead and follow that advice of just set and forget it.

The only one that might make sense with is if you’re putting your money into the S&P.

Even then, I still would pay attention to what it’s doing.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 week ago

To be fair that advice does work for Index Funds which are low risk and meant to be gathering interest over many many years. For stock trading yeah, you have to be on top of things

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Most people aren’t talking about investing with stocks. They’re talking about mutual funds and 401ks, which will grow if you just leave them be. If you try mucking around with them you’re going to be much worse off.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

Half of everything my mom ever told/did for whatever ailment I had.

Also that it was easy to get a job in Brazilian IT in the early 2010s. Out of some 40 companies I've sent my resume to, zero called me for an interview.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Meditation instruction.

Even if you are noticing no results at all, just keep on doing it.

No, that's dumb, expect results. If you aren't getting results after a dozen times, try a different meditation technique.

[–] BananaPeal 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

~~From what I understand, some mental health meds take a couple weeks to see results.~~

Reading comprehension FAIL!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The comment was about meditation, not medication ;)

[–] BananaPeal 2 points 1 week ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

When a trailer starts oscillating because it was loaded rear-heavy, "going full throttle will straighten it out". It didn't, car spun, load flew in a ditch.

The trailer did feel restless after turns, so I assumed it'll be fine if I steer smoothly. The first 10km went okay, but then there was a downhill, and that somehow increased the instability and it went mad. Speed was constant 80km/h.

Trailer weight distribution demonstration:
https://imgur.com/gallery/trailer-weight-distribution-3PQFK7Y
or
https://www.reddit.com/r/GoRVing/comments/6xfe7x/everybody_who_tows_an_rv_should_check_out_this/
(same video clip)

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