Being rude to service staff. Immediate indicator on who they are as a person. There is zero reason to ever be mad at someone making near minimum wage whose job it is to grab you a drink or check you out or something. It also shows that they've themselves never worked service, which is a rite of passage
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+1 to being rude to service staff Also MAGA apparel or citing Jesus/God constantly
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So many things.
- queer phobic. I'm not queer but many of my friends are. I don't need that negativity in my life.
- smoker. Maybe a pass if they are actively trying to quit. Maybe. Most active smokers I've known have kind of been assholes about it, though.
- littering. Sometimes combined with the above when smokers throw their butts on the ground
- being a jerk about people having healthy hobbies. Like, just let someone enjoy some video games or bird watching or whatever. I can't with people who are like "omg that's so childish you still [play games/read fiction/go to the zoo/whatever]?".
- being anti-consent. I've met a few women who are like "just do stuff and I'll tell you if I don't like it" and I'm like lady there's some "stuff" that can be done that by the time it's happening , the damage is done. Let's just have a conversation about what we like and what our boundaries are.
littering.
I was going out with this guy I really liked. Probably 3rd or 4th date. We decided to take a drive, and went to a local grist mill. Walked around, had a nice time. Took the scenic route home on this road that ran along a pristine Tennessee Creek. He was drinking a Gatorade or something, and when he finished it, rolled down the window and chucked the bottle out into the creek.
I stopped the car, made him go pick it up (or I wasn't going to drive him the 20+ miles home), and never called him again. Fuck. That. Behavior.
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The fuck is wrong with going to the zoo? Other than if it's a shitty zoo giving animals a shit life, but c'mon.
it's "childish" to enjoy fun things like the zoo, according to some incomprehensibly boring and immature people.
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Might be picky but if they don't return their shopping carts or just leaves it in a parking spot
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Rudeness to cashiers, wait staff, housekeepers, children or elderly people. If you are mean or rude to these people I assume you think you matter more based on social standing, and can't be bothered to even be polite. At that point I don't care if you are nice to me.
- Right-wing
- Cluster-B traits
- *-ist, *-phobe
- Prescriptive gender roles
- Smokes
What is cluster B?
What about Claustro-, Arachno-, Haemo-, etc.phobes? Or Cyclists or Scientists?
Cluster B personality disorders - most commonly known for borderline and narcissistic PDs.
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Anti-vaxxer / conspiracy theorist.
Having a shitty attitude about anything.
It just seems like you're not able to enjoy things because you're just a sour person.
I must be misunderstanding this one. That sounds like you want a person that buries their feelings and pretends to be joyful all the time. It's perfectly human to have a bad day and on occasion be a little shitty.
If you're speaking of them being shitty most of the time about most things then I can see your point.
Edit: Grammer is important when trying to communicate without misunderstanding.
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Republican
"Have you ever heard of Jordan Peterson?"
"That depends...what do you mean by have, what do you mean by you and what do you mean by heard of?"
being mean to animals, not washing hands habitually, littering, leaving the shopping cart out, buzz cut / crew cut and variations thereof (for dudes, some chicks can rock it), having no weird behaviors at all. refusal to be emotionally honest (oh no, its me i'm sorry)
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Short list of obvious ones:
- Haven't binge watched all of skibidi toilet in one sitting
- Uses Windows MacOS iOS or Android
- Wipes after shitting / No shitbucket
- Thinks git is github
- Haven't memorized all of the ANSI X3.159-1989 C standard
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Someone that takes abstract statements personally and responds in anger. It shows a lack of self awareness and depth. It also implies that they have a limited binary view of the world around them; a bipolar me versus others perspective outlook.
Far right or far left. Both obnoxious. How hard is it to do what's right for people and not have to be on either end of a fucking seesaw?
Some of us have held our political opinions since before 2016. Weβre much more bearable, even those of us on the far left. I firmly believe people need to go through an obnoxious political phase. Itβs just way more normal to go through it in high school/college. But will it be just a phase when people are going through it in their adulthood? I dunno. But I guess weβll have to find out the hard way.
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Showing they are dumb (believing conspiracy theories, Maga, repeating nonsense)
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Being racist, judgy, overall nasty with people
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Being nasty to animals
Being conservative, being rude and impatient, not understanding that people are human and sometimes just make errors.
I've ended a relationship because the girl drove like an impatient bafoon. If you have a superiority complex about a speed limit in residential areas, I'll sit in the passenger seat railing about how you're such a shit driver. Just drive the speed limit and gently.
- Bad breath
- Body odour
- Thinking they are gods gift
- Too much make-up and fucking awful Botox lips
Compliments me by insulting everybody else.
βItβs so cool that you X. Everybody not in the room sucks because they donβt do Xβ
Just leave that second sentence off please.
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Bad breath
Edit: for anyone who has this problem... just see your doctor or dentist. You don't need to suffer . It's curable.
My co worker has straight gum rot, like a few millimeter layer where the gums meet their teeth that's all whiteish green and they have horrendous breath I can smell 15 feet down wind of the AC system. This is due to their horrible personal hygiene, he has a wife with good teeth, I don't know how she kisses him, I would vomit.
He's only in his early 30's and also just had to get one of his K9 teeth pulled out.
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In the romantic sense, someone that seems dumb or childish. I just can't go there without some sense of being a peer.
The opposite for me tbh, someone who can't let loose and have some stupid fun every so often isn't my bag.
There's a difference between goofy and dumb. Goofy is fun, I'm all over that. Actually dumb is exhausting and awkward, it's just not fun
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