Especially as a gay guy, seeing massively upvoted posts of a woman holding basically anything (but she’s wearing a low-cut top!!!!!!) got pretty exhausting.

Lol, I kinda agree, which is somewhat related to another thing I won't miss: The teenagers.

The lockdown + reddit's new direction of becoming more like fb/insta has drastically increased the number of teenagers on reddit. I hate it. It's like an eternal summer-reddit.

The discussions get crappy and stale, they don't follow rediquette, they are insufferably naive but aggressive with their opinions due to twitterification of their online socialisation. and so.fricking.horny. TIFU and Askreddit almost completely became horny fantasy posting, and I blame the teenagers for it.

God I feel like a terminally-online grumpy old man for saying it, but UGH interacting with teens online is like a human rights violation.

Ads and the entire ad-driven culture.

Another thing I appreciate here is the lack of ragebait. It's more common in video sharing platforms (which Reddit keeps stumbling over itself trying to become) where you have people deliberately making awful food recipes or doing something completely nonsensical for the sole purpose of clicks and engagement.

Social media in its current state is focused on pissing people off. Twitter and Reddit making decisions to kneecap themselves for the sake of lofty ideals is the best thing that's happened to the Internet in recent memory.

I am still horny. I am just waiting for someone to make a popular NSFW instance. I have considered doing it myself but I doubt I would have the energy to manage it.

The thing I like the most is that I don't have to scroll through lines of people making jokes to get to the actual discussion or insightful commentary on the topic. Even though there is less happening here, it is definitely more. I honestly can't see going back to reddit.

I dunno. I kind of wish there were an anti-corporate place to be horny. Right now there really isn't.

For me it feels like the larger subs became unusable. Unless you caught a rising thread just at the right moment your comment would get drowned in a flood. Also the comments would be low effort and bad. Old reddit you'd go into the comments and someone would add more context or discussion to the link. Modern reddit it's an endless chain of people rushing to make low effort jokes.

Also reddit's free speech reddit lead to a very obnoxious type of troll dance around threads because "Im not breaking any rules I'm just having an intellectual debate!". Lemmy instances are more like old school message boards though. Saw a guy on lemmy.ml get a post deleted and a warning because he tried to say something disparaging about trans people, come back and be like "IM JUST DISAGREEING" and then he made another posts with screenshots trying to drum up outrage. This isnt reddit tho so he just got quietly banned.

Lemmy isnt trying to sell you anything, and it doesnt think free speech means you have the right to be an asshole and poop all over threads. It was refreshing to see them just taken care of.

The horny people are gonna come here, just watch and see 😉.

I mean I'm always horny but I never advertised it on reddit, dunno why people ever did

Some of the subreddits could be great, but some could also be really mean and unwelcoming. So far it seems much more friendly here, and I hope that's not just the honeymoon period.

You're not wrong; I've noticed the same. Less 'horny' specifically, and more.... reasonable and engaged; vs impulsive and reactive.

I think the accessibility of reddit vs Lemmy plays a feature there. Lemmy requires at least some level of tech literacy to understand well enough to use, and it also isn't where most of the people are. So the people choosing to use Lemmy fully intend to use it; we're not casual users.

Because it's so easy to use, I think Reddit has a lot of young and/or immature people (demographics that overlap, but aren't the same). So it's full of impulsive, heavily-opinionated, casual users who aren't really invested in their communities, that can easily make a new account on a whim, and that create echo chambers with their votes.

It's not really Reddit's fault, tbh. It's an issue of user population, especially when 90% of the users do nothing more than upvote (so generically agreeable things rise) or downvote (anything that challenges them falls). The bigger a user platform gets, the more it homogenises.

Reddit was only unusual in that subreddits let it homogenise on a sub-by-sub basis and create echo chambers; a savvy redditor could still find smaller subs with better discussion (r/patientgamers rather than r/gaming for example). Or subs would get bigger and start becoming hostile or tribal, losing their original mission - and somebody from the old days would make a 'true' version (r/childfree vs r/truechildfree).

Lemmy is too small for groupthink to homogenise it (yet?). But particularly large instances could potentially go the same way given enough years. It's just that Lemmy being federated means that we can make new instances, and defederate from any that we may find unpleasant. I've already learned of one portal that isn't federated to my chosen one.

Trust me; they're coming. As a borderline asexual person I'd want nothing more than a non horny refuge, but that will never exist. Humans are far far too horned up to allow for that.

A/S/L?

Horny AF person here. Theres just not a riske or nsfw place so I dont bring it with me

lol, true! There were also too many jokes about being horny that got repeated over and over and over... and over again.

It got to a point where I knew exactly what the first comment in any given post would be.

I am waiting for some NSFW communities/instances to be created. It has the addition of attracting new users as well.

Give it time

Most people are still horny idk what you mean...

where is the porn communities anyway? where are my hot anime babes?

I mean. You're not wrong, but I will admit I wasn't expecting that complaint.

*yet.

THISSSS. its nice to know that presumably the majority of the people here are genuine people who want to be here and engage in a community :) im so happy to be(e) here hehe

If you build it, they will come.

I'm asexual as fuck so the lack of horniness is my jam.

Yeah, the humor on big subreddits always tended to be so juvenile. It was cringeworthy whenever a “haha boobs lol” kind of joke got upvoted to the top of threads. Folks here seem to be much more in control of themselves!

Omg yes. There will be days where I question why I check r/AskReddit despite knowing 90% of it is sex-related. I just want to read interesting stories or learn something new in a field I’m not immersed in.

I don't know how to tell you this.....