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Like most other people here, I originally came here from reddit. Ive been having a blast so far, and I much prefer the forum-style of this. After about a week of using Lemmy I realized there was something intrinsic to reddit that Lemmy doesnt have. And I wont miss it. Too many people on reddit were way too horny. I was really annoying, but Lemmy seems way more chill. Plus its refreshing knowing that the people on here arent all bots.

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 2 years ago (7 children)

Especially as a gay guy, seeing massively upvoted posts of a woman holding basically anything (but she’s wearing a low-cut top!!!!!!) got pretty exhausting.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

Trust me, as a hetero woman, I got so exhausted too. Reddit got so eye-roll-y within....less than 5 minutes sometimes that it made me just leave and go do something productive.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 years ago (4 children)

The Internet, sadly, has always been an awful place for women and minorities. I hope we can build a culture here where that kind of shit isn’t tolerated, and all (sans trolls, bigots, racists, and Nazis) are made to feel welcome and respected.

Except the Dutch. Fuck those guys.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

What the fuck have we dutchies done😂

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

You burned all our ships that one time!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

What did I do to you?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Is that a Better Off Ted reference? 😂

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Oh right of course. BOT quotes Austin Powers, lol. Thanks :)

[–] plum 1 points 2 years ago

Same here. I put a lot of effort into carefully curating my subscribed list on Apollo - it definitely made the experience much more enjoyable.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I mean, I'm a straight man and I would also find that annoying!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah, it started to spill over so subs like r/classiccars and r/dogpictures.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

From the outside looking in car culture seems pretty full of that kind of thing anyway.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago

I'll never forgot how absolutely bonkers r/CablePorn went over this. Top posts all-time were of some truly gorgeous masterful cable-work in server rooms, colorful coordination, gore-to-porn jobs of jumbled mess to near works-of-art. Then some mildly attractive girl posts herself pointing to a comparatively meh small cabling setup it went into meltdown while also becoming one of the top posts at the time.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I'm gay too. I don't really understand what this post is about. Your complaint is seeing someone you're not attracted to? That can't be right. There has to be something I'm missing.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 years ago (1 children)

At least for me, I feel the same way (despite liking women) because I disliked seeing something that was relatively low quality get upvoted purely because of sex appeal. Hell, there's even a whole sub dedicated to the idea that people just paid attention to the sex appeal, only to be surprised that the content itself was really cool

https://www.reddit.com/r/UNBGBBIIVCHIDCTIICBG/ Upvoted Not Because Girl, But Because It Is Very Cool; However, I Do Concede That I Initially Clicked Because Girl.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

I don't mind the initial posts but when the comments are all "nipples" or something it reinforces what I've told my partner: I hate going out in public knowing anyone could take a picture of me and find any reason to sexualize or harass me, just for existing:/

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

As an asexual, that always was a bit uncomfortable. And don't even get me started on the bots always sending dms. Damn things never stopped. xD

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago

Or r/art just being naked women

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I remember finding a great subreddit called r/CharacterArt (or something like that). You could post character art mainly focused on dnd and other ttrpgs. I thought that was a great idea, and checked it out to find some cool art for my own Pathfinder game.

90% of the top post were women in revealing clothing.