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[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Exercise. I went from 0-1 days per week to 30 minutes every day for the past 6 weeks, only skipping two days over that time.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

This was going to be my answer, so I'm replying to your comment in solidarity.

I wish I could say I believe things will get better for me if I just persevere, but I don't think I do. As long as I'm here though, there is a non-zero hope that someday, I'll be able to live and not just survive. I hope the same for you too.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I haven't ate meat in 6/7 days, broke down and had a BLT yesterday. Tough to give up the bacon completely but I'm working on it.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You know when a friend's loved one dies and you tell them the usual sentiments about being there for them, anything you need etc? But there's rarely anything you can do, especially if you're not in their immediate circles where you could be making food or helping with estate etc.

Friend needed to do some job applications quite urgently, but was obviously not in the right headspace to do a great job. Friend asked me to help review drafts (I write for a living) and between us we got out 3 very solid applications.

I'm proud my skills had real and immediate use to someone. This white collar shit can feel pretty ineffectual sometimes, but this was a tangible help to someone so I'm proud of myself.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Avoided being hung over, which I guess I could attribute to not drinking.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago

Exercise. I've now done it 8 weeks straight, and I think I have it locked in as a long term habit.

Never had that before in my life and I'm 48 now. It's never too late to get going folks.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I threw a work party and it turned out to be really fun. Everyone got drunk and silly, some people danced, someone people sat by the campfire, everyone ate way too much food. It reminded me why I love my workplace so much.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Username doesn't check out but I'm glad for you. Finding a good job with good people is a great thing

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

First time at a personal trainer.

I am writing this from the grave.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Well done lad.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just about kept my shit together. It's been a really shitty week.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good on you, brosis. That's already a fine achievement

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Thank you, your comment gave me a lovely warm feeling in my stomach. I'll get through this.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Finally scheduled the two root canals I need. I get pretty bad anxiety talking on the phone, especially to strangers so doctor’s appointments are always hard. But I finally did it so I’ll be done with this pain soon.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Helping someone escape domestic abuse and care for her animals while her dangerous lunatic ex keeps wrecking her house and farm, actually risking to put the entire mountain on fire, and the police keeps typing a pile of documents about the ongoing case without actually doing anything. I'll keep doing it even if I end up tearing the 'Call us if you experience domestic violence' posters off of the police station walls tomorrow to shove them up the arses of the smug bastard clowns in uniform who are supposed to guarantee the safety of vulnerable people. Been a long week and no end in sight.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

After picking up the guitar 3 years ago, I recorded a song yesterday for the first time. Feels good, man.

[–] southsamurai 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

it can be hard some days but I believe in you

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I'm teaching myself French. J'ai étudié le français pendant quatre ans when I was younger, but it's been years. Maintenant, mes enfants want to learn French, so I'm re-learning with them. And just in the last week, we started making plans for a trip to France! Je suis content!

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Overcame my anxiety and asked a pretty girl out. We're going out for drinks tomorrow night 😁

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

I was fired in June for a mixed non-descript bag of reasons from my previous employer of 8 years. The reasons they told me were not what they told the DOL. They told the DOL that I was fired for attendance issues, which is weird since I hadn't been absent since March, and the company's on-site nurse told me not to come to work. I used 2.5 days of my yearly allowable 6 days of sick time within 6 months. They also told them I falsified records.

What's really weird is that it happened to coincide with my complaint of workplace harassment by a former boss.

The worst part was they lied to the DOL and told them I admitted to falsifying records. Little did they know, I recorded audio of my HR meeting so I could prove that I didn't admit to falsifying records.

Anyways, after months of fighting for unemployment benefits (they didn't even give me a severance), I won my appeal hearing. My previous employer didn't even give the DOL an in service phone number, so they didn't even attend the hearing.

They really were banking on me not trying to fight them. After months of me sounding like an insane person to everyone I talked about it to, I finally got vindication.

And before you think this must be some small operating business where my boss just didn't want to show up to lose, this is a large publicly traded company with thousands of employees and is an industry leader in the field. The site I worked for was a drop in their revenue bucket with a mere 70 million in net revenue.

I may be jobless right now, with 5 kids, a mortgage, and had my name dragged through the mud, but I'm so fucking proud of myself for sticking up for myself and proving that I was fucking right the entire time.

They still haven't been able to fill my position, have had more people quit and are in dire straights according to an inside source.

Oh and the kicker? Turns out the last woman they fired complained about the same person, but they gave her a giant severance package even though she was only employed with them less than a year.

Can't wait to see that place bleed itself to death.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (6 children)

1st in Diamond League in Duolingo. Now I can relax and just keep up my daily streak.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

I got called into a work meeting yesterday. Apparently they are very pleased with my progress.

So that's nice. I have no idea what they're talking about, but it's nice.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I went to the gym every day in the last 7 days.

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[–] wtvr 12 points 1 year ago (7 children)

I wrote a song and have been recording it for like the past year. Kind of got too complicated so I just ignored it for the last few months. This week I said I would finish it by the end of the month and today I have the final mixing sesh at the studio 👐

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I traveled 12 hours to an isolated lake to spread my father's ashes as he requested.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I tutor college students for free in chemistry (occasionally physics, math and biochem as well but mostly chemistry) every day, 7 days a week so that.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (8 children)

Bought a nice Sawstop table saw that I've been eyeing for years. I make good money, but have issues spending anything on myself. According to my therapist, it's from a fear of catastrophe. Even though I'm extremely frugal, make good money, and am in a better position than the vast majority of people my age, there's a constant voice in the back of my head telling me that I don't need whatever it is that I want to get for myself.

In moderation, that's a good thing, but I've taken it to a pretty far extreme. It legitimately stresses me out to buy something for myself that costs more than $15-20, even if I can afford it. I talked to my therapist about it, mentioned the table saw, and he suggested that I buy it. I talked to my wife about it, and she talked me into it, and I finally bit the bullet and did it. Definitely a luxury, but it's cheaper than a hospital visit to sew a finger back on.

However, I do not recommend moving it solo to prove a point. 450lbs is not light

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Got an open source offline text to speech AI that can read me any text of any length, another that can convert my speech into text, and finally got another working directly on the command line using python.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Technically just over 7 days but I'm saying it. I started a Bachelor's in Cyber Security at a big university.

I'm the first in my family to ever seek higher education and my nephew (who lives with me) has already been asking questions about how he can go to college someday as well.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Went to a nudist beach for the first time!

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

I wrote 14 pages of a masters thesis.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Put together a fun party with friends

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Nobody cares, but I have reached the point where I can drive my project car to work.

I dragged it out of a field in January of 2023, and I did a quick and dirty engine rebuild to get it running long enough I could find what else is wrong with it. I've replaced the brakes and some steering parts, along with some broken lights. I rebuilt and tuned the carburetor, set the timing, replaced the plugs, distributor cap, wires, and rotor.

And now when I drive it people look at me.

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[–] Anti_Weeb_Penguin 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm starting to understand math after failing all my exams, i hope i can pass in October...

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I finally started being active physically, by going on walks, and doing a bit of workout. This weekend will mark the 2 week completion, i have never felt so good mentally in my life, as i have been feeling since i started working out. I am gonna stick to it.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Took a “mental health day” off from work. First time I have ever took PTO for myself.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I survived a hurricane and got my lawn mowed in the process…

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I got back into reading (after ~ half year pause).

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Got a big job interview. It's down to me and one person and I feel like I have the edge. I (hopefully) find out the results tomorrow! I desperately need the money lol.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Finally renewed my license. Only 4 months late this year.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Beating twilight princess on Wii after leaving it for few years. Now I can start botw, it's on same timeline :D

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I beat the shit out of Godskin Noble today. Took me about ten tries. At least three of those, he had a sliver of life left and cheesed me in a corner with his roll attack. I was livid. Like, the angriest I've ever been at a video game. Damn Elden Ring has some cheesy bosses.

The time I beat him, I was so calm. Just slowly chipping him down to nothing. BLAM. Dead. It felt so good. Nothing beats beating a hard boss in a Soulsbournekiro game.

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