This is a place to share greentexts and witness the confounding life of Anon. If you're new to the Greentext community, think of it as a sort of zoo with Anon as the main attraction.
Be warned:
If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.
One way to understand them better is to occasionally talk. Cuz like, guys and girls are actually incredibly similar. A couple of conversations a day, with the occasional really good conversation, can go a very long way towards understanding each other. Everything you don't talk about is one more thing you won't understand.
Its true. I wondered why I didn't feel like girls were any different from me and why I had a hard time understanding both girls and boys, then I learned I was trans and autistic
you’r not talking that kinda person into making sense
I'm not hoping the person from 4 chan is also in here, just giving general advice for anyone reading it now.
Wanted you to fight for her affection. Time to separate and run away
This will NOT be the last test their partner does. Relationship tests are toxic.
Relationship tests are toxic.
Hah. The woman I was briefly married to really wanted me to be jealous, but I didn't realize that at the time. I was just happy for her whenever she told be about her great friends who happened to be men.
This culminated when she told me it wasn't fair that I had had other sexual partners in my life but she had not. I replied that if she was asking me for an open relationship and it was really important to her, then it would be something we could discuss. That was not what she wanted to hear.
She was not a nice person (to put it mildly) so I don't regret being so clueless.
My current SO is similar. They asked if I'd be okay with them watching a movie with a friend of my gender online. I said, "sure, go for it" offhandedly. They were flabbergasted and said they expected me to be jealous. They then asked how I'd feel if it was in person instead, and I said, "I'd want to meet them first because I don't trust them, but I do trust you." Again, flabbergasted.
My SO is a nice person though, just a little protective. We're happily married and we make sure to inform eachother about anything the other may be uncomfortable with. We just differ in what we're comfortable with, and I think that's fine.
That sounds like they might have an insecure attachment style.
Yeah, perhaps. But it's not too hard to work around, and the benefits of the relationship far outweigh any inconvenience. If I wanted to hang out with a friend of my SO's gender, I would either bring my SO along or at least have them get to know each other first.
Wow, thats intense, I hope your in a better situation now!
I divorced her after six months of marriage a long time ago. I'm embarrassed by that, but my mistake was in marrying her, not in ending the marriage so quickly. I'm proud that I had the courage to leave.
I do wonder if there was anything I should have done differently which would have made the marriage work, but I'm more confident about my decision to leave after a more recent ex of hers found me so that he could tell me that she was a "horrible psychopath" who ruined his life. Apparently he knew my name because she told him how bad I had been to her, and after their breakup he suspected that she had been lying.
As for right now: I'm single but it's 100% true that being single is better than being in a bad relationship.
Based responses from you tbh. Relationships work best when you try to solve problems rather than ramp up emotions constantly
I can't officially diagnose her with BPD but ramping up emotions constantly was her thing.
I've found some people who act jealous and want you to be jealous are that way because they're cheaters. They may not be cheating now but they know they would given the right opportunity and they assume you're like them. So they worry about you cheating and they get upset when you don't worry about them cheating because they assume that means you don't care. It's a messed up and miserable way of thinking, and if you're not the cheating or jealous type but naive to their thinking, together you'll have a lot of conflict and confusion.
Either that, or she thought she wanted out, only to realize when it was done that she no longer felt like she had somebody to depend upon. The feeling of safety is what keeps a lot of people in relationships they might not feel love in anymore. When you make someone your world for years, it's gonna impact you when that goes away, even if it was your choice.
I remember this post. Same opinion still. Not the best course of action, but I wonder if it was a last ditch effort for him to give a fuck, which he doesn't seem to, and that broke her heart. Not that that means she did the right thing, but with all the comments patting anon on the back for dodging a bullet, I'll give one to the lady for conforming that Anon doesn't love her like she thinks/wants. Hopefully they'll both find someone that makes them happy.
When being taught that no is supposed to mean no I dont believe there is any other appropriate reaction to being given the divorce papers
Yeah, for sure. If you tell someone you want to call things off, you gotta be prepared for that "sure." Definitely wasn't her best move.
Doesn't mean I can't have some empathy for her, even if I don't agree. Humans do crazy, sometimes even terrible things, out of hurt and love. Us humans are pretty flawed. 😅
Anon caught a bullet.
Tape em back together surely!
It was a test
A deranged one...
That goes without saiyan
Super saiyan?
Yeah, but if you fail it, you'll feel like you've been punched in the dragon ballz
(B-side backup joke: something about blue dragon balls)
If only divorce was a simple form..
It is though, if it's amicable. It only gets complicated if you disagree on who gets what.
If there aren't kids or pets involved, just hire an arbiter and be done with it in a day.
Depends on where you live.
In Finland you have to be officially separated for 6 months before you can get a divorce.
Wow, that's awful. Why can't two consenting adults dissolve their union immediately? Why wait?
I've been in this situation. Amicable. Split evenly. No kids. A half hour with my buddy who is a lawyer to sign papers and done.
Civil unions work like that over here. I could walk into town hall tomorrow and tell them I want to separate from my SO and all I need is my autograph, not even hers.
What about assets and everything else that goes along with a relationship?
And that’s how it should work right? Nobody should be allowed to keep someone hostage in a “relationship”.
Anon is emotionally stunted and this person really loves them but doesn't feel it back. Anon needs to express themselves better
Anon sounds pretty over it, and I don't blame them.
Also, if they're making a greentext about this, they're quite possibly on the spectrum, in which case it's on their partner to communicate clearly.
Being on the spectrum does not put the onus of communication on the partner, and I say that as someone decidedly on the spectrum. It's still a partnership that requires all players to participate fully.
The onus is on the person who has an issue they want to communicate.
So not the poster.