Ask Lemmy

I was told ”a samurai can’t chop down a tree unless he uses the right tool for the right job” because I was seeking help from outside a transitional program (LifeWorks at WKU) because I didn’t trust my staff there and they were making me work a job I didn’t want at the time.

I think the person who told me that was geeking out because he read too much Bruce Lee.

More importantly, I was seeking help because I wanted to get out of LifeWorks because I didn’t like it and everyone was convincing me to stay.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

No. What doesn't kill you creates trauma.

“All’s fair in love and war”

No it isn’t you fucking sociopath

Not a fan of "it is what it is". It's called a thought-terminating cliche. It often means "I'm tired of talking about this, do it my way" when my boss says it.

"Everything happens for a reason ."

No. Fuck no, and fuck you. I DARE you to say that to the faces of the endless innocent people—many of whom are CHILDREN—who have been murdered, tortured, abused, enslaved, raped, ect.

"Grow up and live in the real world" / "Life's not fair" / other thought-terminating cliches used to shut down anyone who wants the world to be a better place than it is. Like, I fucking know it's an unfair place. The whole point is that I would like for it to be less unfair.

"Pull up by the bootstraps"aka bootstrapping was a phrase originally coined to mean something being literally impossible and is now used as a tool to shame the poor for not overcoming nearly impossible social barriers.

"That's just how they are" is always used to excuse bullies for being bullies.

"He/she just tells it like it is" No, they are just saying things that resonate with you, but have no actual alignment with data, facts or morality. Simply saying things with no filter doesn't equal "like it is". I find it is usually attributed to, at best, oversimplified or completely ignorant statements, at worst, misleading and/or hateful statements.

Unused ram is wasted ram. Pisses me off to no end. What I do with my ram is my concern, I don't want you bloating up and using it.

In response to gross privacy violations from big companies and governments:

"If you've done nothing wrong, you've got nothing to fear."

“Quick question” just means you want a quick answer

"lets agree to disagree"

how about fuck you, one of us is wrong and I want to know which one of us that is!

god loves you/god bless

"it's just a few bad apples"

That's only half the saying. It is used most of the time as if the full thing is "a few bad apples aren't a problem because the rest are fine" rather than the real thing "a few bad apples spoil the lot."

I'm sure I'll get guff for this but, "common sense". Throughout my youth, when people told me something was common sense, I usually thought they were wrong.

people talking about not being old enough to retire.

Retirement is a function of finance not age.

When you forget what you were about to say:

"Must not have been important"

How in the ever-living fuck could anybody come to that conclusion?

Whatever doesn't kill you makes you numb and traumatized, not stronger. Big difference.

"Boys will be boys"

How about you teach your kid how to behave and respect others so they don't grow up to be an entitled asshole.

Money can't buy happiness.

"No pain, no gain. "

As someone who's been running for over 30 years and working ou for 20, if there is pain, there is injury. When there is injury, you take a break and regress. People may say that muscle pain or stiff muscles are a sign of a good workout, not an injury. However, even with those your risk of injury is much higher, and you'll eventually hurt yourself. "No pain" should be one of the outcomes of smart exercise, not an admonishment for not working hard enough.

"It's human nature" used to describe something horrific like war or rape.

It's not. Human nature is as when we were children, playing with friends and loving each other.

Militaries have to condition humans to do violence to each other and to follow orders from "superiors". Half of school is quashing kids' creativity and making them follow arbitrary rules because "the adults" say so.

It's been a millenium since I've heard it, as I no longer qualify as young.

But

"You'll understand when you're older"

I'm older.

I'm thirty.

The only thing I "understand" is that all the rules are arbitrary as all fuck, society was made up by idiots with giant sticks up their arses, and everyone should go fuck themselves.

The only "progress" I made is that I stopped hating myself for "failing at society" and started hating society for failing so many people.

"Make America Great Again" 😂🤣

"Practice makes perfect."

Let me tell you about my 7th grade all county band audition, where I showed up and skillfully played 40 measures of not what the sheet music said because I misread it and practiced what I misread.

"Practice" needs some kind of mechanism for feedback and correction, such as a coach or instructor.

"If you run into assholes all day you're the asshole"

Because bullying is not a thing amirite