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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/passintimendgas on 2023-11-28 10:04:30+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Kanaccmoment on 2023-11-28 09:00:38+00:00.

They give terrible advice on how to treat others.

You should never: . Do something to prove others wrong. . Ignore the doubts and concerns of family and friends. . Label skeptical people as "haters". . "disappear" for months to return a monster. . Cut contact with friends who aren't on the grind. . Think of people as alphas, betas, sigmas and so on.

A lot of motivational speakers are scammers and they want to isolate you from others by:

1. making you unlikeable to normal people.
2. telling you to be hostile to those who are not on this internet-centered self improvement rabbit hole.

That way, you will only listen to them and you're easier to manipulate.

Treat others with respect and listen to those who care about you. Seriously. If they doubt you, it's probably because your plan toward your goal is not well written enough.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/cornhuskpoppet on 2023-11-28 05:07:22+00:00.

I want to be better at journaling, but writing things down is literally sooo slooow.

I also don't want to use an online blog and be all "I'm sad my mom died so I'm eating ice cream" and then immediately see a TikTok that's like, "tfw you eat ice cream bc your mom died". I want the lowest tech possible typing device, but with a usable modern keyboard, so not a literal retro-style typewriter. Does anybody know of something like this?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/ElkTheGreat on 2023-11-27 19:42:06+00:00.

You guys ever get the feeling that you’re going to fail? I’m mid 20s maxing out Roth IRA every year. 401k maxed and 70% of my income is saved and invested into a taxable brokerage account. I just feel like I’m going to fail and never reach my FIRE goals earlier in life. It eats me up seeing how much people have saved and all and I’m feeling so lost and confused . Any advice would help thank you.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Parabolous on 2023-11-27 00:42:07+00:00.

I know epic fantasy isn't for everyone, but I found this series so inspirational during dark times in my life where I wanted to give up, when I didn't have the strength to keep going, when I didn't see the point in myself or my journey.

I'd highly recommend reading it, but also wanted to share some quotes from one character that I thought were particularly good and particularly relevant to this subreddit.

“A journey will have pain and failure. It is not only the steps forward that we must accept. It is the stumbles. The trials. The knowledge that we will fail. That we will hurt those around us. But if we stop, if we accept the person we are when we fail, the journey ends. That failure becomes our destination.”

″‘I will take responsibility for what I have done,’ Dalinar whispered. ‘If I must fall, I will rise each time a better man.‘”

“Sometimes a hypocrite is nothing more than a man in the process of changing.”

“The most important word a man can say are, ‘I will do better.‘”

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Horror-Yesterday-928 on 2023-11-26 23:43:56+00:00.

I had an ‘ah-ha!’ moment yesterday when I read in a medical journal that obesity and impaired dopamine are linked.

If over-eating or snacking is the only thing that makes you feel good, how hard will it be to stop? Very hard. No one just wants to feel bad all the time! (I mean, no wonder diets are so hard—it’s literally like, ‘OK, enjoy being depressed now, bye.’)

My dad has struggled with low mood and obesity his whole life. This explained it in a new way for me.

So what is the solution? I think it has to be some kind of reward. Intentionally working out? Something else that releases feel-good hormones?

(Obviously there are a LOT more nuances to all of this. I’m not a nutritionist or a psychiatrist. But i found that article to be a helpful perspective and motivating to think about. Hopefully someone else might, too.)

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Kozchey on 2023-11-26 18:26:59+00:00.

I turned 34 in the end of October, am a dude. Went out of a terrible pit in the spring, I had to quit booze too. I have a job in IT, that I used to dream about and long for in the past, I managed to not lose it and not die from live failure. I have so many apsects in my life to work on that I feel overwhelmed and not complete, not enough, NOT GOOD ENOUGH - becoming good at the job and learning, losing weight and becoming slim again, and after I become slim again - starting to approach women again.

But I feel too old already, feel like I should have been a way better version by now. I am afraid I will never become a father, afraid of the thought my mother will die some day; I have anger issues; I go for pleasures, but even they don't fulfill me anymore. .... And there is a ton more, but don't wanna make this post long.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/BFreeCoaching on 2023-11-26 16:53:51+00:00.

The #1 thing holding people back is a combination of two things:

1. People believe their emotions come from outside of them (i.e. their circumstances and other people).

As long as you believe your emotions come from outside of you, you'll understandably make everyone else responsible for how you feel (which hinders relationships), and you’ll end up feeling powerless to make any lasting change.

But as you remind yourself that your emotions come from your thoughts, then you empower yourself to be able to feel better, and it becomes easier to accept and embrace yourself, your life and people just as they are.

2. People don't understand the value of negative emotions.

Negative emotions are positive guidance (although it probably doesn't feel that way) letting you know you’re focusing on, and pushing against, what you don't want. Negative emotions want to support you in releasing them, focus more on what you want and feel better.

All emotions are equal. But if you (and most people do) create a hierarchy for your emotions (i.e. positive = good; negative = bad), then you make it harder to feel better, work together with and control your thoughts & emotions.

A lot of life's problems stem from having a contentious relationship with your negative thoughts & emotions. Which either creates the problem in the first place, and/or exacerbates it. So the solution is to build a harmonious relationship with the "negative" side of you. Just because they feel bad, doesn’t mean they are bad. They're here to help support and empower you to be your best self.

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Share your thoughts: What do you believe is holding people back from happiness?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/EERMA on 2023-11-24 18:21:47+00:00.

Goals may enhance any of the six aspects of wellbeing. Moving towards valued goals or attaining them may increase positive emotions, engagement in skilled activities, development of relationships, meaning and purpose in life, accomplishment and physical health.

That is, striving for goals (the journey) and goal attainment (arriving at the destination) can both enhance wellbeing. Goals can vary on many dimensions, including size (small or large goals) and time-frame (Short, medium, long term) and importance (highly valued, lesser valued). Here, we are considering large, long term, highly-valued goals.

Research on goals shows that they have a number of positive functions.

· They channel effort towards goals and so give life direction.

· They motivate us to keep going and not give up or be distracted.

· They help organise information, skills, and strategies in terms of means and ends.

· Where goals are related to fulfilling basic needs (e.g. acquiring food shelter, or resources) they facilitate survival.

· Where goals are long-term and highly valued (e.g. helping others) they can give life meaning. Without a vision for the future and highly valued goals to work towards, there is a risk of becoming aimless, unmotivated, and disorganised and wasting time doing things that are not valued.

· Highly valued goals create motivations to plan, discover new information, master skills, use strategies, stay focused, resist temptation and distraction, monitor progress, get feedback, take corrective action, manage time and resources effectively, meet deadlines and interact with other people in ways that facilitate goal attainment.

The downside to setting and pursuing highly valued goals is that these processes may sometimes lead to negative effect. There are two main reasons for this. First, goal setting highlights the discrepancy between the current and desired future state. If goal attainment is viewed as a prerequisite for happiness, ruminating about failing to attain goals or actual failure may lead to unhappiness. Secondly, the positive effects of reaching goals are usually transitory – habituation and the hedonic treadmill come in to play. We adapt to positive events such that they quickly become the new normal. However, the positive effects of achieving goals may be prolonged by savouring success. A second strategy is to focus attention on the process. Goal pursuit rather than goal attainment: enjoying the journey, not just the destination, is associated with greater wellbeing. This is particularly true when pursuing long-term, highly-valued goals.

Goals that involve doing activities rather than acquiring possessions, or that involve creating new experiences rather than changing circumstances, are more likely to lead to sustained increases in happiness and wellbeing. We adapt to changes in circumstances more than to changes in intentional activities. Because of this, goals that involve intentional activities have longer-lasting positive effects. Beyond the point at which our basic needs are met, vast increases in material possessions do not lead to commensurate increases in happiness and wellbeing. Because of this, goals that involve doing activities and engaging in new experiences lead to greater wellbeing then acquiring possessions.

Goals that involve approaching a valued outcome (for example, doing kind things for others) usually lead to greater wellbeing and goal attainment than those that involve avoiding an undesirable situation (for example avoiding conflict with others), and there are various reasons for this. It is easier to pursue and monitor progress towards approach compared with avoidance goals. Approach goals elicit more positive than negative cognitions because they focus attention on desirable outcomes. However, for adaptive functioning, a combination of both approach and avoidance goals is necessary, and individual goal preferences may determine the optimal balance of approach and avoidance goals for the wellbeing of any particular individual.

Goals with the following characteristics are more likely to enhance wellbeing:

· Appropriate to your life circumstances.

· They are intrinsically rewarding.

· Aligned with the basic needs for autonomy, competence and relatedness.

· They involve doing activities (more than changing circumstances).

· They engage in valued experiences (more than acquiring possessions).

· They approach valued outcomes (rather than avoiding undesirable outcomes).

· Your goals fit together harmoniously (and don’t conflict).

· They are visualisable / tangible and challenging (rather than fuzzy and easy).

· They inspire a high level of commitment (rather than little commitment).

· They can be monitored to give corrective feedback on progress.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Butterflies_Books on 2023-11-24 15:42:35+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/mansidhamija on 2023-11-24 14:38:33+00:00.

I read this quote by Sadhhguru lately and felt I have actually experienced it!

Even without working hard, if we have that focus & attention to every task we do, then I think we can develop a kind of intuitiveness that would necessarily work for us. Have you ever felt that?

I felt it once, when I was in the middle of a complicated project. The project had still 15 days to go before the delivery, but suddenly, the client demanded for the project to be delivered the same day. I remember I did not panic at all I don’t know how, though my other project mates all got anxious because the project was all disorganised till now; its correct functionality, then its errors, then its testing, everything was to be done!

I just had one thought in mind, that we have to do that and that it will be done on time. To even my surprise, I simply sat down, focused myself completely and did it all in just 4-5 hours. Everyone was surprised. I wonder even today, how did that happen? These were the most focused moments of my day till date! Haha

I am a kind of person who usually panics in such situations and makes situations look bigger than they actually are. And how come did I not get anxious that day? How was I able to complete that task single-handedly without any stress? And on top of that, I was able to finish it in no time!

Is it all connected to how we are, amidst situations? I did not panic at all and got the entire project completed, which was totally haywire right now!

That has never happened again till date.

Have you ever felt that?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Mayapaceybental on 2023-11-27 23:19:14+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/RivanShrestha on 2023-11-24 04:30:50+00:00.

Things have been going badly for me lately. I got locked out of my Twitter account and still haven't received my restoration tool yet even though it has been nearly three weeks. A bunch of my favorite websites have been taken down. Many of my favorite online authors have gotten their accounts deleted; one of them has made a new account but has not updated for over a week, when previous he would update daily. And finally college is stressing me out with all the exams, essays and the final coming soon. This is my first year in college and it has been bad. I have been getting low grades on my assignment, quizzes and tests, and I keep being hard on myself by blaming myself for everything bad that has been happening.

With all this happening my mind has been a complete mess and have not able to properly concentrate. I just want things to get better fast. Please I would really appreciate some positive advice and words of encouragement.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Obese_Ape on 2023-11-27 23:01:19+00:00.

I was an alcoholic for a large portion of my 20’s, currently 27 and 51 days sober now after a breakup where I caused it from my alcoholic nonsense.

I feel really good about where I am, and better about where I’m going, but often I am just so depressed and kicking myself over what could’ve been, and what if. Losing a large portion of my 20s really sucks, losing a woman I really liked suck, and all of these things that happened because of my own nonsense really creates a pit of self hatred.

How do I, not necessarily completely eliminate these thoughts, but at least lessen them?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/spiderinweb on 2023-11-27 19:02:22+00:00.

Thoughts on what you should have done? what do others think? And more self-critical and guilty thoughts.

Our thoughts can go pretty dark, and they follow around you like a stalker with a deadly negative vibe that can sabotage you from the inside.

This is haunting if we let ourselves identify with them. We listen to the fears of inadequacy just because they won’t shut up.

We believe we really are failures because it’s all we can think about - no matter how much self-helping books, or articles we read. If it was possible for us to be fixed then why do we still feel so broken?

Listen, We are not our thoughts–stop blaming yourself because of what the voice inside your head is saying. I believe, rather than judging yourself with thoughts, see what your actions say.

I bet you take care of your cat when they go through a bad time. I bet you helped that old person to cross the road. I bet you helped your family even if it is every little way.

Yes, your actions show a different picture of you than the thoughts do. I know I can't stop you from judging yourself but at least I ask you to consider all the the evidence.

We all go through a lot daily and those bad situations produce a bunch of dark and unhealthy thoughts. But assuming all those thoughts define who you are is never been true. Your thoughts are not something you are destined to have or begin with. 

So never consider those thoughts as your identity and self-image that you don't even want in your head. Instead, observe your actions, and what you have done so far.

Look at the hard work you put in Sunday night, especially on the days you feel like not doing anything. That's who you are. That's the actions forming the future you and that's what you are destined for.

You are that wild ship captain who survives the hard stormy nights. Steering your life every day in the cold and stiff weather at sea. Let me put something straight, you are not the storm, you are the person who steers the ship. 

It is easy to believe that people are judging you just as the thoughts speak. But believe me, it's not. They don't see the storm inside you, they just see the steer of your ship. They see the actions you took, the words you said, and the helping hand you give away to people who need your help.

The world sees the actions you choose to be and that's the version the world sees. Not the thoughts in your mind.

I still remember all the actions I had once done. That was hard because those memories create even harder negative thoughts. But we can choose different actions today, better actions that make us proud of ourselves. And these efforts become the pillars that define who you are.

So imagine all your thoughts as ocean waves, they come and go, some can sting like hell but they won't and never last. Because your actions are far more superior than your thoughts. And that is something you can control. 

Funny isn't it? You're such a powerful being that the only person who can stop you is yourself

So what actions are you going to pick today?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Lioness- on 2023-11-27 17:49:55+00:00.