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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/BFreeCoaching on 2023-11-26 16:53:51+00:00.
The #1 thing holding people back is a combination of two things:
1. People believe their emotions come from outside of them (i.e. their circumstances and other people).
As long as you believe your emotions come from outside of you, you'll understandably make everyone else responsible for how you feel (which hinders relationships), and you’ll end up feeling powerless to make any lasting change.
But as you remind yourself that your emotions come from your thoughts, then you empower yourself to be able to feel better, and it becomes easier to accept and embrace yourself, your life and people just as they are.
2. People don't understand the value of negative emotions.
Negative emotions are positive guidance (although it probably doesn't feel that way) letting you know you’re focusing on, and pushing against, what you don't want. Negative emotions want to support you in releasing them, focus more on what you want and feel better.
All emotions are equal. But if you (and most people do) create a hierarchy for your emotions (i.e. positive = good; negative = bad), then you make it harder to feel better, work together with and control your thoughts & emotions.
A lot of life's problems stem from having a contentious relationship with your negative thoughts & emotions. Which either creates the problem in the first place, and/or exacerbates it. So the solution is to build a harmonious relationship with the "negative" side of you. Just because they feel bad, doesn’t mean they are bad. They're here to help support and empower you to be your best self.
- BFree
Share your thoughts: What do you believe is holding people back from happiness?
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