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[–] [email protected] 220 points 1 year ago (10 children)

The HR department at your company is the company's advocate they are not your advocate.

[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's important to remember that - unless you work directly for the owner or an executive appointed by the board - they're not your boss' advocate either.

If the company is worth a shit, they don't want bosses that abuse their power or make their subordinates miserable. Happy employees are productive employees.

We've rid ourselves of a few problem bosses that way. Of course, this only applies to legitimate issues. If a boss is causing people to quit, you've got a good case.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This is the part everyone misses. I worked in HR for a number of years and 90% of my job was telling low/middle level managers "you can't do that to your employee." (I wasnt high up enough to be dealing with c-suite level complaintants), 9% was recruiting and paperwork, and 1% was telling an employee "You did something potentially terminable."

Most people only seem to recall that 1% and then keep talking about how "HR isn't your friend/on your side theyre on the company's side." Which is true! But they also didn't see the 1000 times I slapped their managers hand because I was on the companies side not the managers. Unless your really high up your manager is someone's employee too. HR isn't siding with you manager for shits and giggles, there is a reason management won a complaint against you and it isn't "HR likes management better." It's that they framed your problematic behavior better than you framed theirs. Frame everything you report to HR as "this is why it's a liability for the company" not "I don't like x,y,z. So-and-so is mean."

Also remeber just being a bad manager (not doing something immediately terminable) isn't a firable offense. Yelling/being a low level dick for example may not be something deemed firable. One complaint isn't gonna e enough and ideally multiple people will complain as well.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The trick is knowing how to phrase it so it's clear it's a problem for the company. They usually love SBIN (situation behavior impact next steps) so it's good format to use:

Dear HR,

On the meeting XYZ

My boss Bully McIdiot was screaming like a toddler at everyone that disagreed with him

This is preventing the free flow of ideas and Innovation and creating an »»hostile work environment««

So he should be fired. Preferably from a cannon.

kisses and hugs,

the employee of the year

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago

However, the two things aren't mutally exclusive. Bad behaviour that risks reputational or legal damage to the company will make HR cross. Think about how you frame things when talking to HR

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago

I am continually flabbergasted that people don’t know this. HR is not your friend.

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[–] [email protected] 181 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Everyone should know that, very often, they are just wrong. And that’s ok. We all are.

The more ready you are to really accept that you could be wrong about anything, and admit when you are wrong about something, the better you will make your own life, as well as the lives of those around you.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 year ago

And not only will you make everyone's lives better - seemingly ironically, by simply accepting the fact that you're often wrong, you actually make it more likely that you'll be right.

That's the part that I think people especially need to understand, since a refusal to admit that you're wrong is generally rooted in an ego-driven need to be right, and refusing to admit that you're wrong guarantees that right is the one thing that you won't be. You'll just keep clinging to the same wrong idea and keep failing to fulfill that need to be right.

If, on the other hand, you just freely admit that you're wrong, then you're instantly free to move on to another, and better, position, making it that much more likely that you'll actually be right. And if you don't get it that time, that's fine - just freely admit that you're wrong again and move on again. Keep doing that and sooner or later you actually will be right, instead of just pretending to be.

So you'll not only make everyone's lives more pleasant - you'll actually better serve your desire to be right. What more could you want?

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[–] [email protected] 135 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Control + Backspace deletes entire words rather than individual characters

[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Control + Arrows also moves your text cursor by whole words. Combine it with shift and you can easily select a bunch of text without the mouse.

Another one that took me far too long to learn: Shift + Tab will do the same thing as tab (next element) in reverse

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[–] [email protected] 113 points 1 year ago (10 children)

The ducks at the park are free. Like you can just take them.

[–] [email protected] 57 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I had a conversation with ChatGPT on that subject. It could not stress enough how terrible it would be for the duck if I brought it home with me, and that was despite me informing the AI that the duck in question was special, that it could talk and had specifically requested to come home with me.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago (4 children)

This is not true. There are a litany of laws that capturing a wild duck from a public park would be a violation of, so don't do it.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 111 points 1 year ago (3 children)

You can only help people who want to be helped. That goes for yourself, too. You can't help yourself until you actually have the desire to improve.

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[–] [email protected] 106 points 1 year ago (13 children)
  • Exercise grows your hippocampus
  • So do antidepressants according to recent research
  • Small hippocampal volume is an excellent predictor of depression and anxiety
  • Exercise grows your hippocampus, in a dose-dependent way
  • Exercise grows your hippocampus
  • Exercise grows your hippocampus

This is the most important fact I have ever learned.

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[–] its_prolly_fine 95 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Drowning is very fast, seconds not minutes like in the movies. People in distress can take minutes before they are actively drowning. Active drowning is silent, they will not be yelling for help. It looks like the person is "climbing" or pushing down at the water. They will be vertical in the water and may be "bobbing", going underwater and resurfacing. They will have their head tilted back parallel to the surface of the water.

If you see someone go under in open water keep looking at where they went under while calling for help, don't take your eyes off it. If you are the only one who saw them go under, your job is to direct others to where they went down. In open water it's very hard to find people because the bottom isn't visible.

[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 year ago

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago

Also drowning can happen after inhalation of water. All incidents involving children being rescued from water may require medical intervention, even if they seem fine initially. "Dry drowning"

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[–] [email protected] 95 points 1 year ago (4 children)

The gas gauge tells you which side the filler is at on a vehicle.

[–] [email protected] 38 points 1 year ago (5 children)
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[–] [email protected] 91 points 1 year ago (3 children)

That "coronavirus 2 (SARS-CoV-2), the virus that causes COVID-19, can have lasting effects on nearly every organ and organ system of the body weeks, months, and potentially years after infection (11,12). Documented serious post-COVID-19 conditions include cardiovascular, pulmonary, neurological, renal, endocrine, hematological, and gastrointestinal complications (8), as well as death.".

This is true regardless of symptom severity or health status, every person is at risk. I think most people really aren't aware of this, they absorbed the narrative that it's gone, mild, only kills/harms the vulnerable, etc. This isn't really their fault, there are a lot of factors that have led people to that belief, but people should know their lives and livelihoods are much more at risk now than 4 years ago.

And that this isn't inevitable, there are simple methods of disrupting transmission and protecting yourself and others. COVID-19 is here to stay (unless we do something about that) and it has impacts on every person infected and on society at large. That shouldn't mean folks accept illness and worse quality of life. We adapt and adopt precautions in our life to reduce long-term health impacts, like we've done before with many other illnesses that plague humanity.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago (12 children)

And the possible risks are compounded with each infection. People are acting like covid just isn't a problem anymore, like it's gone away. Meanwhile, roughly 100 Americans are dying of covid every day - and we're not even in a surge at the moment.

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[–] [email protected] 73 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bleach + vinegar = toxic chlorine gas that can be lethal.

Not sure how many people know this but I was in my mid-20s when I found this out, luckily not the hard way.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Also bleach and ammonia.

Basically, don't mix cleaning chemicals.

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[–] [email protected] 73 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Something that applies when you get a little older - if you’re in a relatively specific job field, don’t burn your bridges at a job you’re going to leave. You never know who will be sitting across the table from you at the interview, at the meeting table, on the job site. People in the same field tend to move around in the same jobs as you. If it’s someone you burned, you may not get the job, or if you do, it could be pretty miserable.

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[–] [email protected] 67 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Unless you are wealthy, if you think life is to expensive you should ask for more taxes, not less.

The issue is not your net income, but wealth redistribution and solidarity.

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Magnetic USB connectors are a thing and can save your cables/devices not just from wear and tear (unplugging/replugging constantly) but also from cables being tripped over or otherwise pulled. Highly recommended if you're using VR! Sadly there are no standards to these.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 1 year ago (14 children)

The cable is the weakest link of Earbuds for durability.

IEM's with replaceable cables are readily available and getting very cheap & good these days (e.g. Moondrop Chu 2, Truthear Hola, etc)

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[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Keyboard shortcuts and basic computer knowledge. I'm in college and just existing with tech illiterate people is maddening.

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[–] [email protected] 46 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When you're about to face a high risk, high reward situation, you should willfully, willingly start to hyperventilate, as this helps your brain ...

NEVER take any stranger's advice on the internet as credible without checking it with a specialist. This is especially true when said advice relates to your health and/or safety.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

That seems like good advice...

I guess I can't trust it. Since a stranger in the internet told me eh? Lol

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Most microwaves can be muted so the button pushes are all silent. You will have to look up how to on each microwave model but almost all models have a mute option.

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[–] BananaPeal 42 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (9 children)

In Windows 10 & 11, window+shift+S then draw a box to grab a quick, pre-cropped screenshot. It goes to your clipboard for easy paste and you get a notification you can click to view and save to file.

Bonus: use window+L at work to lock your desktop, preventing shenanigans.

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago

What wasn’t reasoned in, can’t be reasoned out. Many people who suffer from conspiratorial thinking need help and support more than evidence and debate.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (9 children)

Cement is highly alkaline. If wet cement comes in contact with your skin, it can cause third degree chemical burns. So don't write your name in wet cement like Bart Simpson.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Tires can get damaged internally and the only real way to tell is to dismount them from the rim. If there is internal damage they can potentially explode while being filled with air.

I see a lot of people filling up their tires while sitting straight infront of them and if they do explode it explodes straight outward. My tip is to connect the air gauge and then stand of to the side while filling, just in case.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I have filled a lot of tires and I cannot think of a single time where I had appropriate equipment to inflate the tire from any position that wasn’t right in front of it.

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago (12 children)

Mitochondria (the famous powerhouse of the cell) is a symbiotic bacteria that became so entangled with our cell that neither can now live without the other. Sorry to everyone who knows, in some regions this is not common knowledge. Knowing this makes your life immensely better because it's such a cool fact.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Use windows + p to change the presentation settings on a laptop when connecting to a monitor or audio / video system. This lets you quickly change between laptop, dual display, and extended desktop.

Windows + x and then b brings up a menu where you can turn on "presention" mode, preventing the laptop from going to sleep during a presentation.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Cars are way more expensive than you think, and getting rid of it will make you happier and way wealthier.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ztHZj6QNlkM

[–] [email protected] 46 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

I don't think it will make me happier to spend 1.5 hour in the bus and train instead of 20min by car.

[–] lutillian 25 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah, a lot of the in the Americas it's not the fact that we'd rather be in a car it's that our public transit options are just so non-competitive with driving by design that it makes no sense to ever use them from a time perspective if you can afford not to.

If you live somewhere like the Bay area where you've got the BART or Chicago with the L, you can 100% use public transit as your daily driver because it's actually faster then driving in most cases and you can read or do work while doing so... sadly this is not the case in most places. Takes me 15 minutes to drive into downtown, if I took the bus it would take me 2 and a half hours.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (3 children)

You can't take money with you when you die.

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