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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

I would call my dad and tell him I was currently at a U2 concert with my favorite musician ever Bono.

He knows I can't stand U2 and I despise Bono. We disagree about it often. If I suddenly started singing his praises he would know something was wrong.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

Bababooey bababooey, Howard Stern's penis, bababooey!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)
[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago

Ask for kidnappers number. This is the most care and attention anyone has shown me in a decade...

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

They'd already be surprised I call and think something is of

[–] threelonmusketeers 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

something is of

Of what? :)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Something is off :)

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago

That I'm calling at all signifies there's a problem.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I'd drop in something about wanting a big steak when I got home, I'm veggie so that would alarm people. It's also something the kidnappers will only know if I tell them, so it's safe.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

You'd tell them right away

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

I have a feeling that they would immediately say, "but you don’t eat steak" and the kidnapper would be like, "WTF."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Veggie steaks exist right, so might still lead to some confusion. Maybe specify the animal.

[–] southsamurai 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'd give one of the panic codes.

Yes, I'm a bit of a weirdo, and yes, I have insisted that all of us have panic codes. Well, all the ones that I care enough about to be in contact with regularly

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

That's a really sensible idea, there's all sorts of situations where you might need to use one. Have any of you ever had to use one?

[–] southsamurai 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Not one of those, no.

I have had to use a scramble code though.

That's an "all hands on deck" phrase where anyone and everyone getting it starts getting ready to roll ASAP. Had to use it when both of my parents had heart attacks within 24 hours of each other. The people relevant to that kind of situation are all in one group chat, so if one of us is in some kind of personal emergency where we'll need support, transportation, whatever, we can send the phrase, and the rest of the group can prep for the usual backup needed.

In that case, it was simple stuff. Someone to check on pets, making sure the house was locked up, checking the house to make sure nothing dangerous got left going, then waiting for any specific requests.

That one's been used a handful of times since my best friend and I originally set it up, and then it got expanded to include the folks that are part of our core family. He needed it when his husband broke a leg. My sister needed it twice when my niece was sick as an infant. My friend's husband needed it when he was called on by his family and needed serious support to help them. My mom used it once when she was emotionally overwhelmed with my niece while my sister was out of town.

But it's a quick way of activating the mutual support network we have.

When my friend's husband broke his leg, he was out of town, all we knew at first was that my friend sent the code. So we started organizing amongst us for what might be needed momentarily immediately, and what we might need to prep if the situation was major and/or long term.

So, I got my shit together and went to their place to secure the house in case my friend wasn't in the right frame of mind. Made sure their pets were okay, stuff like that. But I was also communicating with everyone else for whatever might be needed.

Which meant that when we got word about what had happened, my sister and dad were able to bring me supplies so that they'd be ready for when the guys got home. My guys were able to get home, the pets were in crates so that paths were clear. Had some food cooked up and stored for a few days. That kind of thing.

Having that phrase available means that you can send it, and just not worry about anything except whatever it is that's coming at you. You know that shit will get handled while you're handling, and that when there's a lull long enough to communicate, you won't have to waste time asking for help with much of anything that can actually be prepared for without details. More, you know that at least one person is going to be awake and waiting for when that lull happens and you can finally communicate, no matter what it is you need to say.

That's, imo, a much more useful code word than the panic button word.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

This is a fucking brilliant idea! I'm gonna set it up with my mates thanks

[–] ilovededyoupiggy 7 points 1 week ago

Nice try, kidnapper!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'd use a Community reference.

"I'm fine. F I N E."

(In the show, Troy and Abed have a code. If it's spelled FYNE, it's fine.)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Oooooh good one

[–] neidu3 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'd call a friend and say "I'm victorious on all fronts", or something to that effect, but I'd do so in incredibly bad German, a language I barely speak (Ich an alle fronten siegt?). That way he'd easily get my reference to late stage WW2 nazi propaganda and know that the situation is extremely dire.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Wouldn't it be siege?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Mum and I have a code word for when something is off.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Nah, "sandy". Feeling sandy, getting sandy, have you spoken to Sandy. Various meanings but basically between us it means this situation is dodgy, lets bail.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I never got to do this when this happened to me, but I have a rare-ish name that I pronounce in an unusual way compared to other people who have the same name, and if I pronounce my name correctly, that's what everyone for some reason agrees on anticipating as the official signal that I'm in distress.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

When this happened to you?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Almost a decade ago. Was too silenced the whole time to be able to do anything.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

"hey, pete!"

- lois.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

Hi, i am unharmed but i am kidnapped + a secret they know that verifies i am not ai. There demands are x. I love you.