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Sounds like something a figment of the imagination of the only person in the universe would say

I often think of the phrase “we judge others by their actions and ourselves by our intent,” usually while driving, and try to just let people live their life and their story.

not enough layers

You’re absolutely right about how deeply the fear of rejection is embedded in us—it's instinctual, a relic of survival. But here’s the thing: in our modern world, that same fear doesn’t protect us the way it once did. Instead, it traps us. It makes us bend and shape ourselves to fit into spaces we may not even want to be in, just to avoid discomfort.

The truth is, we all need connection, but the path to genuine connection isn’t through constant adaptation or hiding in safety bubbles—it’s through authenticity. When you stop worrying so much about how others perceive you and start living for yourself, two things happen: you begin to feel freer and more at peace, and your openness creates a magnetism that draws others toward you.

Awkwardness, rejection, and failure? They’re inevitable, but they also don’t define you. Each time you stop rationalizing avoidance and choose to show up as your full self, you break that fear’s hold on you. You discover what really matters: living authentically, for you, not for validation or social survival.

That’s where real strength comes from—not from being universally accepted but from no longer needing to be. And ironically, the less you care about how others perceive you, the more meaningful connections you end up making.

Lovebombing is derived from the first stages of entering a cult, where initially, everyone is extremely, unconditionally friendly and accomodating, but then later all of that becomes extremely conditional, requiring strict adherence to rules and unwavering obedience to avoid punishment, shaming, and/or ostracization.

This meaning actually comes from academics that study cults.

This definition then migrated over to mostly women describing one on one relationships with mostly men.

The problem is that this carries an immense amount of negative connotations and implications over to a one on one relationship that are very rarely actually present.

It is a completely normal relationship dynamic to have an initial exciting phase, that then changes to mutually recognizing and respecting boundaries, and mutually agreeing on and trusting each other with responsibilities, as the relationship matures.

What I have seen over and over is a (usually, but not always) gal will say that a guy was very affectionate and loving at first, but then that lessened over time...

... but if you ask the (usually, but not always) guy, they'll say that they lost interest and intensity in the relationship because the gal just didn't respect the guy's boundaries, did not hold up to responsibilities she agreed to, or just kept making requests or demands the guy has told the gal he is not financially capable of meeting.

The (usually, but not always) gal will describe this as 'lovebombing', as if the guy was putting on a front, being duplicitous the whole time, with all the implications that this guy was as dangerous and manipulative as a cult leader...

... and the (usually but not always) guy will describe the gal as some kind of phrase indicating self-centered and/or greedy and/or overly demanding, all take and no give.

Its wild to watch society at large do this more and more often, from the outside, as a non corpo, algorithm driven social media user.

ironically, i've sort of done this at a smaller scale among some of the communities im in, and you would not believe how stupid people are, even when you literally inform them to their face that you're saying stupid shit for the purposes of saying stupid shit.

rage bait is incredibly effective and there's a reason everything using it goes so far. It's innate to the human psyche.

oh and by the way, for anybody who thinks this is like unethical or whatever, trust me, they LOVE eating it up. You would not believe how much shitpost you can do, before people realize that you might be shitposting.

hey that's ableist!

apart from that, yeah i agree with you. in general, if you compare Trump's and Hitler's speeches, you can see how extremely complicated some sentences that Hitler said were. Watch some (AI english dubbed, starting around 30 seconds in). Compare that to Trump's speeches, whose vocabulary seems to consist of 5 words.

Yeah, quality has gone down, it seems. I just talked to my aunt and grandma about this exact same thing yesterday. Everything seems to gradually loose quality, or in other words, enshittify.

(btw, i do not mean to say that Hitler's speeches were "good"; i was merely pointing out that the clarity of expression has gone down. The same can be seen with automobiles, houses, and many other things.)

Btw, I remember reading an article that said, after 2000, universities in the USA specifically tried to erode clarity in speech, because they found it proper. It's called post-structuralism; structuralism referring to "clarity". I hoped i summarized that well.

It might have something to do, or not, but it definitely is a coincidence.