Please don't post about US Politics.
1) Be nice and; have fun
Doxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them
2) All posts must end with a '?'
This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?
3) No spam
Please do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.
4) NSFW is okay, within reason
Just remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either [email protected] or [email protected].
NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].
5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions.
If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email [email protected]. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.
Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.
Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu
This is like one of those impossible "wife" questions with no good answer and no clean escape.
"Hey honey, if a clone of me ever replaced me, you'd be able to tell the difference right."
"Of course dear"
"Well how"
"Umm, how about XYZ"
"What if they copied XYZ too"
"ZYX?"
"ZYX! Is that what you think of me!!"
Don't answer this you fools!
Well, I shoot myself in the head a lot. It's a habit I'm trying to -- whoops! There I go again.
Same. I am anxious that the alien dopplegangers will figure this out, though.
Nice try AI.
Nice try evil doppelgänger, nice try.
If I suddenly became a competent adult, I think it might tip people off.
I am unable to speak using contractions.
Data? Or Lore????
What specific traits or habits do people close to you recognize that would reveal an impostor trying to mimic you?
They ask me what specific things would reveal themselves when they mimic me. Thats probably a red flag.
Nice try, shapeshifting doppelganger. I already have one evil twin, thanks.
I make people answer Newlywed Game type questions with me, designate secret meeting spots and places to look for secret messages from me, and make up elaborate backstories just in case.
ETA- despite years of training for this, my husband's answer was - An imposter would be able to wink with just one eye and finish a meal without spilling anything.
If I ate something in silence, my partner would likely notice something was off immediately. The sound of even my own chewing (mouth closed, ofc) triggers my misophonia
My Kiwi accent (despite not being in New Zealand), my abnormally dark irises, my teeth (nothing particularly unusual except a few have an odd shape), my honeymoon rhinitis, my distinct snoring when I sleep, my semi-snorty laugh, my uncanny ability to quote my favorite media, my asexuality (supposing someone were to try to tempt me in ways that would tempt anyone else), my talent in cryptography (or rather certain kinds), my art style, and how I elaborately express myself all come to mind.
Can i ask about asexuality? I've never heard it described in that way - actually, i guess I've never heard it described at all. I don't really know what my question is.
The reason asexuality isn't misunderstood that well, I'm guessing, is because there are different forms of it.
Many asexuals don't get turned on, and these are called non-libidoist asexuals. Many get turned on by people but are asexual because they don't get turned on by the act of co-pleasure. These are called libidoist asexuals. Some not only don't get turned on but are averse to what others would consider physical fulfillment.
Unlike other orientations, where it's typically a fated circumstance, because asexuality pertains to a lack of what it refers to, it's equally possible to be born with asexuality as well as acquire it later. Someone not born with it could be rendered asexual, for example, through a virus... correct me if I'm wrong but I read somewhere that long covid had a symptom or two like that.
In any category, you can also be asexual and still like companionship (romantic asexuals), or you might not (aromantic asexuals) since companionship is fulfilling another part of us.
Suppose I was facing some kind of Journey to the West type of trial and someone wanted to tempt me, so they bring in some guys who they think are a surefire way to get me to become tempted. It's not a matter of self-discipline, it simply wouldn't work as they envisioned. I would walk right through them unaffected. That part of me is to physical temptation what a colorblind person is to color.
I don't understand how someone knows what/when to label. We all vary from time to time, in different periods of our lives and in different settings and situations. Yeah, health issues and medications can play a big role. When does low or high libido become so far outside the norm (or perceived norm) that it gets labeled?
In shows and movies, a woman kisses a man or unbuttons her blouse and the man suddenly become powerless to resist. Who the heck are these men that are so swayed by a hint of cleavage that they'll hand over state secrets or their bank pin? And where are they training these women in voodoo kisses?
That's why sexual orientation is often told of as a discovery process. You will hear people mention when they "discovered" when they were this or that. In a society without implied bias, there wouldn't be any such curveballs though.
A friend of mine who is also in the asexual crowd came from an enormous family and often observed their behaviors and habits and wondered about them, and conversations came up about it. He, being five years older than me, was surprised at the time to have a conversation with a relative of his who adhered to all the incel stuff that physical expression in a relationship wasn't just a form of social norm rebellion taken up by mischievous coming-of-age individuals and that there was a drive towards people acting out physical expression. The relative, as well as many others then and now, were equally surprised this friend of mine had no outright appetite or even desire for physical expression, instead, like me, preferring company alone.
Legend has it this relative, who made my friend realize he (said friend) was in the asexual crowd, was trying to woo my friend's would-be lover (who is my other best friend), but in causing my friend to realize he was who he was, led him to revealing to me that I was the same based on me exhibiting the same differences in behavior and habits, and I in turn did the same for the would-be lover, since she happened to be one too (something in the water I guess?), with the would-be lover strengthening her bond with the first friend as a result, since those in the asexual category often find themselves unable to maintain relationships with individuals who thrive on physical expression. This, in turn, was said to erupt the ire of the relative, who, in not understanding what asexuality could possibly entail, put himself at a disadvantage in regards to the friends.
We do vary, yes. But that doesn't mean someone's asexual status can't still be determined, even at a young age. It's not as if people at young ages haven't grasped at least a little of their "interests" and how they work... to say someone's not old enough to know a little of how their interests work requires one forgets about this. There is a difference between being interested in something out of an inclination and because it's the social expectation, which plays into how people of less represented orientations "discover" who they are. The asexual "nicene creed" or "binding omen" is when you see someone who, when put in circumstances where that physical expression is impossible, such as an abbey or in a prison, doesn't care whatsoever.
It's only difficult to understand why someone doesn't have a certain inclination because of culturally-pushed idea... nobody is saying to those in the depression crowd "I can't understand why you don't feel happiness" and nobody is saying to people outside the periodic cramp crowd "I can't understand why you don't feel cramps", but they all are saying to the asexual crowd "I can't understand why you don't have this inclination", which is an irony that's added onto when those same people say "well it varies, how do you know you're one" as if they didn't just allude to circumstances when the inclination isn't on the table. Even when someone is gay nobody questions it, but for some reason asexuality confuses people? In all due respect, their confusion confuses me.
Sorry, I have to ask about honeymoon rhinitis, you are allergic to traveling but only if you were recently married?
Honeymoon rhinitis is a phenomenon where some peoples' nose gets stuffed up when aroused. It's similar to people who say they look at bright light and sneeze. If I'm near a crush, I sound like I have the sniffles.
I joke sometimes that if I had an evil clone you could find out which one of us it was by looking at our left arms; mine is slightly crooked because of a childhood injury
Personally, I never have my radio on in the car and I near-always back into parking slots.
Well this obviously depends on how well informed my impostor is. But I would say my choice of sushi or breakfast would be among things that could out the doppelganger. Also my choice of drinks, the drink would probably out the doppelganger faster than the food.
Food related patterns would be pretty strong indicators for me as well, I think.
I only eat after 4pm (sometimes only from 6-10 or so) and people comment when I actually eat earlier than that, especially breakfast. I almost never use condiments or salt (I’m on a very low sodium diet and have been most of my life; I don’t use salt outside of baking, and that’s half salt). Give my dopple unsalted fries and you’ll know right away.
Drinks would work well for me as well - coffee made a very specific way, or room temp water, mostly (I actively dislike cold and hot water).
The way I pronounce the word "sorry" as well as my inflection whenever I'm speaking. Only my close friends whom I speak to in private know what my voice sounds like.
There are words I've made up that I jokingly use around friends. An impostor would not know about this as I speak to my friends privately and I never join chat servers, where bad actors could be eavesdropping. A wrong answer or "I don't know" would out them as an impostor.
My art. I will deliberately make "mistakes" in my art that are subtle enough to not be seen by most people, but I will be able to tell if someone is trying to copy it. Map makers do something similar.
Other random details only my friends know about that'd immediately out an impostor once asked.
Re: bullet point 2, that’s called a familect if you weren’t already aware. I just love that word and that it’s a thing, because it feels like nobody really acknowledges how widespread it is. We just all walk around having our own secret languages only our loved ones understand.
I didn't know about that but that was interesting to read about and now I know what it's called, thank you! 😃
Following your example, I never throw on a playlist or let my streaming app generate one. Albums all the way.
