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I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don't feel like anyone notices.

So I'm going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It's harder and more thankless, since when you're young and athletic you're usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I'll try to throw out a "looks like you're cooking up some good stuff"

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 4 months ago (12 children)

Anything. Literally anything. The only time I get noticed is when someone needs something from me. I define my existence by how useful I am to others because that's the only time I've ever felt wanted. I hate it, but it's better than being completely ignored (which has happened many times in my life).

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

May I compliment you on your grammar and punctuation?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I see the word commission in a lot of your art posts. Do you draw? It's good stuff.

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 4 months ago (6 children)

I like when other men compliment my penis.

Just a causal ’Nice dick bro’ when I’m wearing my nice gray sweats.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I try do that at the urinals. Followed by offering a helping hand for the final shake

[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 months ago

You’re a true gentleman.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I used to be a dude years ago, so I hope you'll still accept a "nice dick, bro!"

[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I used to be a dude too.

Stil am, but I used to be as well.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Dude, the grey sweatpants drive me crazy. Can't keep my eyes off you when you wear those.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 4 months ago (2 children)

To answer honestly, probably that someone enjoys having me around

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Genuine compliments on personality are always cool. Like, "you're good at making people feel comfortable around you" or whatever. People often wonder what role they play in social situations, being told they're doing good is nice. At least I appreciate it whenever it happens.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I put a bunch of effort into making my moustache curly, a bit like Dali. And recently I received a compliment from a dude for that. I really liked that.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Nice, getting compliment from women isn't easy. But getting them from guys is even harder. You must have a great moustache.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I mean, it still doesn't stay curly as much as I'd like it to (even with wax or pomade) but its definitely pretty nice when its the way i want it to be, I think!

My moustache

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

That is actually very impressive. I toyed with the idea of doing this for fun one year, but I gave up when I realised how properly hard it was going to be to achieve. Nice one.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

What helped me was shifting my habit of chewing nails to twirling my moustache lol

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

Well that's a double win then.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

That dude is also full chill. Taking the time and breaking whatever possible comfort zones for the both of you to commend you on your moustache. That's a nice fella. Somebody husband that bastard real quick.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 4 months ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 32 points 4 months ago (1 children)

My personal favorite probably is compliments on when I have built/fixed something. It's the skill I'm the most proud of.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (4 children)

As a father, I'd like to hear how well I combine being an emotionally supportive dad while maintaining a demanding job and taking care of cooking, repairs and other stuff at home.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I'm always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say "cool shirt!" out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I've rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.

[–] Mouselemming 16 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls' heads because they're afraid of how the guy would react.

Which is why it's nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they've put in effort.

I'm going to add, "Great hair!" And, "Those glasses really suit you!"

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

"I'm so jealous of your bottomless cash flow"

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm super jealous of your bottomless cash flow, mine's pretty much only topless

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

With a name like "toomanypancakes" I was expecting you to have a muffin top.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 months ago

I love your small pp and body odor

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm usually pretty happy to be recognized for my extreme dexterity.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Hey there, I saw you juggling while twirling a drumstick and just wanted to tell you I was really impressed by your dexterity

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago

"That's an interesting thought!"

"This (thing I worked on) looks great!"

"I respect the choices you're making here."

[–] _haha_oh_wow_ 10 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Praise for any genuine public service whether that's being an EMT or just picking up a piece of trash. The world would probably be better off if we focused more on recognizing actions and less on superficial things like what clothes you can afford or physical appearance.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (2 children)

ooh. I would not get any compliments based on OP original criteria but could get some with yours. Honestly though compliments make me uncomfortable.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Anything other than the typical "nice shirt" or "wow you're tall" I get, really.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago (2 children)

“Thanks. I stretch every day” lmao

“You’re tall” is the “nice tits” of male compliments

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

It's enough to compliment them on whatever is new. New shoes, new haircut, new shirt, new tattoo, etc.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago (7 children)

Complimenting another guy's physique is a bit weird I think unless you're trying to date them or are someone who works on their body as well.

As an older guy who recently got into shape (and am definitely not an introvert) it always comes across a bit weird to me when someone who is out of shape mentions it.

As a hetero male, of course I'm happy when any women mentions it, but it actually feels better when someone who is in better shape mentions it (probably because I'm married and a women's comment, while nice, isn't actionable but someone who is in better shape knows the work it took to get here).

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Tell me my nipples are a normal size.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Your nips are both especially manly and normal sized, I'm suitably impressed!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

Not overly, mind you. Just suitably

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

My bro changes literally anything, they get a "Nice, bro."

[–] yourNewFavouriteUser 6 points 4 months ago

None, i genuinely cannot handle beeing complimented

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