No Stupid Questions

you could have a winning personality - make women laugh (with you, not at you)... alternately, you could obtain a lot of muscles, that's all some women need. or move somewhere where men are in short supply - or where you'd be seen as exotic... and it'd be cheaper than leg lengthening surgery.

You might think you’re ugly, but I guarantee there are plenty of people out there that find you wildly attractive.

The first thing to do is believe that and start working toward finding yourself attractive. I’ve been working on this for the past few years and just yesterday had my first moment where I looked at my naked body in the mirror and was like ‘oh…. That’s nice’. Having that confidence is a game changer.

Also, short kings are a whole demographic of highly sought after people. Being short is not a detriment except to toxic masculine men.

Be funny, very good at socializing, and rich?

Also, don't have unrealistic standards in your romantic pursuits.

How fulfilled is your life without a romantic partner? Do you know what you want?

The worst partners I had were the ones that had nothing going on. No goals, no hobbies, nothing. They expected me to be their world.

The better relationships I had were with people that knew what they wanted from life. They didn't need me to complete them, but I was definitely a welcome addition.

I do not believe I am conventionally attractive, but there are people that like me. For every fella that only dates skinny blondes, there's another that wouldn't give them a second look. Additionally, if someone really likes you for you, you might just get more physically attractive to them even if you're not their type. (It has happened to me!)

As for money, yes some people will only look at you if you have a lot of money. At least they filter themselves out if you don't have it. You don't have to be perfect with money, but as long as you are reasonable enough with money, you should be fine.

Some low self-esteem is workable, but if you are always ragging on yourself it gets grating. I was with this guy and he kept telling me how ugly he was. I would always reassure him. It was exhausting after a while. I think everyone needs validation every now and again, but constantly?! Ahhh!

If you get this stuff down, at least then you will have better chances with women. (Or whatever gender you prefer.) If your only goal is to get a girlfriend, then that is not so great. If it's only one of your goals or something you're passively open to, then you are in a much better position. Relationship opportunities, romantic or not, seem to crop up when you're doing something else you enjoy.

You don't. Who cares. Find some short ugly lady to marry and you'll be happy.

I don't understand this feeling of being alone forever. For every ugly dude there's an ugly lady. For every fat guy, there's a fat chick. For every poor dude, there's a poor lady. That's just how distributions work.

So go out there, be confident, find your beast and take her home. And love her and be happy.

These are all bad ideas. The more you change yourself to "please" everyone else, the less happy you will ever be. One of the hardest lessons of life is to learn that, you can't ever please everyone, and when you change to please someone, they'll soon change what they want and you'll never stop having to change to please them.

The real secret to happiness is not to change yourself at all. It's to learn how to like who you are, the way you are. Yes the world is cruel and cold - and it's awlays going to be that way. You aren't the problem here. You are fine just the way you are, and it's a secret that could save many lives and keep many people from self-harm if they only realized it at a younger age.

The truth is, nobody wants someone around them who is trying to please them all the time. They want to be around someone who is self-confident and radiates a healthy well-adjusted persona that says "this is who I am, love it or leave it."

Becoming rich to attract people may work to attract people, but they'll only be attracted by the money, not by you. As soon as that runs out, so will they. And usually they will run out anyway, even if the money doesn't.

You need to get some help with your attitude about yourself, and start deciding that you're OK as you are. Do not do the surgery option - it's wrong. Women who get surgery to "look more like so and so" are never happy. Surgery isn't the answer to your problems in life, at all.

There's a lot of preferences out there. Most try to chase unicorns but each of them have their own phases.

I think you can compensate it by not giving up, or just know when your time to chase unicorns is over.

I hear money works.

Women have much more words-orientation than we guys do.

Invest in:

• Wonderworks
• The Anatomy of Genres
• The Anatomy of Story
• a couple of Gottman's books
• Logan, King, & Fischer-Wright's "Tribal Leadership"
• Halvorson's "The 8 Motivational Challenges"

& understand both how to woo women much more competently, as well as how to make your woman live a healthier life ( the "Tribal Leadership" book & Gottman's stuff ), & know how to recognize different unconscious-mind styles from Halvorson's book, so you aren't investing in a lost-cause.

• Kegan & Lahey's "Immunity to Change" is required if you're in it for the long-haul ( in your own life, or in a marriage/family, both paths need this leverage, in our world ), and want to competently dismantle your unconscious-mind's obstruct-growing-up-to-protect-status-quo mechanism..

Life's worth much!

A little study can go a long way, if one knows what one ought be studying, you know?

People judge others by appearance .. when we have nothing-else to go-on.

When one has significant evidence of someone's worth, and that evidence isn't their appearance, their appearance becomes rather irrelevant...

Some people are entirely-visual, some are entirely non-visual ( like me ) in thinking.

Unless you're clawing-your-way-out-from-reincarnation ( like me ), there likely are good-matches for you.

The significant-evidence item, though, identifies that you need to be hanging-around among women, for them to get to know you, like volunteering somewhere, or something..

Do well, eh?

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if you take the time to really get to know someone and make them feel understood and comfortable around you and trust you, you'd be amazed at what you can pull off.

be handy, be emotionally available, be good company, be funny, be functional and fun.

theres countless dime pieces that are tired of being abused by gorgeous losers.

@[email protected] By being funny and interesting, ugly and boring → you are fucked.

Additionally, growing a beard might help you