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Oh man, that is absolutely rough. I'm really sorry. I shouldn't have critised not knowing your position, I'm sorry.

I hope it works out for you, perhaps seeking some professional help for a healthy outlet to your pain may help. I'm not sure if Lemmy has DMs, but hit me up if you want to chat too.

Good luck to you, brother

Thankyou! And didn't even realise what community I was in 🤦‍♂️

Hey man, relationships that have ended but the people haven't parted ways is rough. Particularly rough on your daughter. Take it from me, the child of 2 people that dispised each other; it really messes you up for decades. I'm in therapy discussing this stuff every week. It's really hard.

You need to do what's best for your daughter. Staying together is clearly not the answer. It's done for you and your wife. It's never better for the child to live it a broken home, with tension between parents. Even if you think you cover it up from her 100%, it will affect her for years to come.

Separate from your wife, you'll be happier and it will be doing your daughters mental health a huge benefit

Help a brother out, what's a tankie?

NTA. I'm not sure what your father did, but it sounds like it has had a profound impact on yours and your sisters life. It also sounds that your father isnt exactly inline to win a no. 1 dad trophie.

Sounds like your aunt is coming from a place where the appearance of family, and the tradition of family is above your and your sisters feelings.

Personally, I believe fuck that. Blood ain't thicker than water. If someone who is meant to love and care you unconditionally and doesn't, then you don't owe them anything.

Robot vacuume Good running shoes A good pair of headphones

I have seen people get nice furniture second hand like a half cupboard/storage unit/etc from second hand shops and install racks into them and mount everything in there and cut some vent holes at the back.

For extra points wack some flowers and a photo of your wife on top with a doyley.

I have seen one guy even model the air flow on his computer to find the right ventilation setup

I can only partially answer this. Humans cannot sense moisture on the skin, only temperature and tactile (e.g. something on the skin, or moving along the skin like a droplet)

Something that cannot transfer heat would, I assume, feel not like putting a hand in water, but rather something....else?

Tdarr is probably your best bet. Its main focus is video but it used ffmeg as the backend, so anything it supports is supported in Tdarr (theoretically)

https://home.tdarr.io/

You may need to configure ffmeg arguments in the tdarr step chain if there isn't a default step you can use.

I really like TeamCity from JetBrains. It seems to not be the most popular, but I think it's leagues ahead of Jenkins. Though, unlike Jenkins, TeamCity is not open source. For an instance with up to 3 agents and a maximum of 100 build configurations its free.

The TC devs have been incrementally improving a refresh on its UI called Sakura, which is quite nice but can also be managed using config as code which uses xml.