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What the hell is this community?? (self.whyihatemywife)

submitted 1 year ago by Rokil to c/whyihatemywife

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@[email protected]: go do some couple counseling!

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[–] Kecessa 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Or divorce, sometimes it's just not meant to be and it's ok, life's too short to spend it with people we don't appreciate and that don't appreciate us

[–] snakesnakewhale 1 points 1 year ago

Definitely not always an option for everyone, but if it's an accessible alternative to spending your life hating/being hated by a spouse then fuckin yeah

[–] Thaolin 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

While I understand a certain comedian has been in and out of cancellation, one thing he said years ago has always resonated with me: divorce is never bad news. Two people hating each other that decide to move on in life and try to be happy is always a good thing.

[–] prole 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The amount of people these days who are unironically supporting the position that divorce should be illegal, is extremely concerning. Some right wing influencer must have recently said this shit, because it seems like it has gained a lot of steam lately.

[–] Fibby 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Steven Crowder? Like 2 months ago he explained he's getting a divorce because Texas law "allows" his wife to leave him. I don't watch his shit but I'd imagine he's done more than imply divorce should be illegal.

[–] Zeppo 6 points 1 year ago

yeah, basically crowder was "my wife wants to divorce me after I treated her like total crap for several years! Divorce should be illegal".

[–] prole 4 points 1 year ago

True, that might be where it originated.

[–] Rokil 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

But for real @[email protected], I'm afraid this community will transform into some sort of hateful place.

[–] ratinatrap 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah I think I’ll just delete this community. Didn’t really expect this.

[+] WheeGeetheCat -7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Seriously wtf is up with some mens capacity to hate women nearly constantly, almost like its a hobby for them.

I wish they could live in a world where women commit the vast majority of violence and murder against them, then casually joke about it in popular online forums - just for a bit so they could grow some damn empathy.

[–] ratinatrap 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don’t know where you get that I hate women. I hate this one person who is making my life miserable. Would you say the same thing if I’m a woman and say I hate my husband because he does all these things?

[–] WheeGeetheCat -4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

meh, I've been on the internet a long time, I haven't seen women make a community dedicated to hating to their husbands, or doing shit like redpill, or the other disgusting subreddits dedicated to choking and hitting women on reddit that were all allowed to fester. I never see women doing that shit - thus my OG comment that I WISH you guys could feel the absolute constant background radiation of hatred than women feel.

glad you decided to delete this community because it is only going to draw men who want a place to hate on women

[–] Ookami38 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Honestly if you've never seen groups dedicated to misandry online you've not been paying attention.

To be clear I think this community is... Weird at best, but it exists on all sides.

[–] WheeGeetheCat -5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think if you go to google scholar and try to equate misandry to misogyny you will have a hard time. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14680777.2018.1450568

This paper explores the discourse of the manosphere and its links to online misogyny and harassment. Using critical discourse analysis, we examine the term misandry, which originates in the manosphere; trace its infiltration into more mainstream circles; and analyze its ideological and community-building functions. We pay particular attention to how this vocabulary reinforces a misogynistic ontology which paints feminism as a man-hating movement which victimizes men and boys.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misandry Even the wiki mentions this term originates with MRAs, not serious scientific discussion, and goes on to say:

In the Internet Age, users posting on manosphere internet forums such 4chan and subreddits addressing men's rights activism (MRAs), claim that misandry is widespread, established in the preferential treatment of women, and shown by discrimination against men.[3][4] This viewpoint is denied by most sociologists, anthropologists and scholars of gender studies who counter that misandry is not a cultural institution, nor equivalent in scope to misogyny, which is far more deeply rooted in society, and more severe in its consequences.[5][3][6] Many scholars criticize MRAs for promoting a false equivalence between misandry and misogyny,[7]: 132 [8][9] arguing that modern activism around misandry represents an antifeminist backlash, promoted by marginalized men.[8][10][11][12][13]

Furthermore, I invite you to have a scroll through this list of controversial reddit communities and see that the vast majority are men hating women, and that when 'feminist' communities are on the list it is usually for transphobia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Controversial_Reddit_communities

So, 'it exists on all sides' is about as useful as saying there's salt in both the ocean and in fresh water. Technically true but we are talking vastly different ratios