Parental unit
this post was submitted on 10 May 2025
111 points (88.8% liked)
No Stupid Questions
41714 readers
1299 users here now
No such thing. Ask away!
!nostupidquestions is a community dedicated to being helpful and answering each others' questions on various topics.
The rules for posting and commenting, besides the rules defined here for lemmy.world, are as follows:
Rules (interactive)
Rule 1- All posts must be legitimate questions. All post titles must include a question.
All posts must be legitimate questions, and all post titles must include a question. Questions that are joke or trolling questions, memes, song lyrics as title, etc. are not allowed here. See Rule 6 for all exceptions.
Rule 2- Your question subject cannot be illegal or NSFW material.
Your question subject cannot be illegal or NSFW material. You will be warned first, banned second.
Rule 3- Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here.
Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here. Breaking this rule will not get you or your post removed, but it will put you at risk, and possibly in danger.
Rule 4- No self promotion or upvote-farming of any kind.
That's it.
Rule 5- No baiting or sealioning or promoting an agenda.
Questions which, instead of being of an innocuous nature, are specifically intended (based on reports and in the opinion of our crack moderation team) to bait users into ideological wars on charged political topics will be removed and the authors warned - or banned - depending on severity.
Rule 6- Regarding META posts and joke questions.
Provided it is about the community itself, you may post non-question posts using the [META] tag on your post title.
On fridays, you are allowed to post meme and troll questions, on the condition that it's in text format only, and conforms with our other rules. These posts MUST include the [NSQ Friday] tag in their title.
If you post a serious question on friday and are looking only for legitimate answers, then please include the [Serious] tag on your post. Irrelevant replies will then be removed by moderators.
Rule 7- You can't intentionally annoy, mock, or harass other members.
If you intentionally annoy, mock, harass, or discriminate against any individual member, you will be removed.
Likewise, if you are a member, sympathiser or a resemblant of a movement that is known to largely hate, mock, discriminate against, and/or want to take lives of a group of people, and you were provably vocal about your hate, then you will be banned on sight.
Rule 8- All comments should try to stay relevant to their parent content.
Rule 9- Reposts from other platforms are not allowed.
Let everyone have their own content.
Rule 10- Majority of bots aren't allowed to participate here. This includes using AI responses and summaries.
Credits
Our breathtaking icon was bestowed upon us by @Cevilia!
The greatest banner of all time: by @TheOneWithTheHair!
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
'nit for short
Beep boop robo-Clay approves.
One of my friends has a mom and a nom. Works well enough.
Love it.
Short for mother and nother?
"oi! Fuckface!"
Sometimes I miss australia.
That would be fun at parent-teacher conferences!
I should call her.
my son calls me baba. i've met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol
Baba Is You!
That's very cute!
"Honored Ancestor" and "Blessed Forebear" are always appropriate.
I'm not nonbinary but my son just calls me Michael.
Which is odd because your name is Darrell.
What about his brother Darrell?
That cracked me up lol
load more comments
(1 replies)
My friend's father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her "Dad". Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.
I read the title as a programming question at first...
I’d imagine that this is something that varies from family to family.
Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It's going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.
If you know someone who is non-binary that's essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I've heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just "my parent". It's not a one size fits all situation.
I appreciate the thoughtful reply.
The words "mom" and "dad" are both derived from baby babble, syllables babies have an easy time making.
I therefore suggest that an enby parent should be a child's wawa
I like this. It would be awesome to be named after a gas station chain.
Show some respect.
It's a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).
load more comments
(1 replies)
“Commander”
If I were a nonbinary parent, I’d definitely go with “elder”.
People will think you’re Mormon
load more comments
(2 replies)
so I don't think it would come up with non-binary children
You'd be surprised 😅
I just mean that I don't often hear parents addressing their kids as "Son" except in '50s media! I'm sure it happens.
load more comments
(6 replies)
load more comments
(1 replies)
and what about enby grandparents?
Grandy seems an easy choice.
I was wondering the other day why gran is always the grandma not the grandpa
load more comments
(1 replies)
load more comments
(1 replies)
load more comments
(1 replies)
Probably depends on the kid. In the right house with the right mindset I bet parents could use first names. Otherwise it will probably be a special word to all of them, maybe something the kid calls them one day that sticks.
Maybe the parents will look to the internet or peers for answers and get stuff like "guardian" "my other parent" etc but ultimately the real question you should ask is how a child addresses their two same-gendered parents, maybe there's something to contexutalize there.
I was going to say it's definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I've often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like "mom" and "mama" or "dad" and "papa".
With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I've met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still "dad" to her kids because her role as a dad didn't invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I've known nonbinary folk who have kept "mom" or "dad" after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like "babi"). I've also heard people just using a diminutive of they're name, like rather than the kid saying "my parent, Sam" it becomes "my Sammy".
The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!
view more: next ›