dream_weasel

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[–] dream_weasel 1 points 2 minutes ago

Then Google it and catch up. Booker is kicking ass and you want a spoon-feed? Not from me.

[–] dream_weasel 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

This take is funny AF as an aero astro engineering PhD because, no, you don't graduate as a flat earther. People are not rational, as exhibited by the fact that you're super jazzed to provide turndown service to high school kids to bang it out all night long in your house and you think it's an A+ idea.

Go think about your life bro. Your shit is fucked up.

I even agree with you about religious perspectives, but holy hell you got some issues going on. You should get help.

[–] dream_weasel 0 points 1 day ago

Weird non sequitur. Maybe you can bring the fatal crash rate for teens vs failure rate for condoms? There's no substance here to reply to, and I have covered most of these in other comments in the thread. If you want to show a stat that shows you're more likely to die as a teen in a fatal car accident than you are to have a pregnancy with a condom, I'm listening.

[–] dream_weasel 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I made the analogies because I was out and about. Now I'm at a computer, so if you'd like me to be more specific I can.

The gist is a) tell your kids about sex and provide them contraception, b) give your kids everything in a) and ALSO encourage that to happen by co-sleeping them with their significant others, and c) you don't ever take your eye off your kids and hawk them so they go around you and don't trust you. I think a) is most sane. The rest of the contributors to the thread think b).

I'm making analogies because to me they are all the same. People will do this thing as teens, and it is a thing that are generally adult things because consequences are high. A) inform them and support them, B) smack them on the ass and turn them loose to do this thing, give them the supply, the coaching, and the location!, C) strictly prohibit the thing so your kids go do it unsafely.

It's not just a choice between B and C.

[–] dream_weasel 1 points 1 day ago

I didn't have kids until my 30s. There's a lot of stuff to do, and not everyone wants to be a very young parent. That said, I was sexually active at 17, but it was more special occasions than a regular affair.

There's always a risk of pregnancy and you don't know what your partner is going to choose, ESPECIALLY if you're the guy in the relationship. If a mistake happens because you sent your kid to the bedroom and now they have a kid, well, now they're an adult and out of choices. And now it's kind of on you. Teenagers can be responsible and smart, but that doesn't mean they've got the same perspective and clarity they have as they get even 5 years older. I support my children and want to be a safe harbor, as I think most people in this thread do, but there's a good reason not to encourage risky behavior.

[–] dream_weasel -1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

??? I had sex and told my parents. They didn't do me a solid and say "hey, your room is clean, come home and shack up, it'll be safe and I know you'd like a place to do it". There's a difference between prohibiting sex and giving the wink and sending them up to bed. Nobody is saying they gotta hide it, just that you don't have to turn down the bed either.

You can be a resource to kids and also just not give them whatever they want, even without estranging them.

[–] dream_weasel -1 points 1 day ago

How is it disingenuous?

Making it safe would be buying condoms for your kids. You don't have to watch over their shoulder while they watch a movie or whatever other things kids do. Have girlfriend come sleep in your kid's bed at 17 is absolutely saying ";) go do what teenagers do". That's totally different than safe. That's endorsing a hookup. Next GF same thing? Congrats, it's a hookup hotel.

[–] dream_weasel -1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Oh sure! Yeah buy the condoms, but the test kits, pick kids up no questions asked from anywhere. The thing about pregnancy is only one person carries a baby and you can't force the outcome on that person. That includes morning after pills, abortions, adoptions, or anything.

Providing the space IS facilitating though. If you send your kid up to bed with their sig other at 17, you KNOW what is coming. It's exactly the same as buying beer for your kid's party. They can and will find a time, you don't have to put a mint on the pillow.

[–] dream_weasel -1 points 1 day ago

Kids that have the presence of mind to ask this question are not raw dogging at the state fair. Getting to that stage is the good parenting part. You can even buy the condoms as a parent if you want. But that doesn't mean you provide turn down service, mints, and send them up to bed after dinner.

[–] dream_weasel -1 points 1 day ago (3 children)

That is a false dichotomy. You don't have to be a direct obstacle for sex or learning to be a person. You can be a realist about it.

So first, this is parent of a guy. This means if GF gets pregnant, you do not know what is going to happen. That's a life altering thing. This should be a huge consideration, and it's not a consideration that a horny 17 year old guy has a really profound perspective on. I remember what that was like, and that was the year I lost my virginity as well.

There are 3 choices not 2, and it's easier to analogize to alcohol, but it's transferable. I don't want to write a novel on mobile.

A) You are the house where your kid learns about alcohol. There is a safe environment and one time you buy a sixer and let them see what it's like to drink them. This is very sane.

B) You are the house where your kid (and their friends) underage drink. This is irresponsible. You do not need to provide alcohol to teenagers whenever they clean their room or whatever. "OH they are going to drink anyway, so let's be safe!" Yo... that's a nonsense argument. You be the parents that go make pickups from any place, at any time no questions asked. THAT is sane. Providing alcohol to your kids, or looking the other way when they drink on the regular is fucking nuts. That is what the comment I replied to sounds like. "You cleaned your room, sure, bring your gf over and bang her brains out. Good work champ.". Are you kidding me?

C) You are the house where booze is not allowed. You pour all the alcohol out in your house because you have a teenager. Your cabinets are locked. Whenever your kid is home and friends come over, you draw lines on the liquor bottles. You bust out your portable breathalyzer and you make the kids blow before bed and when they wake up. This is also totally insane. This is how your kids go out and make bad mistakes.

Your kids can (and will) have sex in your house without facilitating sleepovers, lol. You can be a safe harbor for discussion and mistakes without just serving up sexy time or any other vice in the name of being "approachable and safe".

[–] dream_weasel -2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

What the fuck lol.

How is pregnancy less serious than getting picked up for public intox or a ticket for underage consumption? That's a huge deal. If this is your daughter asking you might have more insight, but it's her body and her choice. Getting roped into being a dad at 17 is a pretty big deal. Like change-the-course-of-your-life big.

You can reasonably say that a kid will lose virginity and try alcohol or marijuana or whatever as a high schooler. It's part of learning who you are as a person. A parent should be a coach. That does not mean that you buy the booze, you buy the weed, and you send your son up to slam after dinner every time he cleans his room.

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Linux build guidance (self.pcmasterrace)
 

Today my PC finally ate it. No POST, no disk activity, so I'm pretty sure the mobo has failed. I built this PC 8 or 10 years ago, and I'm honestly too old and out of touch to know where to start on a rebuild lol.

I'm an arch Linux user, my job is in machine learning, and I'm looking at a soup to nuts style rebuild but I don't know where to start. I want as much future proofing as I can get and I'm happy with a budget anywhere from $2k to $8k. I don't game now, but I might want to in the future.

So it seems like to leverage good ML tools I'm locked to cuda, so probably Nvidia GPU. Does that mean 4070 Ti is the knee in the curve? CPU I came from AMD but I have no idea. RAM speed is something I have never ever considered. And mobo wise, I have a couple of M.2 drives now, but I'm not sure what else should drive decisions? 1 monitor currently that I intend to replace, so I'm not sure why I would need multiple GPUs or something that necessitates a lot of PCIe connections.

I want a plain old closed black case, no color changing gamer shit, and about as much computing power as I can get. Pcpartpicker came up a little short, how do I start?

I've got maybe a week of lead time, then I would like to pull the trigger. This whole build process was a lot easier circa 2003!

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Body shaving for ladies? (self.wetshaving)
submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by dream_weasel to c/[email protected]
 

So I've been wet shaving a long time and I'm pretty handy with a DE razor, a half hollow straight, and a shavette, but I'm at a loss for this one...

My wife is getting laser hair removal for several areas including Brazilian, and there are sone places she just can't shave. Apparently a wax is no good because they are basically destroying the hair root and follicle and it targets the melanin?

So, to the point, my wife took a shower today and did her best, then I took a quick shot with my adjustable DE, but the results were... not so good. I think this may be a shavette problem for control, but I gotta see what I'm doing so a thick soap lather cushion is out. Also there's some delicate contouring obviously which is pretty different from my leathery flat face.

The treatments are kinda pricey so it's important to get a clean shave, and anything she can't do is basically the most important stuff to zap... But I figure the first time I cut her or leave a nick I'm out. I gotta figure out the... uh... Front door back door problems because those are just not flat areas and the risk of failure or accident seems high.

Anybody got experience? Or ideas? Water-based lubricant was pretty decent (the third thing I tried) to help the shave, but tools and materials seem like important choices to make.

Edit: Mods I'd mark NSFW but idk how to do it. This is like my 3rd lemmy post ever.

 

I have been using the Kasa (TP-Link) branded smart switches around my house, but now that I have a few third reality zigbee sensors for my doors and so on, I am seeing the value of using more outlets/switches that act as zigbee repeaters. Do any of you have pretty reasonable (and cheapish) smart light switches or outlets I can invest in? The Amazon offerings are in the $50 each one which is pretty steep, though I guess I could just do one each room and do the rest with Kasa stuff.

I would like to expand the zigbee mesh network so I can use the devices where I actually want them without using smart outlet devices plugged into real outlets all over the place. If there was something that was $20 or less each item that would be super excellent. The wife and I plan to move in the not too distant future and I'd like to replace the "in the wall" stuff so that HA works throughout the house and I don't have plugs / dongles / wall warts all over the place.

Thanks in advance for any insight!

 

Really enjoying nvim-dap-ui lately, but I always have to adjust the sizes of the windows. The docs have left me high and dry so far, but maybe one of you have a good solution for a consistent layout when you first attach to a file?

 

I saw a post of the guy doing NFC to get various disney+ and Netflix shows. I've installed an integration with ADB... and have no idea how to proceed. Any of you have yaml snippets I can steal to that end?

I really want to be able to turn on the lights, turn on the TV, and start cocomelon for my daughter on Netflix in the basement as a one stop script, but I apparently am not smart enough.

The other guy link is in Reddit so I'm not going to link it but it is really easy to find on Google: an NFC card system for Netflix.

Thanks!

 

Or are you open to hearing all kinds of opinions?

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