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If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.
This is fiction.
It takes a lot more than 3 days to finalize terms of the divorce. It usually takes longer than that just to get both of your lawyers to look over and approve it.
Even if these two people are both lawyers, and decided to represent themselves, you’d need a notary present when you’re signing.
Here in Finland I believe there's a mandatory 6-month separation period before you can divorce.
But also I've had 8 beers a gross amount of rum and glög, an ambien or two and all the weed. So.. I may not be giving correct info rn. I believed I am, but you shouldn't trust me.
...you're boldly assuming they did it the right way.
Given that she's the type to take it all back right after it's signed, she probably just googled "real divorce papers" and found the best pdf and just printed it out.
More likely consulted chatgpt, both for relationship advice and divorce papers
I wonder how many relationships AI has already ruined
what if it was fiction from the beginning, but the wife did it as a meme.
Would explain the end of the post, at least.
Fully agree it's a fiction, but couldn't she have had the papers prepared weeks ahead?
Even if this guy was stupid enough not to run the agreement by his own lawyer, even if there’s no contested assets, etc, he still ain’t signing that thing without a notary.
Isn't everything on anon just fiction?
Probably, but this is lazy fiction. How long does it take to search “how long does a divorce take?”
Suspension of disbelief :)
Its like part of the plot of EEAAO. Where the husband gives the wife divorce papers in an attempt to get their marriage back on track...
What a sad situation. I know a lot of people here think this is abuse and I can see their perspective, but I see this more as a relationship lacking communication. The wife didn't feel assured that her husband loved her anymore and the divorce papers were a last ditch effort to see if he still does. Sure, just talking openly would be better, but goddamn is it hard to find people who can do that.
I think the fact that she broke down and tore up the papers immediately after is a sign that she really didn't want to do it and was reacting to his genuine reply.
I think OOP needs couple's therapy.
are you and the 93 people who upvoted you crazy??
lmfao in what fucking world is serving divorce papers and then tearing them up right after they’re signed not even just a little bit toxic, if not emotionally abusive?
maybe a fucking adam sandler movie but this is real life.
think before you do stupid shit? other people don’t owe you discretion bc you’re an idiot? “uwu but what about the wife’s feeeeelings????” brother man grow tf up this isn’t a high school fling it’s a marriage. if you wanted to pull shit like this, why did you change it from girlfriend/boyfriend to husband/wife? was that about feelings too?
oop shouldve ran when they had the chance and the papers were signed.
sorry as someone who grew up as a child caught between this stupid shit people like you piss me off so much. this is traumatic for all involved.
we did it guys, we found the REAL anon
> lack personal communication skills with wife
> casually post deeply personal and emotional stories on 4chan behind veils of text and anonymity
> oh shit am I neurodivergent and undiagnosed because I've never talked with a therapist
I wouldn't want to stay married to anyone who would play these kinds of mind games.
To be fair, it doesn't have to be mind games, she could have been in a bad place and somehow figured out for herself that the best thing to do was to end the relationship, but realised that she was wrong. There are people who genuinely believe that they can make other peoples lives better by leaving them (a kind of "you would do better without me, I'm only pulling you down" mentality), that could do something like this not to manipulate the other person, but because they actually care about them, but are in a bad place themselves.
Talking of course would have been better, but I have a sneaky suspicion that this was not the first time she brought it up. I think the first one, he didn't "care," and she thought making it seem more serious would prompt some action. I think she was hoping it would be a catalyst for talking/change and not just, "Well, it's been swell." Like, ma'am, he doesn't care. You told this man you fell out of love with him and he didn't seem to care. Then you present him with divorce papers and he signs them willingly, as well as saying that the bond is broken. You ran out crying because he's said very clearly that he doesn't care, doesn't want to "fight" for you, and did not react at all from the first time you brought it up until you gave him the papers. No "Oh my god, are you serious?" or "Can we talk?," hell, he didn't even bring up his own grievances. So now you take a nap on the couch, debating on uprooting your life for someone who at least seems vaguely interested in you, or staying with someone who is seemingly indifferent to you and your grivenances as he's like "lol, women are so weird" on the internet.
Again, not saying her actions were the most rational, but humans aren't always rational. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us and we just want to know that our presence matters, and that sometimes leads us to make mistakes. Sad for them both.
It's fake tho. I mean it's 4chin the wife is an hallucination
Even made up women can't escape the patriarchy! /s
Emotional abuse detected.
I mentioned it in another comment, but I'll repeat it here: This doesn't necessarily have to be emotional abuse. It can well be a result of the wife being in a bad place, having little self-worth, and convincing herself that anon would be better off without her. Perhaps anon's response caused her to re-think and reconsider, hence the subsequent breakdown.
I would leave Lemmy if it weren't for sane, rational people like you who have empathy and don't just jump to the most damning conclusions without any insight into the situation.
So... if anon took those papers and just taped them back together, would they still be legally binding if submitted?
Would this depend on the jurisdiction/country? I've never thought seriously about whether tearing up signed legal documents constitutes a refutation after they're signed. (a pile of torn-up papers doesn't carry any proof of which, either or both, parties agreed to the tearing-up). And thankfully never been in a situation where this question would arise. Also assuming 'tearing up' wasn't enough to prevent taping them back into a mostly-complete state.