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[-] [email protected] 97 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I think the hard-distinction that trans people have as putting themselves in little boxes like 'feminine' and 'masculine' are kind of harming the whole idea.

Having tea parties isn't girly. Playing with dolls isn't girly. Wearing pants isn't masculine. Playing in the dirt as a kid isn't masculine. They're just kid things. There's too much emphasis on what's boy or girl like, and people are convinced they're "a girl" because...they like pink? They like tea parties? They like the clothes that girls wear? You can still be a guy and like those things, those aren't "girl things", they're just things. I hate this idea that everything has to fall into one of those two categories, and if you like something from the 'other side' you're trans.

It's perfectly acceptable to like/do things that the other sex does, without BEING that sex.

[-] [email protected] 43 points 5 months ago

Yes. This is just gender stereotypes. Let's abolish gender stereotypes instead. You do you, fam.

[-] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago

Yup. When I was a teen I had a lot of dark coloured clothing, I wasn't a goth but my family thought I preferred dark clothes. I actually prefer bright colours, whether it's pink, yellow or baby blues. The older I get the less of a shit I give with expectations of gender stereotypes. I'm 27 and had my hair dyed bright blue a couple years ago and I got comments from middle aged men telling me that there was something wrong with that. I still get comments from the guy who lives across the road too.

[-] [email protected] 18 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I'm a Cis, straight man. Know what my favourite colour was growing up? Magenta

[-] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago

Objectively the most lit color in the CMYK color process.

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[-] [email protected] 68 points 5 months ago

I (cis male) used to have tea parties with my dog all the time. Had a little set specifically for it. Stop forcing fun childhood activities into rigid gender groups.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

Disgusting! You should be ashamed of yourself!

Giving a dog tea like that. It's bad for dogs!

[-] [email protected] 65 points 5 months ago

That's not a sign of being Trans, that's a sign of liking tea parties. Fucks sake. Quit shoving activities into gender roles.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago

Agree, that’s why OPs pov really tracked with me.

[-] [email protected] 61 points 5 months ago

Having a tea party isn't girly, though. Let kids play how they want.

[-] [email protected] 49 points 4 months ago

My daughter has a room decked out in pink, loves Hello Kitty and collects Raggedy Ann dolls. She also loves The Ramones and The Dead Kennedys and wears a leather biker jacket and spiked collars. And I love it all.

Fuck societal norms. Being who you are and doing what you want because you enjoy it is awesome.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

and wears a leather biker jacket and spiked collars.

Sunset Shimmer cosplay?

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[-] [email protected] 45 points 4 months ago

Ok, my youngest identifies as a trans boy and honestly I was so very surprised when he told me, because my concept of womanhood is so broad that it didn't cross my mind that anything they were doing was boyish. I just thought he identified as a 40 year old lesbian with dumpy style. I still can't quite see it, just a beautiful androgynous person with bad taste in clothing, and reasonably good taste in girlfriends.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Hey, you acknowledge him, and that's what matters. Good parent ❤️

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[-] [email protected] 36 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

maybe they just where tired of being taxed by the british without any representation in the british parliament?

[-] [email protected] 33 points 5 months ago

Yeah, I always found it interesting that society is in general headed for sex-(and IMHO also gender-)correlated roles ceasing to exist, and trans folks absolutely push that forward by unearthing the idea that gender or identity should have anything to do with what's in your pants, yet they also are often some of the biggest perpetrators of gendered identities.
Like, when a trans lady finds her identity and has come out, they often really enjoy the lady identity, so it'll be skirts and pink and all that jazz.

I guess, maybe it shouldn't matter. Maybe those aren't necessarily gendered identities, but at some point just an identity, which you can find neat. Like, we're giving up the male vs. female categories, but more in the sense that we're opening up the whole rainbow, and if your identity is hot pink, that might look like the traditionally female identity, but this time around, it rather just happens to be your identity.

Will still be interesting to see, if maybe some hot pink trans ladies will one day decide that actually this new purplish-green identity is my jam, whenever we work out what that looks like.

[-] Ookami38 23 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Did you know that a lot of ex-jahovas witnesses will go over the top to celebrate holidays? Most of them will even have one holiday they will pick as a favorite, and just go ALL OUT on that holiday. Holidays are considered a sin in JW society, and celebrating one is a good way to get shunned.

The same applies to trans people. If you've spent your whole life identifying with a certain thing, but been denied that thing because of some arbitrary reason, you'll almost reflexively 'overindulge' when you're able to finally just enjoy what you like.

It's a bit of a chicken and egg situation. If society just never cared, and let boys enjoy 'girly' things and vice versa, the situation would almost certainly be completely different. For one, they may never develop any kind of dysmorphia to begin with, but even if they do, they haven't been denied the things they want, so there's not the overcorrecting we sometimes see now.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

A met someone the other day who's son was rocking some pink sparkly light up shoes. Let's go!!

[-] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago

I love that gendered toy sections in stores are totally gone. There are just categories now. There's still usually a Barbie aisle because there's a million barbies and an action figure aisle because there's ten times as many action figures, but they're not separated into girl's toys and boy's toys like they were when I was a kid in the 80s. There was a boy in my elementary school who had a Cabbage Patch Kid and got made fun of for playing with a girls' toy. I hope getting rid of those barriers in stores has helped that sort of thing. My daughter didn't really seem to get the concept of 'this was a toy boys played with' and 'this was a toy girls played with' until she started enjoying going to antique malls.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

yet they also are often some of the biggest perpetrators of gendered identities.

You're reading too much into it. Society says that tea parties are feminine. Whether that's inherent to gender, or entirely a social imposition doesn't really matter. Trans people are NOT saying that if you like tea parties then you're a girl. But if you like tea parties, wished you could wear dresses, wanted sleepovers with the other girls instead of the boys, then that doesn't necessarily mean you're trans, but it might be something to consider.

Think about it this way. Trans people were denied the opportunity to participate in these stereotypically feminine things without feeling weird. And I don't mean weird because people tell you it's wrong to like that stuff. That's definitely part of it. But it also just feels like you're an alien. You may be participating in tea parties, and wearing dresses, etc. But even if that was totally normal, it would still feel wrong to be doing that as a boy.

I don't know if any of that made sense. But I think you see trans people wanting to be able to experience stereotypical femininity and misinterpret that as a desire to impose those stereotypes on others

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[-] [email protected] 25 points 4 months ago

I know I'm an extreme outlier here, but I've always kind of thought that assigned gender roles were dumb, that liking pink, tea parties, skirts, etc was never indicative of being trans or anything else. So I don't even think those are early signs of being trans. Because none of that shit matters. Everybody is just a person and the shape of their genitals doesn't impact their social or cultural behavior in any way other than how their parents force them to act.

[-] [email protected] 19 points 5 months ago

Straight cis dude here. Nana brought out the special cookies and some bitchin dress up clothes (including a top hat). Tea parties rock no matter what your orientation.

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[-] [email protected] 17 points 5 months ago

And I wore dresses because I wanted to look fabulous. Who doesn't want to look fabulous?

[-] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago

Why can't a straight cis male wear a breezy skirt? Why can't a cis female wear cargo shorts and have hairy legs?

It's not just gender roles, we have boxes to put people in for every way they might choose to identify. It's getting time to break away from all of that.

People need to stop worrying about what others do with their genitals or even what those genitals are. Doesn't matter for anything until you want to get into a relationship.

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Tea parties are awesome.
I remember one time, there were these sweet cookies made out of fat and flour and I ate a lot of them. Two hours later I vomited like crazy because of the fat.
Another time, instead of tea and those cookies, it was milk and jam. Same thing really, different flavours. Also the vomit was more pleasant to look at.
There wasn't an another time after that. I still wonder why sometimes...

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[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Tea parties are fucking awesome

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