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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 years ago (6 children)

Censorship. All the major subreddits became political echo-chambers. Reddit was founded on free speech and open discourse, especially when it was really uncomfortable. I'd love to see the same for Lemmy. Over the years I've seen authoritarianism creep into the moderation policies of most major subreddits. Today, even posting on the wrong subreddit is grounds for being banned from dozens of major subreddits. Even having a polite disagreement about, for example, anything to do with "trans," is grounds for being banned.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 years ago (1 children)

So the one thing on Reddit that you wish to leave behind is mods deleting transphobic comments? Lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

So the one thing on Reddit that you wish to leave behind is mods deleting transphobic comments? Lol

Would you please quote where I wrote that?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Can you be more specific about the type of authoritarianisms you wish to avoid?

Many centrist are closet transphobes and often use the verbage of authoritarianism as a dog whistle.

[–] bernieecclestoned 5 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I'm a centrist with a trans kid and no issues beyond worrying how they'll be treated by transphobes

Being a centriphobe is still bigotry

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

"Being a centriphobe is still bigotry"

Generally it's not bigotry when your critizes peoples choices. It's usually reserved for things people can't change. Like their race.

Example

"Centrist ideas are usually not well thought out"

See this isn't bigotry because you could have better ideas.

I'm glad your good with your trans kid tho.

[–] bernieecclestoned 2 points 2 years ago (3 children)

The Cambridge dictionary definition of bigotry

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/bigotry

the fact of having and expressing strong, unreasonable beliefs and disliking other people who have different beliefs or a different way of life

Beliefs can be changed. Beliefs are just opinions really.

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[–] Faendol 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I definitely get what you mean and I think the idea that you can get away with no censorship is naive. However, they could just as easily be talking about r/conservatives use of conservative only posts and their banning of anyone sharing opposing viewpoints.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I doubt it. Just the word authoritarianism has been mostly co-opted by the ultra right in American colloquialismz.

I don't know of many people on the left in the US that are complaining censorship.

[–] Faendol 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Idk I feel like I've heard loads of media call desantus and trump authoritarian. The don't say gay stuff is definitely censorship. I think the right just has an obsession with calling out BS censorship.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Yeah I guess your right. It does it get used by left groups as well. It's just different contexts.

Calling desantus authoritarian is accurate imo.lol

[–] TrashcanMarxist 13 points 2 years ago

Well what would you call a "polite disagreement"? After all if you're questioning the existence of trans people, no matter how politely you do it, you're basically being a reactionary and I don't see why that kind of posting shouldn't be banned.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm sorry I'm not sure how else to describe it. Trans people are those who believe their sex doesn't match how they feel inside.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I am aware of the concept of being transgender I am just wondering what your "polite disagreements" are with it

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago (3 children)

I'd say that a fairly debated topic related to transgender people, which isn't just transphobes attacking people trying to live their own life, is the presence of transgender athletes in competitions. Some will take it as a personal attack whether you take a side or sit on the fence. I'm not looking to start that conversation here, but yeah. It's definitely possible to hold a polite conversation about this while disagreeing on parts of the question. In a healthy space.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (21 children)

I think that after HRT the difference is not that big. Trans athletes may even be at the disadvantage since there are some cis woman that have higher than average amount of testosterone.

In the long shot I think it would be for the best to abolish gender based separation altogether and replace it with something more like weight categories.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

All good! Sorry for the paragraph. I'm just bad a writing short messages… 😅

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (7 children)

the presence of transgender athletes in competitions

I disagree, that isn't a "polite disagreement" and is, absolutely, "just transphobes attacking people trying to live their own life" as you put it. Every time that "Argument" happens it's openly done in biologically unfounded ways by people who simply don't understand how our bodies actually work- yet those arguments get mass upvoted by people who also don't understand how biology actually works and who believe that trans athletes get some insane, unfair advantage.

If you want to pass laws to restrict trans people from sports, then you want to pass laws to discriminate against trans people. That's not really up for debate IMO, it's a straight up fact; it's what you're doing when you advocate for laws that are not founded in science, that are specifically targeting a tiny minority for the chance that one of that tiny minority might beat cis athletes in an "unfair" way, you're advocating for bigoted laws.

Such arguments are also inevietably filled with people misgendering trans people, deliberately calling trans women "men" and hiding behind the "I'm talking about biology" argument to do so.

Replace the word "trans" with "black" and you'll find that people are making literally identical arguments to those against desegregating professional sports leagues 80 years ago. Literally word for word.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Are you genuinely interested or just looking to start a fight? I know recreational outrage is a thing on Reddit and I had hoped to leave it there.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

No I'm genuinely interested to hear your perspective and why it was a point of contention

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago (12 children)

No worries. Sorry for being defensive. I’ve received death threats before so you can imagine my reticence to speak freely.

Forgive the brevity. The topic is quite personal to me. I had a trans person in my family until recently. They committed suicide. I took it upon myself to research the topic to the best of my abilities. My current stance is that, while I support the right for adults to do with their body as they wish, I do not support the practise of transitioning children; be it medically or socially. In all my research I couldn’t find a single study, anywhere, demonstrating an objective quality of life improvement. These would be measurable metrics like:

  • Life expectancy.
  • Suicide rate.
  • Rates of addiction.
  • Health outcomes such as reduced rates of obesity and heart attacks.
  • Rates of crime.
  • Rates of homelessness.
  • Rates of victimisation (rape, assault, etc.).
  • Income.
  • Wealth.

It’s not for lack of trying, either. I’ve never seen so much funding go to any single topic in academia. Given this lack of evidence, researchers turned to subjective measures of improvement. The primary being “suicidality.” They ask subjects how they feel about suicide. This is an effective proxy for, “are you happy with the major medical procedure you just asked for?” Unsurprisingly, this is subject to enormous bias.

Instead, I found evidence that not transitioning is a much better, much more effective treatment for children. This study found that only 37% of children still identified as dysphoric five years later. This study found that 88% had desisted (they were no longer dysphoric). This mirrors other historical research into various areas of child psychology. Children frequently change identity and beliefs around identity.

The primary arguments appear to be, a) if we don’t transition children, they will commit suicide. As above, I believe this is false. The second premise is, b) puberty blockers are completely reversible. This isn’t true either. These are the expected side effects of puberty blockers:

Common side effects of the GnRH agonists and antagonists include symptoms of hypogonadism such as hot flashes, gynecomastia, fatigue, weight gain, fluid retention, erectile dysfunction and decreased libido. Long term therapy can result in metabolic abnormalities, weight gain, worsening of diabetes and osteoporosis. Rare, but potentially serious adverse events include transient worsening of prostate cancer due to surge in testosterone with initial injection of GnRH agonists and pituitary apoplexy in patients with pituitary adenoma. Single instances of clinically apparent liver injury have been reported with some GnRH agonists (histrelin, goserelin), but the reports were not very convincing. There is no evidence to indicate that there is cross sensitivity to liver injury among the various GnRH analogues despite their similarity in structure. There is also a report that GnRH agonists used in the treatment of advanced prostate cancer may increase the risk of heart problems by 30%.

Osteoporosis and diabetes are absolutely life altering. Sweden went all-in on "temporary" puberty blockers for gender affirming care until children started experiencing life-long injuries. They are now effectively banned for gender affirming care for children.

In one particularly shocking case, a girl who wanted to become a boy began taking hormone-blocking drugs at just 11-years-old. Almost five years after the treatment began, the puberty-pausing drugs induced osteoporosis and permanently damaged the teen’s vertebrae, severely limiting the teen’s mobility.

“When we asked him regularly how his back felt, he said: ‘I’m in pain all the time’,” she added.

Further, there is a growing body of evidence to show high risk of infertility after prolonged use of these drugs.

And these are just the dangerous irreversible side effects. The cosmetic side effects are devastating, and include men with child-sized penises and testicles, and women without breasts. This is one such case. The teenager had taken puberty blockers, resulting in a small penis. With insufficient penile tissue, doctors attempted to remove and use part of his colon to create a fake vagina. He died less than a day later from complications.

Ultimately, I believe I am very open to evidence. I have reached my position precisely by pouring over research. I am open to honest discussion and debate. I don't belittle or minimise anyone's experiences or beliefs. I simply want the best outcomes for children. For this opinion, I have been banned on many subreddits. I have been sent death threats. I have been called every disgusting name in the dictionary, and then more. I hope that Lemmy is a place which allows respectful discussion.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

@[email protected] this is exactly why tone policing is bullshit moderation policy.

Your modteam is allowing this transphobic screed to exist, and has in fact unbanned the user that posted it despite the very very obvious fact that they are a transphobe doing concern-trolling and "just asking questions" style veiled bigotry, while simultaneously banning everyone that has reacted to their behaviour by rightfully calling them the names they deserve to be called.

This policymaking is what results in people in the left calling someone a terf or a fascist getting banned while the fascists and terfs roam free. The site will be taken over by this and the left will slowly be banned and pushed out by it. The fact that the team can't seem to get into their heads that trans people might get a little fucking heated when bigots are allowed to exist and clearly defended by some of the incompetent members the modteam is another part of the problem.

You should get some trans people on your team to keep the rest of the idiots on it making these shit decisions in check. This nerd should absolutely be rebanned and every other person that copped a ban over this shit should be unbanned.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

ty for articulating this so well o7

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[–] ShadowAether 3 points 2 years ago

In all my research I couldn’t find a single study, anywhere, demonstrating an objective quality of life improvement.

You're saying you haven't found any evidence and that proves there isn't improvement but it's impossible for any properly done study to prove any changes to those categories. The simple reason is there is no environment that has existed for long enough to do a comparison. It's impossible to conduct a proper study on the life expectancy of trans people if they transition at 12 years old or 20 years old because the treatments have not been around long enough and people can live a long time. Even a study that tracks suicide rates over 5 years based on treatment type takes much more than 5 years.

The only studies that can be done need to use historic data and we can't change the past plus retroactive comparisons are super dicey and very prone to bias. Remember how dead patients were added post-moterm to that COVID trial published from Egypt which totally skewed the results? That study lead to large numbers of people taking ivermectin and fueled the antivax movement worldwide https://www.medpagetoday.com/special-reports/exclusives/93658

The absence of research studies can not be used to prove or disprove something and should not form your opinions based on this. As least people aren't trying and doing it poorly then people write catchy articles about it and it creates whole industries (I'm looking at you, nutritional science).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I'm not gonna lie, when someone calls out about censorship and not being able to talk about trans I'm inclined to think they're not people that have interesting to say.

But your comments is exactly how we should discuss a subject, thank you

Although I think that in an enormous community like reddit, YouTube, Facebook, etc. the moderation is necessarily a bit aggressive since it takes time to analyze the real intentions. And with the army of bots, and trolls organizing, or masking their intend behind falsely neutral point of view, it's easy to start blasting.

Still, I agree that lots of mods, drunk on power or following the subreddit trend was abusing and just censoring.

Ps: sorry my comment is not really a response to this one specifically haha

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

@[email protected] please reconsider reprioritizing civility fetishism, particularly in defense against transphobia. The course of events here was extremely uncool and is tantamount to making this space systemically transphobic.

All it will take to drive trans people off is for you to ban them when they defend themselves against transphobic hate. And all it will take for transphobes to make that happen is for transphobes to harass people here until they react. This pattern has happened many times on many platforms and I'm surprised if you're not aware of it.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

What the hell is this? Trans person here. This is not the thread to start concern trolling about trans issues. If you really want a space to talk freely about your concerns you can start a community or even your own instance.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (3 children)

That's the same here unfortunately.

It also sucks when you're not American, like Reddit auto-banned a load of Irish and Brits discussing stopping smoking due to the colloquial term there.

Unfortunately all these American-based websites really force the American views and positions on everyone.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Well that explains it. I'm not American either and I really feel like I'm being forced into their weird social war. I just want to talk about cool gadgets without some culture warrior banning me everywhere because I didn't show the requisite fealty to whatever the current thing is.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah, one thing I hope to leave behind with Reddit is every major subreddit farming outrage w.r.t. American politics.

It just became exhausting and made me unsub from a lot of the big subreddits. So far, Lemmy has been quite positive! It's refreshing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I don't know if it is true but I feel like Lemmy is not really USA centric at the moment. More like assuming that a user could be from any country. I think that we should keep it that way.

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[–] jackwebs 1 points 2 years ago

Hopefully with more and more instances located in different places around the world it shouldn't be too hard to find a community or communities that are not so US-centric..

[–] ShadowAether 1 points 2 years ago

I hate how their news tends to take over everything over there too. I remember knowing way too much about a certain US president and that was annoying

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Even having a polite disagreement about, for example, anything to do with “trans,” is grounds for being banned.

A subreddit I moderate, /r/moderatepolitics, has had to do a delicate balancing act around this. There are site-wide rules banning many statements around trans people, and the red lines are not well defined. Reddit's "Anti-Evil Operations" (site-wide moderation team) frequently swoops in and deletes comments that are offensive to trans people, but well within current political discourse in the US. That has undermined our mission of being a forum for diverse voices to hold productive but difficult discussions. At a certain point, we entirely banned the discussion of trans issues because one side was able to speak freely and the other side was walking on egg shells. I'm solidly pro-trans, but that's no way to have a conversation.

This likely was done to try to keep Reddit from becoming a cesspool like the "free speech" sites like Gab, but it has turned out to be a lazy way that short circuits necessary conversations.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (6 children)

There is only one necessary converation around trans people, in which trans people say, Let us exist without being harassed or persecuted, and everyone else says, OK. Anything else is just allowing bigots a platform.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You were banned for transphobia but were jUsT AsKiNg qUestIons, amiright?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Turns out when people complain about being censored and "free speech" it's because they got in trouble for not being able to call people the N word or becasue they want to "politely discuss" why certain people shouldn't be allowed to exist.

We should never tolerate the intolerant.