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I was there, I saw the thread. @TheDude, did you? It was pretty strongly in favour. Do we really need to keep waiting around to see if an instance administrated by a guy who wants to declare "cis" a slur is going to turn out okay?

https://sh.itjust.works/post/216888 for context.

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[–] Jumuta 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I really don't like this flood of "can we defed this instance because i don't like their ideology" posts.
Sure, you (and me) might find it offensive, but some others might not, and it shouldn't be us that get to decide what is right for them.

I agree that genuinely illegal/unethical instances like that anime cp one mentioned in another comment should be defederated, but I believe these political instances (exploding heads, lemmygrad, etc) should be federated with, and the user should be the one that blocks them.

Maybe this would be different if there were a lot of extremist instances that the user would have to block individually, but with the current low amount I think it's best to give the user the choice.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Allowing transphobic views to spread online makes people feel more comfortable harassing us in our dms, calling us slurs, and telling us to kill ourselves, or harassing us in public. Then they rally together pass laws to take our children away, throw us in jail, and ban us from recieving basic life-saving healthcare.

Edit: When it isn't banned, then we have to take the time to explain all this to the uninitiated and hope they won't ignore us or say we're being extremist too. It's exhausting. Banning it outright takes that weight off us. Case in point, the N word used to be a lot more common on the internet. Now far fewer people feel comfortable saying that shit casually, and we don't have to discuss why people shouldn't say it. The message is clear: act like this and you aren't welcome here.

[–] god 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I hear ya. Quick question, do you dislike Beehaw? I'm considering whether it's appropriate to promote for vulnerable people to join safe spaces like that, or lemmy.blahaj.zone. Those instances will defederate swiftly from instances with similar concerns for safety. There are many instances that are not pomoted as safe spaces, and there are some that are, and I'm wondering if the question of defederation could be transferred to a recommendation to join a safe space and not an open space where no such safeguards are set due to a higher preference for free access? Let me know what you think.

[–] chetchaka 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This is all easy to say for non-trans folk who aren't being targeted for the next genocide. If we allow users like this to hide behind crypto-fascist rhetoric, vulnerable minority communities will be overwhelmed and pushed out by the sheer volume of hatred.

I am completely unfamiliar with federation as a concept so there may not be a way to effectively moderate an entire instance consisting of several communities, but if there is a way to protect vulnerable communities without de-federaring, it needs to be done.

[–] can 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

This is a tough call. I see where you're coming from, I really do, but saying things like "target for the next genocide" really isnt going to win over anyone on the fence.

Edit: I do live in one of the most trans friendly places in Canada though. If you're from the southern states (or worse) I can see why it'd feel that way.

[–] socialjusticewizard 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have a non-binary kid. It's not an exaggeration or imagination. People have made death threats against them. They're under twelve years old.

You only think it's exaggerated because you're sheltered from it.

[–] can 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not saying anyone is imagining things. I'm very sorry to hear your child has gone through that but it's good you are supportive of them.

I'm not sheltered from it. Believe it or not I have enby and trans friends. I have heard stories, I know there are awful people out there, that's not what I'm saying.

My point is, as an alley, if I pause when I read it phrased that way, just imagine how the people who are already struggling to understand will read it.

You know what I mean?

[–] Oni_eyes 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You having those friends doesn't mean you're not sheltered if you live in a place where it's not happening as much.

You mentioned the southern states so you know what's going on it just isn't in your face or affecting you, hence "sheltered".

[–] can 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Well I've heard a lot worse from other continents, but call me sheltered if you want, miss my pont, that's fine. No I don't have a non-binary kid in the states, that sounds rough, I'm sorry.

All I'm saying is maybe on place like this with clearly more diverse viewpoints (a good thing) I'm mindful on how the "other side" might read those words and take the problem less seriously as a result.

I hope your kid is doing well and that you both stay safe.

[–] alp 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well, let us assume that there is an instance X that specifically ban any instance that contains historical stuff about Holocaust and how bad it was. The instance X may not contain any Nazi propaganda, but you know that they are Nazi. Would you ban them or not?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

If you really need to imagine such elaborate examples and have nothing to actual link to I think this issue can be put to rest safely.