Am I supposed to be spoon-fed only those ideas that some nameless, faceless entity deems appropriate for me to receive? Do I need someone to hold my hand and guide me around the fediverse, like a toddler in a grocery store?

If a community collectively adopts shitty or evil ideas, why would I want to continue to associate with that community? Why would I not simply leave that particular community, and focus instead on the dozens of others of which I am already a member?

Who better to protect the individual than the individual themself?

[–] sugar_in_your_tea -1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Exactly!

I left Reddit because I felt it was toxic and I really didn't like the direction the platform was going. If a community here on Lemmy goes bad, I can leave for another. It's not hard.

Moderation, IMO, should largely focus on removing trolls and reminding people to be civil. That's really about it. It's not their job to police a community, it's merely their job to respond to consistent complaints from users. I.e. it's your job to report people and posts, and mods should only step in if there are multiple complaints for the same thing.

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[–] sugar_in_your_tea 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There's a reason I'm here and not on Reddit, and that's one of the biggies.

I want to be somewhere where the community takes responsibility, not one where they just dump it all on unpaid mods.

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[–] sugar_in_your_tea 1 points 1 year ago

Well yeah, I'm describing what I want.

There are certainly instances (like Beehaw, Lemmygrad, and Exploding Heads) that are managed in a way that I'm not interested in, so I don't associate with them. If others want to, that's completely fine, and it's completely in line with other forums and whatnot.

I personally think that if lemmy is to truly succeed, it needs to be different from those other SM sites. If we're just a poor copy of Reddit or an overly complicated alternative to forums, what value does it truly offer? It needs to be different in some meaningful way, and imo that meaningful way is through community investment in the platform.

So that's what I try to do. I have contributed code to lemmy-adjacent projects, I have contributed constructive posts and comments, etc. I want this to be a real community instead of just another place to argue about pointless things. We probably won't get there, but that's what I want.

So please, if you just want to post memes and whatnot, Reddit is probably the better option. If you want to argue, go to Twitter. If you want to promote yourself, go to Facebook, Instagram, or Facebook. But if you want to help out and build something special, please hang out here on lemmy.

[–] eestileib 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Or if it clearly violates the rules set up by the mod.

[–] sugar_in_your_tea 1 points 1 year ago

Precisely.

But it should be on the users to report rules violations. I don't expect a mod to read through every comment in every post looking for rule violations, I expect them to mostly read reports and step in if something looks credible.

We're a community, so we should all help out.