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No.
Guess that would be a too big pill to swallow eh?
It boils down to misogyny.
So why do you feel that it's ok for your dad to have multiple wives, but not for his wives to have multiple husbands? Curious.
And there is your answer, the civilized world shouldn't care about what any religious text has to say about this, otherwise I could point at other religious text that says the opposite or encourages Muslims to be stoned to death and claim that should be allowed because it's in my sacred book.
We decided as a society that we will separate the church from the state, that way there's freedom of religion and freedom from religion, and this cus both ways, you get to practice your religion but you don't get to force others into things because your sacred book says so, and in exchange others don't force you into their sacred rituals.
If you can give an argument for why this should be allowed only for one gender that's not based on religious text or bigotry and respects the constitution (which in most civilized places says that everyone is equal towards the law) then I would love to hear it, until then the Quran is just a valid argument as the Flying Spaghetti Monster Bible.
In that they're not being "provided for?"
They're provided sex and usually a bloodline.
How are servants treated, as an aside?
In the way that they don’t get to choose if they want to stay at home and live a relatively leisurely lifestyle or work. That depends on the household.
Thank you for your reply. It seems we were saying the same thing. I'm not inherently against polygamy, but ethical polyandry seems more fair. I've never been involved in either, but I've experienced exes with side dishes, which is a whole other can of worms. Imo, it's sexual abuse in that it nonconsensualy exposes the main dish to potential STI, some of those deadly, and takes time and financial resources from the main to give to the side, whereas the main gets all the work and ill temper and the side gets all the benefits.
I've been voluntarily celibate for almost four years. I'm neither financially better or worse, but I enjoy a lot more leisure, peace, and have developed an close, accepting relationship with myself, God/the universe/divine/higher self (or however anyone else may view it), and am more accepting of the world at large, with the understanding I can work within limited means toward changing what I can that is important to me.
Most Western societies are much less explicitly based on religious scripture, though as others have noted negative attitudes toward polygamy may be rooted in Christianity. Some Western societies, such as the USA explicitly forbid establishing an official religion, but cultural norms are still based on the dominant religion.
Modern ideas about equality in Western societies are not based on a religion, but on how people decided they want things to work. Until about 50 years ago, women did not have legal equality in many Western countries, and a single woman was often unable to open a bank account, rent an apartment, or get certain jobs. A social movement worked very hard to change both attitudes and laws, and now the majority belief is more or less equal = same.
How does this work for people who are not extremely wealthy, such as members of your household staff?