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[–] [email protected] 148 points 1 week ago (3 children)

You should never propose if you are not 100% sure the answer is yes. You talk about it before. The only thing that should be a surprise is where and how you propose.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I agree, but I would also add "the particulars of when" to the list of surprising qualities.

[–] kambusha 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Proposal commencing in
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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

is that what you should or shouldn't do, eh?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

To be fair — if I talked to my hypothetical pilot boyfriend and agreed I would marry him and then he proposes on a flight he pilots, in front of all the passengers, I might say No no matter what we discussed previously. Because that would certainly make me question the whole relationship.

There can never be a 100% sure while the where and how to propose is still open, since it includes a lot of scenarios that range from uncomfortable to batshit insane.

[–] shift_four 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Hopefully your hypothetical pilot boyfriend would understand that about you before proposing and not do such a thing.

Presumably in the OP, he had a sense of what would be exciting for her.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

That was kinda my point. If you rely on the fact that your boyfriend or girlfriend understands you well enough that they wouldn't do a proposal that makes you feel uncomfortable, then them doing something like that might be a deal breaker or at least not an immediate yes. Because it would make you rethink whether they really understand you. But we're probably getting lost in hypotheticals here. As long as everyone involved in the OP was happy, I'm happy for them.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

By hypothetical do you mean AI boyfriend and by say no do you mean your just worried about the plane being distracted? It didn't go well for Bender I doubt it would for you.