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What discussion you know you are on the wrong side of? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Maybe you haven't been convinced by a good enough argument. Maybe you just don't want to admit you are wrong. Or maybe the chaos is the objective, but what are you knowingly on the wrong side of?

In my case: I don't think any games are obliged to offer an easy mode. If developers want to tailor a specific experience, they don't have to dilute it with easier or harder modes that aren't actually interesting and/or anything more than poorly done numbers adjustments. BUT I also know that for the people that need and want them, it helps a LOT. But I can't really accept making the game worse so that some people get to play it. They wouldn't actually be playing the same game after all...

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago

Okay, first of all, if you counted how many pronouns you use, per day, it would likely surprise you. Second, it once again, costs you nothing to use someone's pronouns after they've been identified to you. If you're arguing "it's not fair to be yelled at for something you aren't aware of" then that's completely reasonable.

If your argument is "I don't want to be bothered learning 3 new words in a language I've spoken my entire life," then I have no sympathy for you, and you're at best just someone who's disrespectful to those they (WOW I used they as a singular, THAT was hard, cost me $400 to write that just now) don't feel deserve respect. It's that simple.

If someone introduces themselves as Jennifer, and you immediately start calling them Jen/Jenny/Etc, and they ask tell you it's Jennifer, do you double down because, well, Jen is just easier, Jen is just easier, I'll just stop bringing up Jen.

Perhaps an undesirable outcome is that if the pronoun is a hurdle to overcome, it's easier for Bob just not to bring Sally up at all, a possibly unfortunate result because it might have been an interesting conversation that is now simply avoided.

And then you sit there, while explaining this to me, and act like what you're describing isn't blatant discrimination. The exact same "LoGiC" that has been used to discriminate against "difficult women," y'know, the ones that were sexually harassed in the workplace for decades.

How did the News react to women standing up against harassment and discrimination in the workplace? Oh, that's right, they said things like, "Well, now men aren't going to promote women into managerial positions because they'll be afraid of being sued! Now men can't even have conversations with their coworkers without fear of reprimand! Won't anyone think of how the poor men feel?!"

Notice a pattern? It's always the oppressed asking too much, because they don't understand the undo burden of checks notes for this discussion not harassing women and, wow, big ask here, using the names and preferred pronouns of your coworkers.

You're right, I didn't think how hard that must be on the average person, completely unreasonable ask on the part of the LGBTQ+ community, next they'll want equal rights under the law! Disgusting. 🙄