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I've actually seen the opposite happen more often than the former. Both online and irl. A guy starts complaining about things and a cacophony of women show up to tell him how he'll never understand what it's like to be a woman.
Whenever I do see the opposite and when the guy interjects all that's said is "there's a time and a place to talk about men's issues" but like when is it then?
Yeah I really don't see the situation in the comic often at all. I won't say it doesn't happen, but I've personally witnessed way more of this reactionary diversion when men are discussing their unique issues.
I think it is most often when these conversations happen online that vocal reactionaries try to derail the conversation. More often than not, local and private dialogues I've been apart of and around tend to be more civil. In fact, both men and women seem to be on the same side when they voice their issues to each other face-to-face. I think cameras can also sour the situation, since it can put people on edge to be recorded.
At the same time, while there is a massive amount of people who get behind feminist movements and those who back counter-feminist movements, there is very few of those same counter-feminists who seem to actually ever participate in man wellbeing support infrastructure, hence why that infrastructure does not materialize. It seems that a good portion of folks only seem to pipe up as a direct counter to women trying to advocate for themselves, and then are silent and frugal when men are trying to advocate for themselves non-adversarily. I'd argue there are many people who are trying to attack both as they try to uphold the status quo.
We saw this reactionary behavior against feminist advocacy during Gamergate, as a great example - specifically when talking about the events related to Anita Sarkeesian's 'Tropes vs Women in Video games'. I went back and watched that series, and overall the points are fair criticisms of videogame writing (and honestly tropes in media in general). I don't think that anything Anita pointed out was even that vilifying either. The overall response, however, was very toxic and dismissive, and was paired with a harassment campaign.
We saw a similar backlash from a vocal minority for most subsequent feminist actions surrounding cases of sexual abuse such as "Me Too" being countered by protests such as the "HimToo" movement. There's no reason both these conversations couldn't happen but it always seems that they only ever show up at the same time, and try to steal each others thunder.
We could also talk about the Depp v Heard court case, which had extreme levels of toxicity across the board, with large portions of folks on either side choosing to view one side as exclusively as a lying abuser and the other as completely exalted of any blame when what was being shown was an relationship full of mutual toxicity.
Remember The Bear?
Halsin would like a word.
You are showing exactly the behaviour that the meme is criticising.
No they're not. The OP's comic explicitly raised the comparison.
I don't think I've ever seen the opposite, where the dude is holding a reasonable opinion or complaint.
Meanwhile this comment section is an example of the comic itself
Go start your own thread then if it's important to you. That's the whole point, don't hijack the conversation. Sucks when it happens to you, don't do it to other people as revenge.
Not when women are discussing theirs. It's that simple.
It's like you didn't even read their comment.
It is very possible I misread it, my bad.
Man just going for irony right away, eh?
Probably not in the thread with the comic about womens issues being talked over by men, like you're doing now, would be a good choice.
EDIT: I'll eat the downvotes. Just wanted to say how embarrassing it is to be a man and hear 'but what about men's issues?' used in a non-ironic way. Sorry ladies, you don't deserve this crap. Also thanks for being the bulwark against fascism.
The downvotes are insane when you're demonstrably right.
There was a wave of, likely from reddit, 'mens rights' users who came over and this happens all of the time now. Any time a woman mentions issues with a man, it's "YEAH BUT WHAT ABOUT" as if the things can't both exist.
I mean look what they're upvoting: 'I saw a feminist say she doesn't care about guys, I super swear guys!'
It's just fucking embarrassing how childish they are. Not even childish, because children can learn empathy. It's as if they quite literally have zero empathy, and can only engage in sympathy with someone who is somehow similar to them. Like should I just post this comic here, the one we all read, as a reply to these people?
Irony is completely lost upon them.
The Bear incident made this plenty clear.
And they'll just downvote anything you say, because you're the bad guy now, regardless of what you're talking about.
I'm just curious what it must be like to be so fragile. It's like any time they aren't being directly supported they fall apart and lash out at everyone around them. The hardest part is watching women calmly wait out the guys' tantrum, then try to carefully explain to him (and in a way that makes him Feel Like A Man still, ever holding his hand emotionally) what is happening and they will still freak out.
It really is just embarrassing.
You are showing exactly the behaviour that the meme is criticising.