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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Dating is like that hill everyone has to climb to get to the top where it’s really nice. But the hike up can really suck for some people. I really really hated dating but had to go through with it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Yeah it's just impossible, still sucks though, I'm sure I can give love, time and affection to someone out there but I'm just trapped. And seeing the very few people that you know (even in your family, like your siblings) getting in couples and even getting married while being 10 years younger than you feels like being poked to death.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago
  1. Suffer through working life
  2. Retire, downsize, go see the world without having to convince a gf/partner

Nothing wrong with disliking dating, it’s a screwy social ritual intended to use a short series of interactions to determine if this is a person you could trust and genuinely like enough to share everything - including tough mornings - and compromise with for the next fifty years.

Works for some folks. Doesn’t work for others. I’m happily married, took a couple false starts and youthful indiscretions to get here - as well as the magic of the internet and some long discussions about relationships/commitment/poly/nonstandard stuff.

Works for us, maybe not for most.