OhNoConsequences

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/ChromeXBoy on 2025-03-30 18:35:30.

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/GamerGirlLex77 on 2025-03-30 16:08:47.

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I've been married to my 2nd Husband "Mike" for 4 years now. He's a jokester and loves to crack jokes all the time. He especially like to joke with my brother "Ethan" and his wife. Ethan used to be okay with it til he started complaining about Mike taking it too far with his jokes.

Some context about Ethan. He and his wife couldn't have kids so they adopted a boy "Joey" 2 years ago. Mike has been making silly, lighthearted jokes that involving Joey's bio parents as a way to mess with Ethan and his wife. I already talked to Mike and I tell you that he's 100%means no harm and he was just trying to get them to react.

So fast forward to NYE, my parents hosted a big celebratory dinner and Ethan and his wife came. While we were eating dinner, Mike decided to tell a knock-knock joke to Ethan. He said "Knock knock.." Ethan laughed and said "Who's there?". Mike replied "Joey's bio parents" then he bursted out laughing. Silence took over and Ethan's facial experssions changed. His wife called Mike an "idiot" to which Mike replied with "Hey...Relax it was just a joke". An argument ensued and dinner was paused. My parents suddenly told Mik to leave which I thought was too harsh. I tried to speak to them and get them to calm down but mom insisted that Mike leave. We left and Mike was complaining the whole time about how they overreacted. I called mom later and she told me Mike was out of line with his hurtful jokes about this touchy topic and told me I was wrong for defending him and saying he was just joking. She said he ruined NY for the family but I told her it was her and dad who ruined NY celebration for escalating the situation and kicking him out. I told her he could talk to them but again they were the ones who ruined NY celebration. She called me delusional for this statement and hung up.

We haven't talked to them for days. I tried contacting Ethan but no response.

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/Only_Character_8110 on 2025-03-31 14:43:27.

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I come from a big family. We are 5 siblings,2 sets of twins(50F-my sister (her twin died in utero),47M-me and my brother,42F-my other two sisters). We are taking about our biggest one. My parents were really careful to not parentify him because they both had the same fate in their family. They took good care of us,all of us have fruitful and satisfying careers. The problem is(at least for my sister) they didn't push us there. They encouraged but they never had the expectation. This was a problem for my biggest sister. She always found them "lazy and unmotivated" and she limited contact with us after she graduated law school. She has become a really successful lawyer,married to a renowned surgeon(who is my friend from medical school,a really ambitious guy who is also a real OCD) and had his son at age 32 via IVF,it was all planned.

After she had her son,aka my nephew,she started to push him really hard. She was trying to make him read at age 2,she sent him to piano lessons from age 4 and had 1-1 tutors since he was first grade. He was never allowed to have free time and every moment of his life was curated. The only time slot he had was Saturday afternoon and where he would visit my parents and we always planned events and free time for him.

His teenage years was absolute hell. He was forced beyond his capacities by my sister and BIL and when he was 16,he tried to commit suicide at the hospital BIL works at by stealing benzo from the nurse counter. After that,he had a good time in the inpatient ward(5 months in ward,3 months in a group home) and after that,he wanted to stay with me(I am the only one from my siblings who does not have a kid and I live with my husband in a three store villa so he can have the roof to himself) BIL had an awakening and he divorced my sister after this. Him and nephew had a year of family therapy and last summer he moved in back with BIL and he also decided to pursue medicine. (I don't live in US,medical school starts directly after high school and it is 6 years).

During that time,my sister really dug into her heels. She blamed us and my BIL for letting him to be "weak",she said he was alive and he had to endure this so he could become "resilient and untouchable". She said in the court : "I don't care he feels bad,this is life,you either climb the ladder or you fall down. If he fell down there is nothing we can do,life goes on." I never saw someone to look with pure anger like the head judge and he said "You are a really successful lawyer,I should give you that but you are really a terrible person and a being that can't be called a parent." and turned to my BIL and said "You need help,a lot of help."

Last January,my sister had a mini stroke(TIA) and she genuinely started to think about her life as I understood from my brother,who is the only one of us that checks up on her and last week,she tried to reach to my nephew but he directly said he did not care she was alive or not. When she tried to talk to me about that I briefly said "What were you expecting sis?" and closed the call. Now all of the family calls me an AH and they think I should have supported her.

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/GamerGirlLex77 on 2025-03-31 06:16:47.

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/kraefishie on 2025-03-28 18:13:31.

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/hmmmmmmpsu on 2025-03-28 03:08:35.

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I (25F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M) twice. The first time was at my parents' house, and the second time was in the woods behind my grandparents' house. I know, I know, it's disgusting and I'm ashamed.

He's usually the strong one in our relationship, always knowing what to do in any situation. But now, he's just distant. He's not responding to me, and it's killing me.

To make things worse, he's currently staying at my place because his is being renovated. I feel like I have a small window of opportunity to try and fix things.

I'll take any advice at this point. I know I don't deserve it, but I'm desperate to save our relationship. What can I do?

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/AnnesleyandCo on 2025-03-28 00:02:41.

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/hawkwardturtlr on 2025-03-27 18:47:12.

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I'm (25f) pregnant with my first child and only a few weeks ago my estranged parents found out about my pregnancy from someone I know back in my home town. They reached out so excited to find out they were going to be grandparents and wanting to be involved but I ignored them and continued ignoring them until two days ago when I replied one time and made it clear they will never know my child or be in our lives and that I wanted them to stop contacting me. This was all via email btw.

Let me get into some background. I have an older sister Sam (28) and she had a best friend Luna. Sam and Luna met in pre-k and became fast friends. Luna was over at our house all the time and eventually she started saying really awful things to me and bullying me. She called me names, mocked me whenever I asked if I could spend time with her and Sam, threw stuff at me when she'd see me and even made a game out of spitting at me and seeing how many times she could hit me.

My parents knew and they did nothing but once I was 7 they sat me down and told me that Luna had a bad time at home and she was mean but she needed us and I needed to understand. And how Luna was so important to Sam and she would grow up into a better person if we didn't abandon her.

She used to come along to extended family parties and dinners. I remember one time mom's side was all meeting up and because my parents didn't say Luna was coming we were a chair short for a bit. Luna took the chair and then said there was no room for me at the table just like there wasn't room for me anywhere and I should cry in a corner somewhere. Mom's family were horrified and I started to cry. I was like 9 by then. My grandparents ended up leaving the table and getting one for just the three of us and they spoiled me while they refused to pay for a single thing Luna consumed. They asked me what was going on too and I told them EVERYTHING. Afterward my parents got so much shit from mom's side of the family and my mom's parents contacted my dad's parents and they were shamed by both sides.

When they had enough of that my parents told Sam that Luna needed to come over less or she needed to be nicer. They sorta stuck to that for a while. My grandparents checked in on me weekly to see if my parents were "letting that spoiled little madam into the house to abuse me" and I think that was the deterrent for my parents.

But then when I was 12 my parents let Luna move in with us. They said her home situation was worse and she was going to apologize and we were going to make sure she felt wanted and welcome with us. I got a "sorry, I guess" from her but I could hear her making fun of me to Sam whenever me and my parents weren't around. She'd laugh about how I looked betrayed when my parents told me she was moving in. She found it hilarious.

I think you can see whose side Sam was always on.

I lived like that for a little over a year before it got to be too much and I told my grandparents Luna was living with us. They went ballistic on my parents and after weeks or months of fighting about it my grandparents insisted I was going to move in with them. My parents protested against it but my grandparents said they couldn't be trusted to take care of me. My parents wouldn't kick out Luna for me so yeah. I lived with my grandparents the rest of that time and I actually live in the same neighborhood as them with my partner now.

I actually had zero contact once I moved in with my grandparents. These emails were the first contact in more than a decade. My parents keep replying to that one email. I got like four within a few minutes about an hour after I sent it and they're telling me I'm taking this too far and they said Luna isn't even in the picture anymore.

AITA?

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/mermaidpaint on 2025-03-27 16:44:31.

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Alright, so I (32F) work in a corporate office and my job can be pretty demanding. Ive been at this company for six years and Im damn good at what I do. I dont mind helping out my coworkers, but recently, I drew a hard line...

Enter Sarah (29F). She started about a year ago and at first, we got along fine. I even helped her out when she was struggling to learn some systems and workflows. But as time went on, I noticed something… odd. Whenever something went right, she took full credit. But if anything went wrong, suddenly, it was my fault.

A few months ago our manager called us into a meeting about a project we worked on together. There had been a mistake...nothing catastrophic, but something that needed fixing. Before I could even open my mouth, Sarah immediately blamed me. She said, “Oh, I thought OP was handling that part. I didnt realize she missed it.”

EXCUSE ME??

She knew we both had equal responsibility, but instead of owning up to it, she just threw me under the bus. I stayed professional in the meeting, but after, I confronted her like, “What was that?” She just shrugged and said, “Sorry I panicked!” Bla bla bla

I told her that if she was going to pull that, she shouldnt expect me to cover for her anymore. She just laughed it off...

Welp, fast forward to last week, and guess what? Sarah screwed up a report. A big one. It was something she was directly responsible for, and if it wasnt fixed ASAP, it would make her look really bad. She came to my desk, all sweet and friendly, and said, “Heyyy can you help me fix this? I know youre really good with data…”

I looked her dead in the eye and said, “Oh, I thought you were handling that part.” And then I went back to my work....

She panicked. She ended up staying super late to fix it, but not before complaining to a few coworkers that I was being “petty” and “not a team player.” Some people agree with me, but a couple of coworkers (who werent there when she threw me under the bus) said I shouldve helped because thats what good coworkers do.

So AITAH for refusing to bail her out after what she did to me or should I have just let it go?

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/Fun-Needleworker9590 on 2025-03-27 12:54:26.

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My wife (32f) is very close to my (33m) family. We were childhood best friends, high school sweethearts and we've been together for 18 years now. They've known her all that time and my mom adores her and they're incredibly close. Actually my mom has a good relationship with all but one of her children's partners.

My younger brother's "Aidan" (29m) wife (27f) is the exception. Aidan married Gem last year. They dated for a couple of years before that. At first we all got along pretty good with Gem but she suddenly started being a dick to my wife. It started with very subtle comments that my wife said were nothing and I was just overreacting. While others would joke that my wife was mom's favorite kid, Gem would sound bitter and jealous about it. Then her comments turned mean about it. The jokes about it, which were never very frequent, stopped after that but Gem would bring it up anyway. Then it was comments about exhausting it must be for my wife to have so many people who want her time and attention. Those were sparked by my siblings partners also getting along with my wife, not to mention my mom and wife hanging out and then my wife and I have kids together. I asked Gem what her problem was, spoke to Aidan 1:1 as well and others spoke up in defense of my wife.

Gem's biggest issue has always appeared to be my mom and my wife being close. I don't know why it drives her crazy but it does.

Now Aidan's frustrated because Gem isn't included the way my wife and the other partners are. The fact mom will do days with her daughters in-law and Gem isn't invited. Or that my wife will do girls stuff with the women in our family but she doesn't invite Gem because eventually she got sick of Gem's shit too. She was better than me at brushing it off for a while but I think anyone would get annoyed by someone always treating them like shit.

So Aidan came to me hoping I'd advocate for Gem to be included. He said she just feels left out and wants to be included. I told him she has a funny way of showing it. He said she knows she messed up but to give her another chance for him. I told him I'm not going to advocate for his wife's inclusion when she was so rude to mine. I told him he needs to get Gem to make it up to everyone and work toward her inclusion or else she's staying an outsider. I told him I get that his loyalty is with his own wife but mine will always be with my wife.

He told me someone our side needs to try or Gem will feel like she's wasting her time. I told him it's not on me. He tried to pull some brotherhood crap and I told him to knock it off and accept my answer. Obviously he hates that. My wife said she'd have no problem if Gem apologized and actually stopped with her comments and she's glad I told Aidan what Gem needed to do. Aidan keeps telling me I was a dick and could've done more.

AITA?

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/ShinkenRed48 on 2025-03-26 01:54:49.

The original post: /r/ohnoconsequences by /u/GamerGirlLex77 on 2025-03-25 15:20:08.

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I am NOT OP. Original post by a deleted user in r/amiwrong

Post was deleted but preserved at r/AmITheDevil

trigger warnings: infidelity

mood spoilers: positive for 'Arthur'

 

Am I wrong for accidently getting my parents uninvited from my brother's wedding? - 19th July 2023

Back when my(25m) ex "Maria"(24f) and I were dating we set my brother "Arthur"(24m) up with his ex "Jen"(24f) who was Maria's (I guess now ex) best friend. Maria and I dated for about a year, and Arthur and Jen dated for about 9 months. We'd constantly do things together since Maria and Jen were best friends. Out of our little group, my personality matched Jen's the most, which led to us getting close. I felt so comfortable around Jen, and we both had a moment of weakness. We were at a party, and we did the deed. We snuck around for about a week before Arthur and Maria found out. Jen and I decided we'd be better together, so we broke off our relationship and started dating each other.

Jen and I dated for about 6 months, and it was amazing until I found out she was cheating on me and she left me for the other guy. I was heartbroken. I thought I found my match. I kept thinking about how good Maria was to me. In hindsight, she treated me way better than Jen ever did. I went to message her to beg her to take me back but decided to look at her Instagram pictures first and that's when I found out that her and Arthur had started dating in the 6 months Jen and I were together.

They've been together for 4 years, and I found out from my parents that they're getting married in September. It hurt so much finding that out. What hurt even more was the fact that I didn't receive an invite. I mean, I know things have happened between us, but Arthur and I are brothers. We're family. When I told my parents I hadn't received an invite, they phoned Arthur and tried to get him to invite me, but all that ended up doing is getting them uninvited. I tried calling Arthur to get them re-invited and to get myself invited but he didn't answer any of my calls. My parents haven't said anything, but I feel like they're mad at me for getting them uninvited from Arthur's wedding.

Am I wrong for accidently getting my parents uninvited from my brother's wedding?

 

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Dear god you expected the person you cheated on to take your cheating ass back and you're shocked, shocked to discover your brother doesn't want your cheating ass at his wedding. Go figure.

I’d bet mom and dad tried the “If you don’t invite your brother we won’t come” trick.

I can picture brother unemotionally saying “cool by me, I’ll save you to trouble of having to RSVP no. You’re not invited.”

They fucked around and found out.

I’d argue his parents ruined it for themselves.

What parents would petition the groom for an invite to the person who cheated on the bride and helped the grooms ex GF cheat on him? The betrayal is so massive. And NC and no wedding invite is the unlubed dildo of consequence from those actions.

To advocate for OOP is to take sides. And given OOp’s behavior, it makes me wonder if OOP is the golden child, or at least favored a bit more.

The Brother Responds

My brother slept with and ran off with my ex and now wants an invite to my wedding, getting my parents uninvited in the process - 22nd July 2023

Original post by u/throwaway6789123451 in r/EntitledPeople

I(24m) wasn't even going to make a post about this, but my brother, who I'll call Turk(25m), made 4 posts about it, so I thought I should share my side of the story. I'll use the same names he did for the sake of simplicity. My fiancé is "Maria"(24f) and my ex is "Jen"(24f)

A little over 5 years ago, my brother started dating Maria, my (now) fiance. 3 months after they started dating, they set me up with her (now ex) best friend, Jen. The 4 of us did a lot together since the girls were best friends. Turk and Maria dated for a year, and Jen and I dated for 9 months.

At the end of our relationship, I came home early and found Turk and Jen having sex in my bed. After I processed the situation, I called Maria because I'd want to know if I was in her place. She came over, and we confronted Turk and Jen. They dumped us, and I found out 2 days later, started dating each other. It broke me. I came home to find my brother fucking my girlfriend only to run off with her. I had to move back in with my parents. It was infuriating because they kept talking about how happy Turk and Jen were.

Throughout the next couple of months, Maria and I started talking. We were two people in similar shitty situations, and we found some comfort in each other. 4 months after we got dumped, Maria and I officially started dating. 6 months after we got dumped, Turk found out that Jen was cheating on him and she left him for the other guy (I actually only found this out today from reading Turks post). Maria would get the occasional message from Turk, trying to reconnect but she ignored him.

Anyway, moving on to now. Maria and I are engaged and getting married in September. My parents were invited until my mom called me and threatened to not come if I didn't invite Turk. I told her to not bother coming regardless. In my mother's eyes, Turk can do no wrong. When he fucked and started dating my ex, I told my parents everything he did and my mom tried defending him. Our relationship isn't the greatest but it was somewhat decent. After I uninvited my parents (I only uninvited my mom but my dad texted me and said he's not coming if my mom isn't) Turk blew up my phone trying to get ahold of me. This is the first time he's even tried reaching out to me in 4 years.

Like I said before, Turk posted about this situation here on reddit as well and apparently my parents told him that Maria and I were getting married and that started this whole thing of them getting uninvited. He's stopped calling me but he's blowing up my phone with texts begging me to re-invite my parents and possibly give him an invite.

So yeah, I just wanted to get my side out there.

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Your mom downplaying what he did to you is kinda telling who's side she's on. I've come across that piece. It seems in Turks eyes; he didn't do anything wrong either. And trying to get ahold of Maria is also trying to steal her from you...

You're better off without all of them from your life, moving forward. Good luck with your upcoming wedding.

Turks a dick.

You should give them invites but to a different location. Like a graveyard since he cant stop digging up the past with Maria. Just make sure noone gives them the real adress 😜.

That's a funny idea

Your entire family is toxic asf. How dare they take Turk's side?! At this point, OP, cut your losses. You said you're parents think Turk can do no wrong. That'll never change.

*They constantly disregard your feelings, which isn't ok. You were broken from witnessing Turk & Jen having sex in your f*cking bed! How could your parents think that's ok? So, what did they expect when you didn't invite your brother to one of the most precious times of your life?*

I'm proud for you for standing up for yourself & Maria. That takes a lot of self-respect & strength. I'm thrilled for you to have found someone who completes you. Let's go! You deserve happiness.

As I said, though, get out of there. More guilt trips & toxic behavior from your family will ensue otherwise. You deserve better

Thank you so much. I think this is the beginning of the end of my relationship with my parents.

My parents and I have a pretty rocky relationship since my brother can do no wrong in their eyes, yet I do almost all wrong in their eyes. They threatened not to come if I didn't invite my brother, and I said don't bother coming at all.

Flairing as concluded as it looks like 'Arthur' will be going NC with his parents as well as not inviting his brother.

Reminder - I am not the original poster.