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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/1RosaTorres on 2024-01-15 03:12:03+00:00.

As Tomorrow is Not Guaranteed

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/SocietyOfSideHustle on 2024-01-15 02:06:39+00:00.

This may not apply to all of you, but it may apply to a good amount..

If you're not where you want to be. Chances are there are things that are holding you back...

Maybe you have social anxiety?

Whatever that thing is or things are, identify them and work towards overcoming them. This process involves self-reflection and honesty. If social anxiety is one of the hurdles, start by acknowledging it and then take small, manageable steps towards addressing it. This might include therapy, joining support groups, or gradually exposing yourself to social situations. Remember, progress is often slow and incremental, but with persistence and the right support, you can move closer to where you want to be in life.

Stop taking things that could be changed and writing them off as them "being part of who you are"... It's not...All it is, is a part of you that you've refused to acknowledge and get proper help for.

A lot of you probably have goals you want to go after, but you'll never be able to properly pursue them without taking care of the parts of yourself that need healing and improvement.

So, if you have goals that you haven't went after yet... sit and ask yourself why... There will be a little voice inside your head telling you the exact reason why. Take a care of that reason first. Then you could freely pursue your goals.

Here’s my Favorite Discipline Resources

Self Development Snack Newsletter:

Chris Willx Youtube Channel:

Matt Graham:

Mel Robbins:

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/motivationswag on 2024-01-14 17:56:11+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Foxfully on 2024-01-14 17:54:39+00:00.

Hello!

This has been week 2 of my 52 week-long attempt to document my progress, in order to be more conscientious with how I’m living my year.

This week has been a mixed bag, but still managing to lean in a positive direction.

The good:

As I mentioned in my previous post, regardless of the quantity of goals I have, my personal key to them all is curb the perfectionism that’s always plaguing my life. This week I’ve been very conscious to do just that. Practically, that looks like allowing myself to ease into the projects and habits I want to establish rather than pushing high standards.

Even being aware of this, I have exercised more this week than I’ve managed to do in months. As always when getting back into shape, it’s been draining me more than it’s given me, but that’s to be expected. I still enjoyed myself, walking or running every morning and even lifting some weights (even though I didn’t plan to this week).

Diet wise I’ve also been doing quite good. Only allowing myself to get groceries once a week really helps with keeping unhealthy stuff out of the house. My sleep is slowly getting there as well. These are the foundational building blocks on which the rest of my goals can be built. Because when you have time but no energy, the time is automatically wasted. This is my main problem—I never have enough energy to do everything I need/want to do.

The bad:

I only studied and worked on side projects minimally this week. Again, this could be seen as good progress because I didn’t overwhelm myself from the beginning. But I’ve definitely slacked off in this department.

At times I find myself just staring into the wall because I know what I should do, but I’m completely unmotivated to start. With big projects like writing and YouTube I guess that’s to be expected, but I need to deal with that overwhelming feeling somehow.

I’ve also been slacking off on meditating. Next week I will force myself to meditate a bit in the morning after going outside. I guess this can be called “habit bunching,” but really I’m just so tired after a run it feels easier to slip into a meditative state haha.

Conclusion:

There’s a lot more that I could write, but in an effort to keep this post short I will save it for next week.

Now that my basic habits like exercising, diet and sleep are falling into place, this coming week will be focused on getting my studying, side projects and general life discipline on track.

Again, achieving all those with a perfect score is not realistic. But studying an hour a day, and spending at least one hour a day on either writing or YouTube a day shouldn’t be impossible. Even though I wish I could pull of 16 hour productive days like it’s nothing, I need to start out by just getting the needle to move at all.

I wish you best of luck with your coming week. Until then!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Nade4Jumper on 2024-01-14 14:27:26+00:00.

tl;dr: Read "The Drama of the Gifted Child" its a great book. Also mourn over the past

It always felt weird to me how people are always making memes about being a gifted child and failing, how people like doctor k are talking about that and how the entire symptoms are all very simillar yet I don't see any books really diving into the subject. And I never really connected to the entire "Motivation" part of most self help book. Like making a scheduale is cool and all but a scheduale doesn't solve your problem, and even if you do follow the scheduale (for me) it takes way too much willpower and it doesn't even guarantee I wont break down while trying to study.

But then a friend reccomended me "The drama of the gifted child" which resonated deeply with me. 2 things about the book though,

1. The book is Psychoanalysis book, and while it is totally readable to people who never dived into the subject (was the first Psychoanalysis book I read), I did find myself going to google and reading about few concept mentioned in the book (stuff like transference)
2. About the gifted in the title from the writer's mouth: "When I used the word 'gifted' in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb.... Without this 'gift' offered us by nature, we would not have survived." But merely surviving is not enough.

And while I really reccomend reading the book, for those who want the concept summerized (and please do read it because the book does way better job than me and in more details):

There is some kind of unconscious abuse that happens in our childhood that parents with narcissistic needs try to satisfy by using their children, and children yearning for love from their parents and physically and mentally dependent on them are adapting to those needs causing them problem in the long run. The book is talking about how realizing that and mourning for the lost childhood is the only way to truely get better.

And I can go on and on about how "narcissistic" is painted in the wrong light in the mental health conversation so me using the word here doesn't really do it justice and how abuse doesn't have to mean in that case the extreme connotation that it got but ill just say that those things are adressed in the book and reccomend you read it (for the 3rd time in this post I think)

The book really helped me understand how exactly im feeling, showed me where I am on the journey to feeling mentally better, outlined for me the problem and the general direction of dealing with it.

Personally I started trying to accept the overwhelm feeling that happens when I start studying, even crying if I feel like it (on the past and on how absurd the situation seems now) and sitting with the feeling, which did help me defuse alot of the tension

Anyway you are welcome to ask questions or vent in the comments or in my dm's.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/axiom_of_choicee on 2024-01-14 11:38:33+00:00.

Especially in two things: work ethics and financial support.

The thing with work ethic: I am doing my PhD right now, and I am doing the absolute bare minimum which in the 1st year is literally nothing at all. I attend all the classes I have to attend, but classes which are just highly recommended to attend (like seminars, conferences) I just completely ignore. Instead of reading papers which are sent to me, I ask around people to read it for me (and write their answers to my advisor).

Financial support: My family (i.e. parents with whom I live) is poor and in debt. I get some scholarship money from my PhD, but it's just a bit. I have lots of time available to go out and find some work (even if it's just a part-time job, or some freelance stuff).

In both cases, I am just too lazy to do all of that. Why? Because it lies outside of my comfort zone. It physically hurts and repulses me to go get the train to drive to my university for those extra classes, or to actually read a scientific paper. It hurts me to go through the stress of finding/establishing a job and earning money (as stupid as it sounds). I am such a stupid idiot that I'd rather choose to be in my bed doomscrolling YouTube, instead of helping my family or doing my work.

Two questions:

1. Why am I not feeling any kind of responsibility and the need to do something?
2. How can I change it?

I already got insulted a lot for my behavior previously on the internet (it's not the first time I've written about this, I just deleted my threads and comments) and it actually just made matters worse, and it demotivated the hell out of me (Why should I bother anything, if I am a POS for y'all?).

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-14 02:30:15+00:00.

Money can be made back.

Time is lost forever. Invest your time wisely.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Astrolux88 on 2024-01-14 01:05:27+00:00.

Hey everyone,

Trying to find some motivation or advice, maybe even some type of reason why I am like this. I need to get motivated. I am sorry if I sound like a whiny person, but I am not sure what the hell is wrong with me.

For starters, I have a pretty normal life. I work a typical job, have a wonderful wife, kid, etc; I am blessed to say I have no issues in those areas whatsoever. My main issue is myself, I am always looking for my niche, something I am good at, but once things get hard, I call it quits. I have no self confidence or motivation to continue my pursuits. I see everyone else finding joy in things: crafts, photography, baking, woodworking, etc but I feel like I am just not cut out for anything. Even when I am thinking of what I enjoy, everything feels like work, or just a chore/a pain in the ass. The only thing I really enjoy is reading.

Since I was a kid I had various interests and hobbies, almost to the point of obsession and then give up on them. Same goes for me as an adult. I try to do things and once I feel I am not good enough, I give up, it's the easiest thing to do, really. How do I get out of this rut or is there any way to find what I am cut out to do (hobby, interest).There are times I am motivated to NOT quit, but eventually do. I feel like now that I am in my 30's life is over, and there is no point to do anything else other than the automatic routines of getting up, eating, cleaning, working, chores, and sleeping.

I have tried over the years to bike, skateboard, surf, photography, poetry/writing, basketball, art, etc but I just feel like it's useless to try. I feel like progressing to get to where I want to be is more work than it's worth. Plus I am afraid of getting hurt. I recently got back into skateboarding after 20+ years of not doing it. I got really hurt doing a simple pop shuv it, and it's brought back the same fear I had as a kid when I did a board slide and broke my ass on a rail lol.

Either way, I get frustrated, scared, and want to give up. Another thing I do often in these various hobbies is compare myself to others and call it quits when I see how good people are at things and it almost looks natural or they learn it so quickly. It sucks because I will go into these episodes of researching something, becoming very knowledgeable on the subject, buying this or that, then when it comes to doing it if I am not good at it in say X amount of weeks or tries I find it frustrating, and give up. I think I am more in love with the IDEA of it, and the IDEA of succeeding than actually doing it or being dedicated to get to that point.

Furthermore, I am a pretty cordial person, but when something requires me to be around groups of people (surfing for example) I tend to get nervous and that also causes me to want to give up because I don't want to be judged by others. I remember when I was surfing I met some of the other people and they were all really nice, but I always felt alone, even when I was out there sitting with them on my board, I felt lost in my own world, far away from them and when it was my turn for a wave, I got up, fell down, and then paddled back and felt like a total loser and then went back to the beach and left.

Sorry if I sound like a broken record, I just really need some advice on how to combat this, how can I stick with something, how can I find what I am good at? The only thing I have actually got good at was guitar, I love to play and write music, but it's more of a personal thing. I played in a band for a bit in high school, but it never materialized into anything, but it was fun. I just find it comforting to pick it up, play in my room, sing a bit, and call it day, but I wouldn't say it's something I am passionate about as much as I used to be.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Suspicious-Term-7839 on 2024-01-13 20:54:22+00:00.

How did you dig yourself at of a hole?

Hey I’m F26 and all I can say is my life is an absolute mess. I feel like I’m trapped in a hole that I can’t seem to dig myself out of. My room is a mess. It takes me a month to do and put away any sort of laundry. Nothing is organized. I’m trying to paint a picture but I’m overwhelmed from even trying to do that. The hardest part I find is when I try to start something I seem to get so overwhelmed by all the steps I immediately shut down. There’s to much and even the smallest part I can’t seem to tackle. I also have absolute no self esteem. When I look at myself in a mirror all I can see is a very unattractive goblin. I feel so lost and I’m constantly stuck in my negative mindset. I have even gone to YouTube to look at videos on how to be positive. I just can’t seem to do anything that is good for me. I feel like an absolute shell of a person. I’m also a starting a new job which is great money but it’s very hard. When I’m doing it, I can not get stuck in my own head but that’s so hard for me. I just feel so lost. Any advice or encouragement would be so appreciated. I feel like a lost cause at this point but I don’t want to be one. In all of this at least I can say that I’m trying and part of me wants to hope. I want to be better. I really do.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/SocietyOfSideHustle on 2024-01-13 20:09:39+00:00.

the #1 reason people don't pursue their goals is simply because of one word. FEAR.

whether its fear of failure, or fear of judgment from others.

If you're scared to fail, not getting started will guarantee you failure.

If you're scared to get started due to judgment from others, imagine how they will judge you when 10 years go by and you haven't done anything you said you were going to do.

Because of how we're programmed, we're made to seek comfort and avoid risks, but this often leads to stagnation. We have to consciously push against this natural inclination to stay within our comfort zones. By challenging ourselves to take risks and embrace discomfort, we open the door to growth and success.

The thing is, it's often only the first fear we need to push past in order to actually see what we're capable of.. After that, you may have slight fear to start new things -- yet it will never be as bad as that first time.

So whatever it is you're scared of... push past it and see how much your horizons open up with opportunities.

Here’s my Favorite Discipline Resources

Self Development Snack Newsletter:

Chris Willx Youtube Channel:

Matt Graham:

Mel Robbins:

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-13 18:54:51+00:00.

If they are not living the life that You want, then their opinion shouldn’t matter to You.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-13 12:39:39+00:00.

The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Butterflies_Books on 2024-01-13 12:38:42+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/kodjima33 on 2024-01-13 05:03:27+00:00.

Hey Reddit!

My name is Nik and like all of you, I've been struggling with self-motivation for years. I've tried lots of things but found that group accountability works the best: you are most motivated when surrounded by other motivated people you respect.

But many times, my friends were busy, and when it happened, I got back into a "procrastination hole" because I couldn't keep myself accountable

My first attempts with trying AI chatbots

To solve that, I've tried Chatgpt to motivate me by describing how I feel and what I'm currently doing. For example, once I said "I feel like I don't want to do anything and so I'm watching youtube"And I got a super helpful response "If you don't want to do anything, try actually to NOT DO anything by staring at the wall for 10 minutes." - I tried it and it worked really well.

It worked so well, that now whenever I'm procrastinating or spending by scrolling stupid apps, I stop doing that and just stare at the wall for 10+ minutes. My dopamine cycle calms down and then I easily get back to work.

Trying Personalized Chatbot coaches

In some cases, AI was so helpful for me that I decided to create my own personalized "coaches" for myself based on people I respect. For example, I deeply respect Paul Graham (founder of top-1 startup accelerator Ycombinator) and I built my own "coach" Paul Graham who motivated me.

Even more, you can make your coach "integrated" into your life. For that, you can add a "listening" feature and just have it listen to your surroundings. You can build it yourself or use a publicly available chatGPT bot (not sending the link here because of rules, so let me know in the comments and I can DM)

I've been talking to my coach whenever I felt "down" or "demotivated" and it worked really well, but then my brain "figured that out", and I started to procrastinate even on opening my "coach chatbot"

I got into a "procrastination hole" once again for some time until I decided to try creating a "proactive" coach that would send me proactive notifications even when I am too lazy to "motivate myself".

Proactive AI Coach

So I built a very simple iOS app that would listen to whatever is happening around me and then send me a proactive relevant feedback like

• "hey I noticed you talked to much, how about we do some work"
• "It seems you are procrastinating again and watching something irrelevant, let's pause that for a minute and get some fresh air"
• "Yesterday you mentioned that you want to accomplish {X} today. How about we start the day with that?"

I gave it many specific prompts with a "mentor/coach personality" and uploaded motivational content. Also, I made this coach "educate itself" based on the things I say. The more I use the app, the more useful it becomes => After few days of use, some of the feedback was really good - I have been using it non-stop.If anyone needs it, can share the link to the app

To summarize, here is a step-by-step plan I'd suggest if you want to try my method:

1. Choose a person you deeply respect and are fascinated by. It can be someone like Usain Bolt if you are in sports or Steve Jobs if you are in business
2. Play with "AI chatbot apps" that allow you to create your own customized chatbots and create your own coach! Or use one that already exists.
3. You can personalize your AI coach by uploading quotes of the person you choose. Simply Google "{person name} motivational quotes" and put them into the Prompt of your chatbot
4. If you want to go beyond like I did, try to make a proactive AI coach that would send you notifications. You can send them either via messages or any messenger you use. You can start with "scheduled notifications" and then make it understand when to send notifications by itself
5. Even more beyound, you can make your coach "integrated" into your life. For that, you can add a "listening" feature and just have it listen your surroundings
6. Finally, you can buy a wearable hardware like a microphone or similar, connect it to your app and have it always with you => that would be a peak performance

I'd love to hear about your experience with AI coaches! And also greatly appreciate any feedback to my method and how to improve it. Thank you for any insights you can provide!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/jmh238 on 2024-01-13 04:41:15+00:00.

When I was a child, I watched my uncle spiral into crazy drug addiction. To see the affect that had on my family (parents/grandparents) was horrible. A good man, taken by addiction, with no return.

I have no idea where he is now, or what he is doing, but this was the catalyst for me to never touch drugs. And I still never have.

But, 12 months ago, it was like I had an epiphany. I was a "heavy-ish" drinker of alcohol, all around social settings - but these social settings turned into 4-5 days a week. Dinners, steak nights, pubs, bards, wine bars - you name it, and I found an excuse to be there.

It got so bad, that it was affecting my life in a very negative way. I destroyed 2 previous relationships, got fired from my previous job, and quit my other job because it didn't suit my lifestyle.

But this lifestyle was quickly becoming an addiction, and one that had been brewing for a long time.

I had just got a new partner, and she is amazing. But we had a fight in March, that would not have been a fight had I been sober - when I get drunk, I get argumentative and demonstrative. To see the outcome of this, and be staring down the barrel of another relationship torched, I decided then and there to make a change.

I am now approaching 300 days sober, am in a very happy and committed relationship, have started a company that I have wanted to start for years, and am about to launch our first product (it's an app). I have read close to 40 books in the last 12 months, have not been to a pub or bar, learned to code, got in the best shape of my life, and feel extremely fulfilled.

I am about to launch a weekly podcast interviewing guests about their struggles, and started a newsletter called The Champions Journal of which is scaling faster than I thought.

Essentially, I have discovered, at the age of 33, that you do not need alcohol to have fun, and to be happy. For so long, I thought I needed to drink - but I don't.

I'd love this story to be a source of motivation for people reading it. But I'd also like to pose the question - have you thought about giving up alcohol? If so, did you, and why? And if you have thought about it, but not given up, why?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-12 21:37:33+00:00.

Time is the currency of life; spend it wisely, invest it purposefully, and watch your wealth in moments grow beyond measure.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-12 20:51:49+00:00.

Gratitude is the seed for a happy life. Make sure to water it every day

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Glad-Room5715 on 2024-01-12 05:15:16+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Fabulous-Winner8340 on 2024-01-12 01:47:55+00:00.

I always did well academically and in my early career days I used to have what feels like infinite drive & motivation. Even maybe a little too much hustle sometimes, I would work part time when I was in uni, even though I didn’t need to. I worked crazy hours my first job, I even slept under my desk in a sleeping bag once - I cared so deeply and worked so intensely. I had big dreams.

I’m now in my early 30s, I have a good career, I recently bought a house, yay. I have a good relationship with my SO. Nothing to scoff at but my motivation is not what it was.

One could say maybe I’ve grown complacent but I wake up everyday and that intense drive and motivation I had back then, it’s now just a dim light. I feel like I’ve lost that person in me and I want to be as driven and motivated and engaged as I was back then. Maybe a little less intense but you get the idea.

My dreams have changed too. I used to aspire to want to be a designer, something exciting like fashion or something. Now I just work a cushy management job in marketing.

I guess I’m a little lost and need some motivation.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/cowinkiedink on 2024-01-12 00:08:34+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/vivid_gryff2040 on 2024-01-11 21:16:26+00:00.

I (37f) have been in a horrible depression for the last few months. I am on medication and in therapy but I cannot seem to make myself do any of the things I know would make me feel better. I don’t exercise, I have to force myself to drink water, I don’t get great sleep, I go days without showering or following any kind of routine other than rolling out of bed five minutes before work to log on. I work in my pajamas all day and I have given up on trying to even make myself presentable. I am about to be evicted from my apartment, which is a first for me. I’ve tried all local resources for assistance with no avail. My credit score is below 500 and I am terrified I’m going to end up homeless. I just started a good job and I’m paid decent money, but I am completely financially illiterate. I have two kids depending on me and it’s all I can do to take care of them and put on a brave face. I have no family locally, or support system whatsoever. My family doesn’t believe in “helping” each other (financially, or being emotionally supportive). I’m not a bad person and I know I’m in this situation because of poor decisions I’ve made (two failed marriages, moving to a town I know no one), but can I even dig myself out of this at this point? Where do I even start? I spend most of my free time mindlessly scrolling to escape my reality. Is this really all life has to offer?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/SocietyOfSideHustle on 2024-01-11 18:15:17+00:00.

Discipline is about doing something regardless of your emotions.

Some days you're going to get up and not feel all there... You're going to feel down sometimes. In other words you're not going to always want to show up.

So what's the most important thing? doing something you love to do. Or chase something that you love.

If you don't love it... when those negative emotions come up you're going to quit.

Discipline becomes easy when it's fueled by passion and a deep sense of purpose. When you engage in activities that resonate with your core values and excite your spirit, the drive to persist emerges naturally, even in the face of challenges. Loving what you do transforms discipline from a struggle into a rewarding journey. Your commitment deepens because it's not just about the discipline itself, but about honoring what truly matters to you.

Here’s my Favorite Discipline Resources

Self Development Snack Newsletter: https://selfdevelopmentsnack.beehiiv.com/subscribe

Chris Willx Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx

Matt Graham: https://www.youtube.com/@notmattgraham

Mel Robbins: https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/khaksar3g on 2024-01-11 16:01:34+00:00.

Accept people as they are, but place them where they belong. You are the CEO of your life. Hire, fire and promote accordingly.