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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/spiderinweb on 2023-12-30 13:05:11+00:00.
I hope everyone is doing well in every aspect of their lives. And if not, that's okay, I'm here with you, and we'll try to fix that!
I'll talk a bit about myself and my journey. I'm 24 years old and received my bachelor's degree in Bcom three years ago. Currently, but somehow, now am a developer and a writer.
I was never a hardworking student. My parents always told me that I was smart, but they never emphasized the importance of hard work. This led me to believe that I didn't have to work as hard as others did.
I grew up in a religious but happy family. My dad was the type of person who was as caring as my mother, who always tried to protect me. They both love me equally.
But as from a middle-class family and having an entrepreneurial mindset, made me realize a lot.
I had to learn these lessons the hard way, like many of you. However, I've learned a lot during these trials and errors, and I've developed a lot. I'm sure these tips can be helpful to some of you and can be used in your life to build a better version of yourself!
So here we go :
- Be grateful for everything and everyone
It's important to acknowledge what you already have in your life if you want to be truly happy. Otherwise, you'll always be chasing after something you don't have - and even when you get it, the cycle starts all over again.
For example, you might say things like "I'll be happy when I'm rich," or "I'll be happy when I pass that exam."
But the truth is, life is a journey, not a destination. You need to learn to enjoy every moment of it. To do this, try making a list of everything you're grateful for in your life.
Look at this list every morning and remember to appreciate what you have while you still have it. Don't take anything for granted - celebrate every breath and be thankful for the blessings in your life.
- The past doesn’t have any control over defining you
We all have made mistakes and have regrets in life, as nobody is perfect. However, it's essential to realize that constantly dwelling on them won't change what has already happened.
The past is gone, and it's time to focus on the present and future.
Do you really want to look back in a month, a year, or even a decade and regret wasting your time? Don't let yourself get lost in thoughts about what could have been or should have happened. Instead, focus on making the most of your life now.
- There are things you don’t have control over
During my last year's exam, I failed because I tried to control the outcome and wanted to be absolutely sure about it. However, this approach doesn't always work and can lead to increased stress and anxiety.
Focusing on things that you can't control will only make you feel worse and affect your productivity.
Instead, when you find yourself worrying about something that's beyond your control, try to let go of it and focus on what you can control in that area. This will allow you to be more productive and feel more in control.
- Love the person you see in the mirror
As I mentioned before, nobody is perfect. So why bother seeking perfection? We all have flaws and beauties within us.
If you are not satisfied with yourself, how can you expect others to love you? A bad self-image can be destructive.
Learn to acknowledge your strengths and let go of the things you cannot change about yourself. Believe me, no one will ever criticize you as harshly as you criticize yourself!
- Hang out with positive and successful people.
Remember, other people do not define you, but the company you keep can greatly impact your life.
As the saying goes, "Show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."
Surrounding yourself with positive and successful people will lift your standards and broaden your horizons. On the other hand, it is best to stay away from negative and small-minded people. Being around them will only discourage you.
If you cannot distance yourself from them, encourage them to change their perspective on life. However, do not waste too much time and energy on someone resistant to change.
- You don’t have to know everything
Believing that you are an expert in everything is a false notion that can lead to failure and distress.
Acknowledging the fact that you don't know everything can inspire you to continue learning and seeking assistance from others (not just anyone!) to help you grow and view your problems from different perspectives.
It's important to remember that you are not always right!
- Farming of the right mindset AKA Growth
Your mindset is everything!
Regardless of how much effort you have put in or what you have accomplished, without the right mindset, you will be back to square one as soon as the first setback or relapse occurs.
Instead of focusing on how much further you have to go, always reflect on how far you've come, practice positivity in every situation, and transform your weaknesses into strengths.
Everyone experiences setbacks and relapses, but the true winners are those who learn from their experiences and recover from them rather than wallowing in self-pity! Some people may equate positivity with being unrealistic, but it's important to remember that a limited mindset can make everything appear "unrealistic."
- Good habits guide you to a better you
Motivation is the key to getting started, but it's the habit that keeps you going. We all know what's good for us, but it's not enough if we don't make a plan and act on it. However, it's important not to overwhelm ourselves by taking on too much at once. Work on one thing at a time to improve yourself. As you progress, you'll become more disciplined and organized, and you'll be able to make faster progress.
Here are a few habits that can help you improve your life:
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Fix your sleeping schedule.
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Meditate every day in fresh air.
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Read more self-improvement books and avoid binge
-watching hours of Netflix or YouTube.
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Exercise daily for at least 30 minutes.
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Eat only until you're about 80% full, drink plenty of water, and avoid junk food.
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Limit your use of social media as much as possible.
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Start your day by completing a small task, such as making your bed.
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Plan your day in advance, even if you don't have many specific tasks to complete.
Use a notebook or a task management app to keep track of everything you need to do. There are many other habits that you can develop to improve your life. Make a list of the habits you want to cultivate and work on them one by one.
- Accept that you made mistakes, then forgive yourself, and move on
The energy in our body and mind is limited and there comes a point where it gets depleted. Constantly dwelling on your mistakes doesn't change the fact that you've made them, but it does consume a significant amount of your daily energy.
This can lead to feeling exhausted and unmotivated, causing you to procrastinate and put things off until tomorrow.
Remember that there is no such thing as failure or mistake as long as you learn from them and make an effort not to repeat them.
- You are the captain of your ship so take responsibility for your life
Many of us still look for something or someone to blame for whatever shit doesn’t go well in our life right?
But as long you realize and accept the fact that you are only the sailor of your ship, nothing will change your life, and if something does you won’t even notice it
Be completely honest with yourself and think about every failure and relapse that happened to you, were you in charge of doing it or did anyone tie you in front of your screen while threatening you with a gun, making you watch porn and masturbate? yep, that's what I thought!
I can guarantee you can find something you could've done better in everything that you failed at!
And even if there are some external forces and other things involved you still have full control over making your choices based on the situation, So don't lie to yourself!
- You need to consider side characters too
You should realize that every person that you meet is fighting a battle that you know nothing about! So don't be so quick to make everything about yourself, Don't judge people easily!
Learn to Listen better and you'll understand better.
- Fill yourself with humble
Life has many ups and downs so Never ever ever look down on anybody because you don't know how bad you may fall yourself one day!
Be kind, Forgive others, and help them without expecting anything in return!
I Promise It will return to you!
- Be in the moment, Best time to plant a tree is right now or 5 years later
To be honest I rather say only focus on your next hour!
You should have plans for your future and no one is denying that but focusing on anything more than your following day and hours has a great chance of stressing you ...
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