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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/icedlamps22 on 2023-12-29 06:10:03+00:00.
I don't know if this is the right place to post this. I just want to post this somewhere.
So basically I'm 30 yrs old and nuerodivergant among other things. I'm also developmentally behind my peers my whole life. Basically, I do things at a later age than most people and I know that about myself and my whole fam does too. My younger sibs got drivers license, cars, graduated college, moved out and married all before me. Its not bad and I know the type of person I am, just trying to give an idea of where I am.
But I'm also hard worker, I've been on dozens of job interviews and applied for hundreds of jobs in my life and worked at least a dozen different jobs. My friends from my hometown I've known since HS are also behind for their age, but they don't seem to have a disability and they don't seem to work hard like I do. Ever since HS it seemed like were stuck in childhood and I was a bit too. But now I want to grow up and it feels like my friends are stuck in their teenage years. I was living away from my parents but it was not a permanent thing. So now I find myself living with my parents again and between jobs. Its only been a few weeks, but I can already see how my friends are. I don't want to be like them. I thought we could do things together "let hang out and my place and apply for jobs or something etc. but they aren't interested and only want to "chill."
Some examples. These are all of my friends, siblings of my friends, or acquaintances I know IRL. Not just people I've heard about through the internet.
29yr old: had a temporary job that ended seven mnths ago and has not worked one day since. Only half heartedly applied to three jobs total since then. Has never moved out and parents pay for everything even tho they aren't rich and are struggling themselves. Has savings so that and not having to pay for much besides socializing are the reason they have not worked in six months. Biggest dream is to "not work" all day.
29yr old: has only worked (part-time) for maybe 4 years or so since graduating HS. Quit most recent job one years ago to play video games more. Also does not pay any bills or do much. Does help with grocery shopping, cooking and chores I think. But never moved out but wants to in the next 5 years. Told me "getting a job is not a priority."
27yr old: worked for like six months a decade ago and has not worked since. plays video games and sleeps 24/7 and that is it. this person is not a close friend in the slightest because don't have friends really. Covid lockdown was basically normal life for them since being 18.
25yr old: has a part time job after years of not working. but since its owned by family friend can get away with showing up late, call offs because tired, etc. basically only leaves the house to work and then plays games rest of the time. only got job because "it was handed to me."
I want to pay my own bills, and work hard and get married and have purpose and not just "chill" all the time 24/7. I want to be an adult and make it on my own without my parents paying for everything. I want to contribute something to the world besides a high score on a game.
I could go on there are more people like this. Kind of worried about my generation.
Idk just kind of venting and also don't want to be like my friends.
I truly love my friends dearly they are great people. But they have zero clue how the world works and are kind of lazy. I just want to do better for myself and not get lumped into their category just because I do things at a slower pace. I've applied for jobs I can't help it if they don't hire me.