Tonava

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 18 hours ago

Yeah no, I was ugly before and now I'm an ugly trans person. Being like this is obviously way better than how I was before transitioning for multiple personal reasons, but it's not some magical miracle cure to looks. I think people say that because transitioning makes them feel so much better about themselves, so they stop perceiving and judging themselves so negatively. The boost in confidence probably makes them seem "hotter" too, since people tend to perceive confidence to be attractive after all

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

As someone on the spectrum the way I've learned to deal with this is basically: A) first reacting empathically ("Oh god that sounds horrible", "Are you alright?" etc.) B) then bringing up relating things, but trying to always turn the topic back in the end so they can continue about their thing ("Yeah I once hurt my ankle, that wasn't fun. Your arm must hurt so much") C) trying to downplay the relating story a bit if possible is usually good, to make sure you're signaling that you're not trying to steal the spotlight ("It was hard enough just hopping around for months, I can only imagine how difficult it's to do stuff with only one arm") D) if nothing else seems to work, people tend to like being asked questions about them and the thing ("What did the doctor say?", "How long do you think it'll take to heal?")

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

That's actually a pretty good take on it, yeah. I certainly don't want to defend any loli coded characters further than noting the original parody intend there.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (2 children)

One punch man is a parody in it's core though, I don't know why people seem to take it so seriously. Even Tatsumaki can be read as making fun of the usual shounen loli character tropes, looking like how she does and being about thirty

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I didn't honestly even think about that. Being from the nordics means throwing them outside is the same as killing them most of the year and keeping them all out is kinda impossible, they'll find their way in because outside is cold

*(edit for managing to cut the text in half)

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (6 children)

They're actually pretty beneficial (eating other more annoying bugs and all that) and usually not harmful to human residents in any way (except if you live in Australia). Killing them because "aah yuck spiders!" isn't a good enough reason to many

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago

I’ve never understood the argument that you shouldn’t complain about the environment you interact with because other people interact with worse environments.

I call this the "children of Africa" -argument. Basically, it's an argument that you can never complain about anything or do anything to better something, because "some kids are starving in Africa"; someone always has it worse. It's purpose is to belittle and brush aside either the problem worded out or the person saying it (or both).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

The Finnish word for love is indeed "rakkaus" (I love you = (minä) rakastan sinua), for anyone wondering. With a hard r and two hard k's I doubt many non-natives would guess it means love

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago

The downside is, neither can any adult. I think the first name limitations should only apply to kids; legal adults should be able to change their names to whatever they want, no matter how stupid it is. It could only hurt themselves after all