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For example, people on Reddit asking redundant questions and give equally redundant or unhelpful answers.

Whenever every 'What's the worst show you've seen?' is asked, you'll get 10,000 "Kardashians" answers, which is just easy karma farming.

If someone posts in a community that's geared for something like opinions, but someone elects to just go on a full scale rant instead.

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[–] [email protected] 138 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (10 children)

Questions like “When you’re sexing some sexy sex, how many sex do you sex?”

Let’s keep the immature high school/sad old desperate man horniness out of here.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

Jesus, yes. I can't tell you how many subreddits got swamped with high-school leveled questions about sex.

Especially in TooAfraidToAsk, which is supposed to be about questions that'd normally be about trying to ask taboo things to get a discussion. But no, you'll come across questions like "if there is no porn to look at, what do you look at instead while jerking off in the shower?". Like, besides trolls, who the hell comes up with some questions like that? Let's not forget the abundance of people, showcasing the lack of sexual education, asking if they'd get HPV by doing this or HIV by doing that.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I feel bad because clearly these poorly educated teenagers need answers to these questions. But it really drags down the level of discourse.

And not just regarding sex, but any other "oh you're obviously 14" takes.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Adding to this, I'd love to never see the phrase "Sexy Time" ever again

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Ugh there are so many phrases I cannot stand from reddit. "thanks for the gold kind stranger" makes me want to throw my computer out of the window.

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[–] [email protected] 79 points 1 year ago (15 children)

Going to a sub of strictly like minded people and posting popular opinions for karma.

"Thanks for the gold" and other "Edit: this blew up" type bullshit.

Any time someone says "obligatory [anything]" I want to scream.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 year ago

Unpopular opinion: [incredibly popular opinion]

+67,000 upvotes

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[–] [email protected] 59 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Probably the biggest one would be needlessly hostile or mocking responses.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

Wow, this was my first thought as well. I wonder if it would help to have an etiquette manual with examples of how to disagree respectfully.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Shutting down questions with any variation "just Google it" It always irks me when someone goes "bro you know Google exists right" like if I wanted to Google it I wouldn't be asking it here

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sometimes the question isn't about the answer but about the interaction.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 year ago (10 children)

Centralization of anything. Powermods shouldn't be a thing, and major central instances are a bit sketchy too. No offense to ruud et al.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (7 children)

The problem with power mods is that it's a thankless job that people do for free. You're not exactly getting a line of people out the door willing to take up the mantle, so a small group of power users end up taking on more and more.

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 year ago (4 children)

There's two kinds of resposting:

"honest" resposting that happens when the OP hasn't seen his submission previously posted.

karma-whore resposting that happens when someone wants to get those sweet internet points.

Without karma the second one may not be a problem at all ¯\(ツ)

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (5 children)
[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago

Have an upvote and absolutely meaningless award in form of an icon that I need to pay for first. Kind sir.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Low-effort repetitive comment chains too, preferably.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

Long comment chains of song lyrics where each comment adds another line. They can fuck right off.

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I would say circlejerking. The Bean meme was very Reddit like, but maybe it is necessary to build an online community to have posts like that?

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I kind of enjoy the circlejerking to an extent. It’s like watching fads come and go in real time, and I like seeing these dumb memes evolve over a week or two before disappearing

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The bean thing felt very cringey and forced imo

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago (7 children)

How's about they stop trying to migrate Reddit subs over to Lemmy as communities? That would be nice. I don't want a Reddit substitute. I want a new thing that puts Reddit entirely in the past. I want a fresh start, not a Reddit clone. Reddit sucked for a lot of reasons. I could go on and on. Stop replying to comments with "this" as well. But, mostly, I'd like to see people from Reddit moving over to here with zero Reddit nostalgia. Say goodbye to your favorite Reddit subs, stop trying to re-create them over here in the Fediverse. Instead, have some imagination and create new, original communities and kick the whole Reddit vibe to the curb for once and for all.

[–] [email protected] 90 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Disagree — while the larger communities tended to get kind of lame, Reddit’s smaller communities were quite worthwhile. I want that to continue, just not on Reddit.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Edit: added a word and comma.

Edit 1: wow guys thank you so much.

Edit 2: Rip my inbox.

Edit 3: Ok guys Im going to sleep.

Pointless comment trying to be a contrarian to just add /s at the end.

Shut the fuck up

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The SFW porn network needs not to be called the SFW porn network. No communities named CarPorn or UniformPorn or, worse, AbandonedPorn or AnimalPorn.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Asking why they're being downvoted when they clearly have more upvotes. Also, starting a comment with "I'm going to get downvoted for this but".

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

With the first one, there are bots that will try to control the conversation by downvoting one side before people with a brain read the comments.

Usually, the person asking about the downvotes don't change their comments after the initial barrage.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago

[BLANKS] of Lemmy: "what's the sexiest sex you've ever sexed?"

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago

Having spez as CEO

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Power moderators. There is no justifiable reason for one person to own hundreds of major subs.

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[–] _haha_oh_wow_ 19 points 1 year ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Probably the weirdos that drown in an ocean of their own cum whenever a woman is mentioned.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (8 children)

That's just teenagers. They will arrive eventually if Lemmy gets more popular.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

/r/EnoughXSpam

What is the point of a community about hating seeing spam of a certain topic if all the community does is spam about the topic?

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This. So much this.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (13 children)

It's amazing for how much this place is supposed to be decentralized and open, hours much you all want to control messaging, themes, and already are having fight over fight on who to defederate from.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"You win the internet!" Anything "sir" or "gentlesir" leave that shit in the 2010s

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Cynicism and despair. There are no better words to describe reddit today than these two. Why do they argue endlessly over nothing? Because to them, nothing matters.

You can see that sentiment start popping up in the comments with the newest influx, but I hope sincerity will win out in the end this time.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Although I'm sure this is highly optimistic, I'd love to avoid the toxic behaviors that were free to grow on Reddit. The most hateful words I've ever read were on Reddit; I'm already seeing it happen here. It would be wonderful if discourse was welcomed here and promoted without all of the toxic back and forth. What was more harmful was a large amount of one-sided bans dealt out by mods of a certain variety. As long as the mods agreed with someone's stance it didn't matter how obscene a comment made, was. Let's try and be better than Reddit in more than one way.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I actually liked those, probably because I also do a lot of dad jokes irl. I didn't know so many people were annoyed by them.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

If this hasn't been said yet, "this is the way"

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