All true but the dysfunction starts here with making someone an enemy simply because they turned down your romantic advance.

I think that people are so quick to judge others because they're afraid to look inside themselves. If they did they would see that we are all the same.

"Remove the log from your eye before you try to remove a twig from your brother's"

No, this doesn't help. A specific person you care for can't be diminished into that general "attention" thing.

So you look at yourself more critically. Then something like what's described in the post happens, and then you still feel pain, but it's dull and you can't locate it, so to say, because in the universe you imagine after such advice you'll find plenty of reasons you are flawed and nobody should look at you.

And then after some time you understand that the pain is there because really everybody has flaws, "that other guy" included. It's just that you haven't been accepted and "that other guy" has been. Somehow your flaws were worse and your advantages not as significant as those of "that other guy".

And - everybody wants to be accepted, without being the best and the coolest. Just for being a human.

Or just like, don't focus in on one girl. Especially if she already said she's not interested. Try lots things. Meet lots of different people. Get a real feel for what you want, what actually works, and stick with that.

Don't you know how many terminally online incels there are compared to gamer girls that are into those types?

Most girls you can kind of get into gaming if they aren't already, by finding the games they enjoy.

But if gaming is the only interest you have, the conversations will quickly come to an end.

But you have to save those girls for when you need to spew toxic abusive shit at them for daring to be present in a space you feel you have ownership over. /S

https://youtu.be/46ms4LAhdrE?si=iewRBXdPj07Mo7e0

Weird comment, normie.

That word is used to express the feeling you get when some better socialized, but not particularly smart or competent or educated or understanding people disrespect your hobbies/expertise/opinions/feelings while you don't disrespect theirs.

I use it sometimes. More often in periods after once again forcing myself to believe that maybe I shouldn't look at people this way and maybe I'm wrong, and then getting wounded once again.

Such an NPC thing to say

Ehh, I mean I don't hate it as a term. Most of my friends are online, my hobbies mostly are too. Unlike 4channers tho I'm happy with my life, have a good job, etc. Still, I might refer to people who go hiking, watch Marvel movies, and so on as normies, or at least "normal people".

yep, checks out. i'm an idiot. 🙂

Unlike most redditors

i think it's almost worse that way, because they know what they're doing is wrong but they keep doing it.

If you don't know, it's you

Person not afflicted by porn addiction and not terminally online

The Harry Potter books call them muggles