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Am I the Asshole?

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The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Old_tshirt72 on 2025-06-26 22:21:28.

*WIBTA If I don’t tell them

I’m in the early stages of “recovering” from a hugeee drinking problem. I’ve been working with my therapist and although I’ve improved a TON, I still drink a little every day.

I’ve never been to AA, as I haven’t found a group that completely cuts out the religious aspect (the southern US, what can ya do) but as I said I’ve worked a LOT with my therapist, so I’m not trying to do this by myself. My friends & family are aware & supportive.

So, I don’t know if it’s just the shame/guilt/trauma talking, but if I still drink 1-2 drinks almost every day, do I need to disclose this to a stranger that might move into my apartment?

ETA: i don’t think I should live with someone who drinks heavily, so I would want to know this info. However it’s very personal so I don’t know if I would be an AH for wanting to know beforehand either?

It seems like a thin line between being invasive and also being important info for someone you live with to be aware of

ETA2: i don’t know how you get diagnosed as an alcoholic other than recognizing unacceptable behavior while drinking. My abusive ex is the only one that ever called me an alcoholic, and I do not take that accusation lightly, so I have been treating my unhealthy habits as addiction.

I have gone 1-2 days without drinking, or even wanting a drink recently. It’s a new development to not want a drink, but I would rather treat this as alcoholism than act like I don’t have a problem at all

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