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hi, I've been living abroad for 15 years or so.
if you want to move, you should move.
most countries have a very low cost of living compared to the US, so you can teach math or English abroad(what I usually recommend for first time travelers who want money) and easily save 1-2 thousand a month in a country like Thailand, which is very welcoming to trans people and has great, affordable medical care.
if you can get any remote programming job that pays more than $500 US a month, you can live abroad and immediately start saving any income over that 500, which covers your own apartment and food for the month.
and it is awesome out here in the world, btw.
you can live and save abroad for a couple years and if for whatever reason you want to go back to the US and buy a house, you'll have the money to do that.
I've helped other people move and would be happy to go into any details you're curious about.
Pay department for a big corporation or for any level of government could be an option
Have you considered accounting/bookkeeping? My wife has done it before and it’s not necessarily the most exciting work but typically pays pretty decent. She says it can be interesting trying to track down what is preventing the books from balancing.
Do you have to have a certification? I’ve done some accounts payable type stuff before, I just don’t know how to approach that field.
If you're good at math and good at explaining math, then statistics/analytics is a good way to go. You'll probably need a degree though.
Pharma/medical device companies, especially in new development need people to run the numbers from their experiments and then communicate to the higher ups and the business people "what do those numbers mean?"
Consulting for new drug development can be stressful, but it's interesting as you're constantly learning about new treatments and therapies.
Any stats/analytics field should be similar. All of the business grads know that numbers and data are important, but they need someone to interpret them and explain to them what they are seeing.
So, you have two goals: where to live and what to do.
For where to live - right now I live in Colorado. Colorado has one of the most sensible and competent state governments I've encountered. We have universal mail in ballots, decriminalized weed and mushrooms, and don't waste tons of money building 20 lane highways (relative to other states). But importantly, the state of Colorado provides income-based assistance for purchasing health insurance. You plug in your anticipated income for the year into the state's website, and it lists insurance plans you can buy at a state-subsidized rate. This year, I am paying $3 per month for health insurance. Plus, the Front Range has a very mild climate that is mostly comfortable most of the year, but you still get all 4 seasons, and we have beautiful mountains and no Mormons.
Wanting to buy a house makes things trickier. As a queer person, you probably want to live where you will feel comfortable and accepted. And as a not-rich person, you will want to live where you can get a job. These two requirements mean you will probably need to live in a metro area, which means owning your own space will be expensive. And the most queer-friendly places are often the most expensive places to live, since prosperity breeds liberalism. So, you probably need to make some money.
Your lack of ability to organize and plan will be a major hindrance here. I would suggest simply moving and picking up some straightforward dumb work to start off with. Just find somewhere you want to live, get any job, and start living a happier life first. I know around here it is easy to get work selling solar, setting up concerts (seasonal), logging (seasonal), or hanging Christmas lights (seasonal). The good thing about these jobs is that they fit your requirement: boss gives you a task, you do that task.
Mid term, I would highly suggest working through the issues you are describing directly. Executive function and people skills are probably the two biggest factors in getting higher pay in literally any field. If you can get those two things to an at least decent level, you could get a job developing software. Or else I have a friend who clears six figures tutoring college students in physics and math.
I don't have any advice to offer but I wish you success and happiness wherever you find yourself
Do you have a degree in stem? What about job experience?
If you can program, then there are remote jobs (although they are competitive) that can pay well. I dont want to dox myself, but the company I work for as a software engineer is trans-friendly and remote. What kind of experience do you have? I can try to submit a referral for you
If you are good at math and can program please look at being a cyberzwcurity professional. Its really good pay amd the more certifications you have the better the pay. You cam work 100% remotely and mo e to anywhere ypu want.
There’s no easy path to money. The higher the pay/skillset expected, the more demands in the interview process. It’s probably easiest to get an entry level job without a ton of math expectations
Consider focusing on being filthy rich and successful then quit about 20% of the way there. You'll be better off than you are now.
- Medical Coder
- Data Analyst
- Cybersecurity Analyst
Medical coder pays garbage.
Dude said easy and with health insurance, it checks the boxes. They may even be able to do it at home, without a lot of social interaction.
Paycheck to paycheck isn't easy. But I understand your point.
Do you know about actuarial sciences? Is maths, they kinda hard but they are fun, the day to day job is basically programming. Is a really high paid job and of you want ro leave the US, you would be able to work anywhere on the world because actuarians are missed everywhere and you're going to have top health insurance and benefits.
I'm an actuarie, I came back to collage to study it 8 years ago at 32yo and now I have a really good paid job, full health insurance for me, my wife and our cats. The home office is 3 home/2 office.
I don't know about the trans experience being cis myself, but I know a really good trans actuarie with a senior position in KPMG that I had the pleasure of being audited by her and it was nice.
The main contras of this job is that is in the financial sector, or worst in health insurance. I would love to get a job on our regulatory body, or in the judicial system (as an actuarial auditor), but those jobs are few and really hard to get (you basically need to be a lawyer on top of an actuarie).
It's game theory, so a little math and a little of this and that.
Are you young and healthy? Easy bet.
Are you middle aged and struggling? Difficult bet.
Are you old and in poor health? Easy bet.
Etc.
You can't have it all.
For example, there are countries that honor human rights very good, 100 times better than Usa for example, and everybody is like a king there. But where everybody is a king, there are no servants. Everybody earns average, with healthcare included, but only basic, and nobody gets rich. Appartement, not house. You have to be organized. You have to clean up yourself etc. and nobody looks after you.
For example, there are countries where you can be rich, and feel special, and have a nice house with several poor servants who take care of all your shit. But you can't be trans there, and only bad guys are rich there, and you can't be chronically ill or special needs, and maybe you can't even originate from Usa.
And then there are countries where you really don't want to go.
I recommend to get some of your issues solved and become stronger and then think again about moving.
What country in the world doesn’t have rich people and everyone lives comfortably in the “middle”?
I did not say that being rich were the same as getting rich.
I did not say that anyone likes the average.
You can't immigrate out of the US, most other countries don't have nearly as permissive immigrarion laws as the US, especially if you're not a refugee.
For the record, medical debt isn't real debt. Don't trust me, go Google around for it. Medical debt does not impact your credit score. So just don't pay.
Now, if you want difficult, go be an oilman. They make shit tons of money, and for good reason.
You can't immigrate out of the US
True. That's called emigration. Immigration is arriving.
most other countries don't have nearly as permissive immigrarion laws as the US, especially if you're not a refugee.
That's literally the opposite of reality. The US has a problem with illegal immigration because legal immigration takes years, sometimes DECADES, and costs thousands to tens of thousands of dollars.
As for refugees, the US has literally been criminalizing asylum seeking, which is a human right protected by international law that is followed by most countries, for almost a decade.
For the record, medical debt isn't real debt. Don't trust me, go Google around for it. Medical debt does not impact your credit score. So just don't pay.
Fun fact: over half of American personal bankruptcies are at least partly due to medical debt.
Bankruptcy isn't a magic reset button that lets you off the hook consequence-free (at least not for people with a net worth under $10m), and advising people to ignore debt is ignorantly irresponsible at best, malicious disinformation at worst.
True. That’s called emigration. Immigration is arriving.
Let me rephrase. You can't emigrate easily.
That's still not true, relative to emigrating TO the US.
Did you know that the mining industry in DRC is always looking for new employees? Could be a safe job with great benefits?
I’m sure they’ll tell you that there’s literally zero risk of a rock ceiling collapsing on your head. And what about the fumes from that odd colored pond? It’s just hydrogen cyanide. You don’t need to worry about that.
The drc doesn't have OSHA or any equivalent. America does.
For a few more months, at least..
If there are no safety regulations, there can be no safety violations. Everyone wins!
BTW I took a quick look at your history, and I can see that you like to take risks. Some of those comments are really spicy, and people have noticed. Let me guess, you’re using the kaboom account to channel your inner kaboom, and you have a different account for all the non-explosive ideas you share with the world.
Easiest option if you're great at math? Count cards at a high stakes poker table in Vegas.
I think it's a truism among professional gamblers that playing poker is a hard way to make an easy living.
I tought you had to play blackjack/ pontoon/ 21 to count cards?
I’m looking more Cauchy-Riemann than on the fly statistics.
It really doesn't take much math skill to count 5 cards.
Not to do it once but to do it for hour after for a hour whole tournament leaves a lot of room mistakes! That's what separates the wheat from the chaff.
If your poker table isn't dealing a whole deck every hand, you should find a new table.
Blackjack is for counting cards, because they use a continuous sleeve of decks. For poker, you have to read people.