The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/SpaceCowgirl935 on 2025-04-16 20:13:34.
Me (F24) and my wife (F25) were discussing the prospect of having kids sometime in this distant future just for fun, we both agreed that we’d both enjoy a little bundle of joy down the line and we started discussing what their name would possibly be. We thought of a few names but then we both settled on the name Arthur if they were a boy. This was just a fun little discussion we had with no serious implications but we both agreed that Arthur sounded like a good name and that we should put a pin in it for later down the line.
So every few weeks I like to have lunch with my mother who lives about an hour away. We were discussing the usual stuff like politics, my wife, and my job. Then the reoccurring question of “do you think you and your wife are gonna have kids any time soon?” I said “not soon but we’ve been talking about it a little bit and we really like the name Arthur if it’s a boy” my mother said that we couldn’t name our kid Arthur because my grandma’s sister’s abusive dead husband was named Arthur.
Now for context, I am lucky enough to have two sets of grandparents, one pair live in town with me and the other lives about 2 hours away so I’m not particularly close with them. This abusive husband is from the pair who lives 2 hours away who I’m not as close with.
So I said “I feel like grandma’s sister’s dead husband is far enough removed for me to “reuse” the name”. My mother said no and that was final.
We finished up lunch and I headed home. I later received a text message from my mom saying “do not name your kid Arthur I am serious on the matter your grandma might never recover.” I texted back that “it’s my kid and I won’t let a dead husband of a relative I’ve never met dictate the name, also I’m not planning on having kids soon so just drop it”
My mother left me on read and hasn’t texted me back. I feel like I’m in the right here and it’s not that deep of an issue but I gotta ask Am I the asshole?