alt account because this is MESSY
little bit of backstory, I (20f) have known this girl, we'll call her Amy (22-23F) since i was about 15, she is my stepsisters (19F) friend, well she has been with her now fiance, we'll call him Bob (22-24M). Stepsister will be referred to as S. Me and Amy weren't ever SUPER close but i'd consider her a good friend.
a few points to add:
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hes not a good partner to her, he has 1 kid, she has 1 kid, and they have 1 together, and if any of the kids start doing anything he doesnt like he tells them to ask her/he just gives the baby to her.
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he is still actively getting divorced from someone he hasn't been with for years
Lets go back to summer of 2023, i went to their house to hang out with Amy and S, and Bob texted me on snapchat telling me my makeup looked nice on me and i looked really pretty etc etc. mind you amy was pregnant, im uncomfortable at this point and i text my boyfriend and ask if he can come pick me up(i dont drive) and he comes and gets me. i texted amy and told her what happened and bob told amy he was "testing me" and that kind of soured our friendship because she went with it.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, she messages me and asks me if i want to be her bridesmaid, and i said yes because i care about her and want to see her have this big moment in her life!
As i got to thinking about it, i dont know if i'd be fully comfortable being around him after all of that and i don't want to ruin her day by being awkward and standoffish around him.
So, WIBTA for backing out?