The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/MaleficentSnow_ on 2025-04-16 05:58:34.
Hi!
I have been thinking a lot about this one. So I have rekindled with two people the past few weeks over text. Let's call them person A and person B.
Person A has been in my (online) life for 2.5 years now. We met online via Bumble and we have never met irl since he had troubles with his social anxiety and never really aligned in what we wanted at that them. I did try to have dates with him, but it just never happened. Fast forward we have had on and off contact via texting during the past years. It was mostly friendly and sometimes flirty and some sexting. The past few weeks we have had almost daily contact (with a bit of flirting) and he felt ready to plan something. We both talked clearly about what we wanted from this, which is no relationship right now. Just friends and go from there. Person A knows I also have a meet up planned with person B.
Person B is someone I have had one date with last year and he reacted to on of my instagram stories which is how we rekindled and since then we have had daily contact with flirting. This was three weeks ago. Person B is a planner and fairly quickly set a date to meet up. We also both spoke clearly about what we want, which is no serious dating right now. Just see where things go.
So this week I accidentally have them both planned, person A moved the date to this week because he couldn't do next week. Now person A started asking about how my meet-up went with person B and if we were intimate. I told him that we were indeed intimate and that I am open to meet up with him, but only as friends since I don't want to be intimate with more than one person. Person A is very upset about this and feels used since we also talk about emotional things.
Honestly, I do feel like I have made a huge mistake here but then again I felt like I had communicated it clearly to person A. What is the best thing I can do right now? I honestly never meant for this to get so complicated. AITA in this story and please be honest?
Side note: I did try to meet up with person A last year in august, but before we got to meet up I met my ex-boyfriend. Back then he also wasn't open to date, just to meet up. He was obviously also very pissed that he kind of "missed" the bus at that point. Which also plays into his anger right now.