The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/PotatoPluto789 on 2025-04-06 14:05:18.
This happened a few months ago, but it still pops up in my head because it was a confusing situation and I'm unsure if I was in the wrong or not. My friend likes to cosplay and they like to go to cons, so for one of the events they said on their Insta story: "If I went with someone it would be [insert random character] probably. My projects ain't ready." I've gone with them to events before and have helped them carry stuff and props because I like supporting them in their hobby and cons/events can be fun, so I interpreted it as them saying they would go as a character if they had someone to go with, and my brain assumed they needed someone to carry their stuff so I replied to the story with: "I mean I dont got anything to do tomorrow..."
My friend said: "Would u like to tote around [insert location] and hit up both the [random place] and [other random place]?"
And I said yes and so we made plans, and the day of, I was driven to their place because I don't have a car and the person driving me needed to go shopping nearby anyway so it worked out. Before my friend and I left their place, we were sitting in their car and they asked me to choose between two places and decide which we would go to. They told me they wanted to go to both but couldn't decide, and so I gave suggestions that we could go to both and gave pros and cons for both places to help them decide.
To me it was very abrupt but maybe it was not, but out of nowhere my friend said to me that I had hijacked their day, and I was confused so I asked how I did. My friend said I had invited myself and that they before I had asked to hang out, they'd already had plans for that day with their other friends. I explained that I had thought their Insta story meant they needed someone to help them with stuff because they were choosing a character to go as, but they said that wasn't what their Insta story meant and that it meant that they had been wondering if they should go as a character to the event.
I apologized after they said I had hijacked their plans and offered to call the person who drove me to pick me up because they weren't far away and would be fine with coming back, but my friend said it was too late and so we left for the event, but I felt really bad and confused. I asked my friend if they were mad and they said no, and then said they weren't surprised I'd done something like that (I think they meant inviting myself to whatever they had planned to do) and I asked what they meant by that. My friend said that it was just something I'd do or implied that it was in my nature or character to do something like that, and I was confused by that and asked them to elaborate but they didn't say anything further.
I ended up leaving the event early because I still felt bad and wasn't having fun because I felt like I was intruding kind of. AITA for accidentally inviting myself and hijacking her day?